So i am in the popular/ preppy crowd half because i'm rich... but my mom lost her job a month ago, and we lost most of our money too... so we had to move into this development called Logan's Point, if you have low incom you stay there, and it is super small, but it's nice, but now i'm afraid what my friends will say... HELP, i think we'll be living here awhile! :( My life is about to be ruined because of this!!!!
2007-10-11 16:30:54 · 18 answers · asked by ~FREE SPIRITED~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No sweetie you're life won't be ruined it'll be different. If you like where you live that's all that matters, and if you're friends are truly you're friends how much money you make and where you live won't matter. Don't get too caught up in any group. You're real friends are your friends no matter what. Having a low income is a lot to get used to honey, but you'll cope and later in life you'll learn how to manage. Everything happens for a reason, and this has happened to you for a reason. Maybe to humble you. Let them know, and if they do disown you or make you feel like you're lower than them because of the money you don't have or where you live, they're not your friends and don't even waste your time crying over them or even being around them. Sometimes it takes walking alone to find true and good friends. Being popular may seem like the most important thing now, but once you leave school you don't get a popular check in the mail. No one will care what group you were in. So learn in school, and a good friend will come along, just make sure you know how to treat and accept them. Even if they aren't popular, and even if they don't make a lot of money. Good luck sweetie.
2007-10-11 16:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your life is not going to be ruined because of this. Your friends should not think anything about it. Friends are to be there for you through thick and thin. A real friend would not care where you live. People should not be judged by their social status and their income. That is very shallow. It might seem like the end of the world right now but it is not. Be there for your mom and do not complain too much about your situation. I am sure that she does not like it either. You are still the same person that you were a month ago. I hope that you do not judge people by where they live and what they earn. If you do it is a good time to put yourself in someone elses shoes. I hope that your friends are there for you during this stressful time. If they are not they were not real friends and you should look else where for some. Good luck to you and keep your chin up. This will build character. Sorry that it has to be this way.
2007-10-12 00:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first a little perspective - your life will not be RUINED. It will, however, be different. It would be very easy to say forgot what they think, if they're your real friends they won't care, etc., but reality at your point in life is not that easy. While you may not want to care about their opinions you can't help it. Just keep in mind that they may surprise you, and be more supportive than you think. Also, meet some of the kids in your new place and maybe your old crowd won't matter as much. After all you now have a lot more in common with your neighbors than your friends.
2007-10-12 00:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by IamDiDi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your life won't be ruined, far from it. This has the potential to enhance your life, which is the complete opposite of ruining it. You are about to find out the difference between your true friends, & the true PHONIES!
The true friends will be the ones who stick by you no matter what. The phonies will drop you, or turn on you or both. Try not to be too hurt by that if it happens because those people weren't worth your time anyway.
From your situation, & the way you worded your question I think you are about to enter into a life experience that is far more valuable than money. Look forward to it, & embrace it. It's an experience that will make you a far better person than you are right now, guaranteed.
2007-10-11 23:46:04 · answer #4 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're still young. Trust me honey, if your friends turn their backs on you because of your financial status, then you are WAY better off without them! There is more to a person than how much money they have, and popularity is overrated. It shoud depend on your personality anyway. Sadly, I know that's not the case a lot of the time.
There are many people who are not rich. Me, for one- I grew up poor, and was never, ever in the popular crowd in school. However, I have some close friends who I still hold dear today. Just concentrate on being yourself, and if your friends dis you because of something you can't control, turn your back on them and find someone new to hang with. You'll be much happier if you don't worry what the popular kids think!
Good luck!
2007-10-12 10:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by piratewench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Courtney,
I know how hard this is for you. The difficult thing in life is when you have something then you lost it. But from a different perspective, sometimes a person has to go down for a better understanding of other people. In a way, take it as a lesson in humility. Believe me, my friend, as tough as it is, you'll come out a better person because of this. Regarding your friend, what they will say?? Put it this way, if this friend of yours treat you as a friend because of your social status, then I would say dump her/him. Let's take another positive aspect in this situation. The friends who remain your friends are your true friends. And cherish them. My dad used to be financial ok during my younger years, but then when I'm entering my teens, things started going sour. It was difficult unable to keep pace with my classmates in school. But the best lessons are actual experience. I understand what you're going through. The toughest thing is to lose something you have..But the best feeling is getting that something you lost back. Things can only go better from hereon. You'll get back on your feet. My final advise: Love & understand your parents more. They feel very bad about this. But take this as an opportunity to unite & strengthen your family bond.
2007-10-12 00:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear your family is having such a hard time right now, your friends should be your friends, because of who you are not how much money your family has.i know you feel pressure and maybe some embaressment, but if the situation were reversed would you treat people different? and right now i'm certain your mom feels much worse than you. be honest with your close friends, and if they choose not to be your friend, they are not worth having. you will learn this more as you get older, a true friend is a rare jewel!!
2007-10-11 23:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just have friends that are superficial and shallow, I feel really sorry for you. This experience will be a learning experience for you because you will see who your TRUE friends really are. A true friend won't make you feel bad. I know that as a teenager, material things seem really important but click on this website I found recently and you will count your blessings...
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2007-10-11 23:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by itsallgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your not rich ... your mommy is rich.
Second ... your worried about your popularity at school plummeting when your Mom just lost her job! Imagine what she must be going through.
This "crowd" you hang out with are not your true friends if they dump you because you aren't "rich" anymore! Get over it!
2007-10-11 23:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if they were TRUE friends...they wouldnt care about how much money you have or where you live.they should be friends with you because of you not because of how you live.and if they ditch you...well their loss.go find some friends that actually care about you.people who will be loyal no matter what!
and im really sorry about you and your family.your life wont be ruined dont worrie...you just have to face it and be happy thats all : )
2007-10-11 23:45:28 · answer #10 · answered by ninja™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋