my parents talk crap about me all the time and no it's not true . so i quit talking to them. i feel i made the right decision i was wondering has any one ever made a desion like this before and have it backfire in their face?
2007-10-11 11:21:05 · 7 answers · asked by sassy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If anyone outside of your family treated you the way your parents did (making false statements about you), would you've quit talking to them? I know that I would, and I would feel right in making that decision as well.
We don't choose who our parents are. Life is short. Why stay in a relationship - any kind of relationship - if it's not a good one? If you want to try and repair your relationship with them, ask yourself if you really think it's possible, and if you could see yourself reaching a point where you were happy to be on speaking terms with them.
I have made a decision like this before, and it didn't backfire. It led to my feeling free and being much happier. Cutting ties with parents generally seems unthinkable or bad to most people, but it's your life, and whether or not you speak with your parents doesn't affect them. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
2007-10-11 13:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by Integrity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sons and daughters are guaranteed, along with raising them up with love and care, to have times of stupidity and crap-talk. It might backfire on you. There can be a time when you're not financially stable and there's nobody but your parents to help you, then you've got no choice but face the awkwardness. Plus, if you care about them still, after all the memories you have formed together, it might hurt in 'the end'. Can't you at least be civil with them? Like talk to them every now and then, but don't share anything with them or talk about anything on an emotional scale, if what they're saying is that horrible.
2007-10-11 11:45:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you mean by talking crap, and you say it's not true, but If they are treating you badly, and you have confronted them with the fact, and nothing has been resolved, then in order not to get hurt, you do what you think is necessary. Let's hope with time your parents will know that what they are saying, is not true, so give them some time, and then stop by and talk to them. If the abuse starts all over again, then stay away and let them come to you.
2007-10-11 11:40:05 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents will talk crap about their kids at times, if they are fed up, what made them feel this way. parents love their children no matter what, they may be angry with you about something, however they won't stop loving you. What purpose is it by not talking to them. it's obvious it's bothering you and it's on your mind. They will wait for you, that's what parents do, they are giving you space. Lift up the phone or go see them. You need to.
2007-10-11 11:34:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure. I don't want to put you down because sometimes this can be the rite choice, but I'll tell you what happened to me. It just so happened that rite after I left, it was the time I needed my parents the most, at my uncle's funeral. I realy needed a shoulder to cry on but I didn't have one. Til' this day my parents won't talk to me, and I'm glad. Because I did this for myself.
2007-10-11 11:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is the worst decision anyone can make!! Honestly, does it help to walk away from a problem and never do anything about it ?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!!!!!!! Come on!!!! Just talk to them... See how it goes you are making a bad decision! Trust me on this one
2007-10-11 11:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by livleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know something here is not quite right....take a good look at yourself...
I just can't see 2 parents saying bad things that were not true....
something happened that we don't hear...
remember it will be too late to talk to them when they are lying in a coffin...no word spoken will be heard....no love will be recieved..
don't wait too long ...go to them now and say "I am sorry for the pain I have caused"..regardless of who is the blame...and start with a fresh relationship with them..it may take awhile for them to trust you with their hearts again..but being their son and loving you they will soften...
remember the Bible says to "Honor Thy Father and Mother"..not my words ...
they raised you and may say things you don't agree with....but they are disappointed and still love you very much..one thing a "parent" can't do is turn off their love for their own child..can you turn off your love for them after them raising you????...I pray not...please let the Lord lead you back to them and have "respect" for them both and you will see a big difference not only in them but also in yourself!...God bless
2007-10-11 15:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by cecstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋