My fiance and I just got married after 2 1/2 yrs of knowing/living together. His daughters approved of it and they love me which I am grateful for. One is 10 and the other is 9. I don't have any children from my past and my husband and I are 38 yrs. he gets his daughters every other weekend, and the second weekend out of the month a half of weekend and 2 hours during one day of the last week on a thursday. Anyways, just wanted advice as far as when it comes to diciplining the girls, if I have rights to doing that as long as it's with him or how other step-parents in my situation deal with this like me?
2007-10-11 12:12:20 · 4 answers · asked by jojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They will be visiting your house. It should be made to feel like there house too. Have you disciplined them in the past? You would do it the same way. There are rules to be followed and you and your husband need to agree on these and the consequences for breaking the rules. A united front is needed. You are lucky that they love you and make sure that you love them back. Don't begrudge them having a mother. Even those of us with children question how we discipline our children sometimes. They did not come with a manual. Do what feels right and do not be cruel. You do have a right to discipline them. Good luck.
2007-10-11 18:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same situation except we get his daughter EVERY weekend, because mommy wants to go out and party on the weekends. My husband works a swing shift and I have been the one who takes care of her. Her father and I (stepmom) have come to find a way to fix the "who should disipline her" problem. We came up with a so-called "guidline" of actions to take for what problems. That way we are ALL on the same page! Cant say it will work for all, but it saved us.... Good luck,... cause sometime I know I need it too.
2007-10-11 20:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how your relationship is with the girls. I mean you are their mother now..but it wouldn't make sense to disipline them as soon as you got married. You are entitled to disipline but if I was in your situation I would develop a better realtion with the girls. I mean like with a friend when your really close its okay to hit them lightly as a joke or something that you couldn't just do to anybody. When you do get to that stage, then I feel its ok tto disipline. Put yourself in their shoes, someone that you've known fokr 1-2 years as a friend is suddenly your mother and starts to disiline you. Thats my take on it and good luck!
2007-10-11 19:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by gurlie_gurl<33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two step sons (my boys) I love them like my own and one day the oldest hid from me at the store by the time I found him I was in a panic and I yelled and hugged him like I would have my own. Let your instincts guide you, you sound level headed
2007-10-11 19:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋