Family - October 2007

so my grandma says that if I decide to move out when I'm 18 it's a high probability that I'll get raped or killed. or both. surely alot of people move out at 18 and don't get murdered? Will I be okay just because I'm living somewhere else? It feels like she's trying to scare me. and if I tell her I have faith in myself to make out there, because many of my friends already have, she belittles me. she tells me I'd never make it, either because I'm "chicken" and would come running back, or I'd get killed. thoughts? is this just a mind f***?

Thank you for your time.

2007-10-14 05:09:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, So i know I'm only 17, but I have this step sister... And My whole amily and I feel she is way too immature.
She is 12 years old, and refuses to watch any show besides cartoons. She doesn't ever listen... I got a puppy, and she just wants everyones human food, so we put her in another room a while back so her and her friend could eat on the floor, and she wouldn't do it. So we had to keep my dog out longer, she is only a 3 month old pup. And she refuses to eat any dinner besides candy, cookies, or mc cheese. She hates boys. Her only focus of interest in a anime show called bleach. When things dont go her way, she throws things.
Everyone in this house feels she needs help. Including her biological father. What advice can I give him... he is looking for anything from anyone at this point.

2007-10-14 05:05:32 · 7 answers · asked by Kay-Cody 0918 3

My husband who I am already having major problems with and we are already in counselling was supposed to get up this morning with the kids.Well he got up with the baby(8 months) and put her in the bouncy chair and didn't even bother to change her diaper and went back to bed.She was covered in pee.So I came downstairs realizing this at the same time my 10 yr.old son was cooking eggs in the frying pan and he didn't know what he was doing and used up all the eggs and threw them in the garbage and there was egg all over everything and everything was greasy from the oil he was using.I FREAKED OUT on my son who had made a terrible mess and my husband because none of this would have happened if he got up like he said he would.This whole situation could have been really bad if my son caught something on fire.I am so upset and don't know how to handle this situation.How should I discipline my son?At the same time it was not all his fault.

2007-10-14 04:45:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughters father lies about where he is taking her, and takes her to his girlfriends house (which he agreed with me that he wouldnt)! We both agreed that we didnt want our significant others around our daughter!! But he brings her around anyway's! What can i do about this! And do i have a right to know where my daughter is going all the time. I have her everyday! and he takes her sat, sun and mon, but she is not allowed to sleep over! He is really immature and doesn't really know how to take care of her. we just went to court! what can i do about this situation! HELP!!

2007-10-14 04:42:51 · 3 answers · asked by HopelessRomantic 1

please help cuz my parents are away and im freaking out.

2007-10-14 04:41:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just very angry and frustrated. My dad bought a store for my cousin to work, my cousin worked there for a few months. He then threatened to leave if my dad doesn't sell the store to him for the same price my dad paid for it. My dad couldn't handle a store since he is actually doing some other businesses, and he had bought this on the side to help my cousin. So my dad sold it for face value. But I just found out today that my dad had actually lost money.

So basically, my cousin completely screwed my dad over. This was about 10 years ago. How can I destroy or atleast hurt my cousin financially (legally)? I'm very frustrated because my dad doesn't want to ever fight with anyone and that he let himself get screwed over. But I love my dad and I want to get my cousin back for my dad. I'm a finance major and a junior in college.

What would Donald Trump do? Please realize that i'm frustrated and saddened but NOT crazy. But I want my cousin to feel the financial pain.

2007-10-14 04:38:21 · 7 answers · asked by RockiesFan 2

Sometimes I wish my parents didnt drink. yeah i understand its okay once in awhile, but sometimes it goes to far.When my mom drinks shes becomes totally opposite of what shes really like. I mean she goes from a caring loving parent to a complete B****! Then the next day she expects me to love her like nothing happened. Its not just that fact of drinking that really gets to me. Like this morning I woke up and my mom was still listening to music and singing. I went downstairs to use the restroom and grab a bowl of ceral. She ends up chasing me around the house into my room. It gets worse from there. The sad thing is that we are supposed to be in church right now. I may sound pathetic teenager who hates her parents, but I had to get it out somewhere. I love my mom a lot but she doesn't understand how it feels. I dont know how to help her. shes always says the next day that that was going to be the last time she drank, but here we are.
Thanks

2007-10-14 04:18:00 · 4 answers · asked by gmsgurl13 3

My mom is always trying to please people. She likes to portray herself as a victim, she repeats the same stories to every single person that she meets. The accidents, her injuries, her sicknesses, everything! she needs constant attention or pity... or maybe she just needs to make people sympathize with her. She exaggerates stories to the point where she's making up a new one. Basically she is just like that and more...but whats bothering me is that she steps on our faces just to please people. I had a bag of clothes that i was going to sell, she took the bag without telling me and she offered the clothes to one of the house guests. The other day she put all my personal stuff inside a closet because somebody was going to use my room for the weekend. I heard her tell personal stories about me and my siblings to other people just to get their attention and make them feel sorry for her.. what can i do? she is out of control!!! she acts senile when i try to confront her!!!

2007-10-14 04:14:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

is it alright to cut communication from your family. I have been living alone for about 4 years now and have been doing fine. my family doesnt exactly do well but they aren't exactly poor either. they just do ok. for most of my life i had to pay for my own clothing or use the ones that were given or donated to me, i only had lunches in school if i had the money to pay for one and same back home. when i was still in the womb my mother had tried to have me aborted while she was in her third trimester but the poison (yes they actually use poison) they used failed (it was back in russia) cause it was too old and I was still born. For the first three years of my life i was taken care at the hospital then transfered into a foster home cause my mother and father didnt want to see me until government finally forced them to take care of me. i have lived and took care of my self most of the time or someone like a neighbor or a friend would take partial care of me. do i have the right to cut com

2007-10-14 03:48:55 · 10 answers · asked by djmixah7 3

my ex kept making allegations against me after 26 times down the stn and being nfa,d (no further actioned)by the police she managed to send me to prison , whilst inside she voluntarily gave the kids away, she is now with her new partner, so when i was released from prison i found out frm a 3rd party about the children , now i have a meeting with the social services tomorrow but i think the social services think i am a bad person but i am not , and b4 any one asks , what are my chances of getting the children back and what shall i expect at this meeting tomorrow, i know i don,t have any rights as fathers usually don,t, she gave them in volunrarily , nd keeps saying she neeeds space .. i just want the kids back she can move on ......... advice plz help!

2007-10-14 03:44:04 · 15 answers · asked by gary 2

Ok i want to be a pharmacist or surgeon. Every second he nags me about the pros of being a doctor ( to be more specific a Physician!! i hate physicians..ugh). I dont give a **** I want to become either a surgeon or pharmacist. He lists the pros over and over again. He says doctors are the best and they have the most relaxing job and make the most money. His nagging is getting to me!!!! Now im having doubts about being a pharm./surgeon. And he also says that I should make my own office because the bosses will try and fire people under them. makes no sense!!! he doesnt get that i dont WANT to be a stupid physician..advice please!!

2007-10-14 03:22:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

There is this boy who is 14 from Africa who came across my profile. He gave me a very sad story about how he had lost his parents and he wanted me to be his mom. He asked me if I could send him a notebook and some pencils, I said sure. Now everytime I chat with him he wants more and more things, now he has even asked me to send him money and he wants me to hide the money in something so that the Africa postal workers can not see it. Right now I have not sent him any items or money. I don't mind helping someone in need but how do I know if this kid is for real? Also if he is as poor as he claims to be how is it possible for him to have a computer and a cell phone? I don't want to turn my back on anyone that is in need but I am on a fixed income and I do not want to be taken advantage of.

2007-10-14 02:48:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

visits her almost every month.he lives in another country.everytime he comes he stays at our home.but the house has just 2rooms,and everytime,they force me to go to a hotel,or wherever else,because they want to be alone.so,4the last year,almost everymonth,i spend 2-4days in hotels,or to homes of friends.i don't feel comfortable at all.i feel so shamed when i go to spend these days to a friend's house,because i must lie.i never tell them the real reason.i've explained to my sist how i feel,and she said that i say all that stuff because i don't want her to be happy.
what else can i do?i'm bored and too much annoyed with that situation...she would never do such a thing for me,and she doesn't understand how i feel...
please,help!any advise?what else can i tell her?

ps:i live with my sist,and we both go to university.

2007-10-14 02:34:33 · 12 answers · asked by D.B.O. 4

My husband has weekend visitation with his 2 sons age 15 & 10. His oldest son is 19 now. about a year ago, we learned from the oldest that his mom had threw a birthday party for him in which she provided alcohol & pot. The youngest boys were there, pics were taken. We enlarged the pic, showing a young boy (not ours) smoking pot with them. We reported this to childrens service. They investigated (so they said) then told us it is not illegal for a parent to give their child alcohol. They just sort of blew off the pic. Over past year we heard rumors the boys are left alone alot while she goes to bars & she drinks daily. We have the boys this weekend. The 15 yr old called her to talk to her last night, I didnt know he was on phone, accidentally picked up heard her screaming cussing him. She was drunk. He cried says dont want to live there, she does this alot & when she is in bar He walks little brother around town. She has parties til 4 am school nite brings strangers home.

2007-10-14 02:21:19 · 7 answers · asked by Sad Mom 3

Im 14 and just had a massive fight with my mum because i broke the computer desk by accident. Shes so unreasonable and just caries on the argument even when im in tears!!! I wish i had never been born.I would run away but ive had lessons about homelessness in school and it sounds rubbish, so im just going to lock my self in my room for the rest of my life and talk to knowone! Any ideas on what i can do know? and i my dad doesnt even know about the desk yet... im dreading it! please help before i do something i reget!!!
thanks
x x x

2007-10-14 02:19:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 12 years old, but very mature and independent. I still sleep with my parents at night, but on weekends I usually sleep on the couch in the living room watching TV. Like I said, I'm very mature and I can do a lot of things on my own. It's just that I'm an only child and I love my parents. I want to spend as much time with them as I can. I've searched for other questions like this and some people said it's ok until college, and others said not at all. I believe until I'm at least in high school. I'm in 7th grade right now.

2007-10-14 02:14:06 · 13 answers · asked by Andrew360 1

In 2004 at the age of 20 my older brother was diagnosed with sarcomas cancer but took it like the man he was, late 2005 he went into remission but in march 2006 he took a turn for the worse he was told he only had 6-12 months to live, sadly just 2 months later at the age of 22 on May the 14th 2006(mothers day) he passed in his room at home.
The day i got home from work and was told my brother only had so little time 2 live my life changed forever, i started using marijuana everyday 2 block out all thoughts about life without him, and to this day have smoked marijuana at least once a day, at times ive smoked an ounce over 3-4 days just to block out thoughts. Im really scared that its going to ruin my life and i know my brother wouldnt want me doing what im doing. So am looking for all suggestions, (my family and friends know i smoke marijuana but knowone at all in my life is aware of the amounts i smoke or the reason). Plese HELP u may save my life...

2007-10-14 01:03:08 · 9 answers · asked by maorigurl 2

it seems like my parents doesn't like me any more.....maybe its because of my grades or so whatever....i don't know.......may be because i'm not their real daughther...hmmm./.....what shall i do?...help me......my parents ignore me always ...went i got home from school..and i don't know why?.....

2007-10-14 00:11:52 · 9 answers · asked by banizavanessa 2

my daughter and i get on really well untill my ex and step kids step in when they do she pushes me to one side because she wants to be like them and excepted into his new family, every time something good happens in her life i feel i am not good enough as they have money and i haven't this hurts me time and time again.

2007-10-13 23:48:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

She doesn't care for anyone but herself. She loves comfort, spending money, and sleeping. She never cares for her kid and her husband. She loves to start fight and watch fights. When things get nasty for her she leaves the house even though she started it. She's always buying useless things even when the family barely has enough money to eat.

2007-10-13 23:25:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents think that my brother and i hate them because we always tell them to stop blaming others for no reason. my mother gets mad because of a small thing and my dad is to scared (stupid and can't stand up for himself) to tell my mother anything. i am getting really depressed because they consistently argue with my brother, who is 21years old.my brother is working and saving up for college and my parents want him to go to school early. they don't understand that it is quite hard to go to college when our family doesnt even make much money.my parents consistently talk bad about other people and think that they are the only people who face problems. they talk too much but don't do a thing, like my mother who says that she will learn how to drive but doesn't even do it. my brother and i try our best to please them but they never seem to find the positve things that come out of our actions. they consistently put us down instead of being supportive, and always start arguments.

2007-10-13 21:17:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i've been with my daughters father for 5 years now...im 25..he's 34..he always pretty much nice to me up until we moved in together..he has a son which lives with us..and i have a son as well ...we always argue over them...and ever since we moved in together he's mean and calls me names all the time..im getting very tired of it...he really knows how to put me down..by calling me the meanest names.i think if he really cared for me or even espected me as a woman he wouldnt be calling me such awful names and always trying to put me down. plz answer!

2007-10-13 19:52:05 · 14 answers · asked by deleon_jenifer 2

Ok my baby's father, nice guy wants to b in our baby's life and im glad about that. Im gettin married and im moving to another state so how do i work the whole visitation thing out with him. We're both in the army but he just left for iraq. What do i do?

2007-10-13 19:10:36 · 2 answers · asked by lilwnba38 1

I spent 2 + years with my child's father, and the weekend of mother's day I had found out he was cheating on me probably the whole time with someone at work, while I took care of his 2 kids and his house and contributed financially to his household while taking care of my own.
Yesterday after months of avoiding times where he would go to the store since i know his routine after two years, I ended up running into him. He has not seen his son in 5 months since he walked out on me and our 7 month old son.
He has done countless things to us to make our lives miserable, but yesterday he asked if he could have visitation rights. I kind of know what i plan to do and say, but i am thinking of what's in the best interest of my son. He does not help one iota with our son.
I have a hard time believing him after years of lies, and I will never trust him again, especially after all his threats.
My decision i need to make is whether he gets visitation or not. Take a vote.

2007-10-13 18:18:46 · 13 answers · asked by Katalina 1

My daughter married a mexican 16yrs ago,had a son w/him who's now 15yrs old. She left her husband when her son was 5yrs old &moved back to her home state. Her husband came back to spend a night w/her saying he wanted to talk things out. In mid of the night,he took their son & left. We had no idea where he was til 3 wks ago. We went 2 visit w/him & have stayed in contact ever since,but now his father keeps trying to keep him from talking on the phone. Says he lost the cell phone a couple of days & etc.His father has kept him at home all the time(no school sports or social life). He told us he used to have friends that he would play ball w/at the park when his dad went w/him,but now they're older & do other things now he only has his dad & his dads friends. That isn't good 4 him. He needs a social life himself. He told him be4 he could come visit 4 holidays,but now says no. Things got worse after she sent money 2 son.How do we deal w/it? They're still married. Serious answer please.

2007-10-13 18:03:58 · 15 answers · asked by glorydvine 4

I married my husband 7 months ago. We dated for a year before we married. He has a five year old daughter from a previous relationship. When we first started dating his daughter and I clicked right away. When we would bring her back to her mom's house on Sunday, she would run back in the car with me. She had to literally be pulled away from me to go back with her mom. However, a few months ago she looked me straight in the face and said "You're not my family." I've had mixed emotions since then. She is very distant now. She's gone from having to be pulled out of my arms to go back with her mom to not even telling me bye when we bring her back. Why? I also found that lately she has a tendency to want to constantly get between me and her father (if we're sitting on the couch together for example). I've started to just walk out of the room and let them be alone. What am I doing wrong? My husband things her mom is putting things in her head. I'm prepared for all answers/possibilities.

2007-10-13 17:38:55 · 15 answers · asked by GreenEyes 1

My Brother is a month shy of 16. He cusses and Treats my mom Horribly. He says rude things to people, but when you say something witty back he freaks out and gets all defensive.He throws others belongings around,even breaks them. He acts like a Martyr. I've tried my best with it and i am wearing thin. I've tried Buddhist Studies, Walking away, Ignoring, Avoiding contact and conversation. EVERYTHING. When you walk away he'll follow you, it doesn't matter where either. Anyone have any new ideas on what to do.

2007-10-13 17:24:14 · 10 answers · asked by Colleen B 1

I have a very pushy mother in law. She starts fights, tries telling lies to my dad and ect. I'm 20 years old. I have a husband. I have a son born in november 2006 and passed away from a birth defect in july 2007. she yelled at me 2 days after he passed away becouse she was listed as my dad's wife and not with the grandma's.. just to show her personality. She hasn't quit i bend over backwards for her and to keep the peace but i'm to the point now that i realy want to hit her i'm dealing with my son's passing and trying to get back to life and all she wants to do is start fights with me and push me around. I want to know how to deal with her. I don't want to start a fight in the family but i want her to leave me alone and live her own life not mine. I just don't know what to do and my anger is to the point i'm going to explode...plllleeeeaaaassseeee HELP ME>>>!!!!

2007-10-13 17:22:48 · 18 answers · asked by MeLisa 2

I was married for 20 years and had 4 children. My second husband of 9 years is very nasty to my dhildren. One of the children and her family have been living with us for a year until they move into their own home. I am forever treading on eggshells while he is in their company (this goes for all the children), as he is so crass, rude and critical. He has 2 boys from his previous marriage which he doesn't see a lot of. I'm at my wit's end as his behaviour is ruining any love that I once felt for him. He gets looked after, as I cook, clean and wash for him, as well as working full time. He openly begrudges anything that I do for the children, and doesn't hesitate in letting them know it. He is a sticky beak who likes to know everything, including who I phone or email. He won't do anything by himself, but insists that I go with him. I'm beginning to feel more like a mother than a wife. It is getting so I do not want to do anything with him anymore, as he is such a cranky bugger.

2007-10-13 17:21:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

yeah so me and my dad kinda got into this argument today
my parents are divorced and i get so bored at his house.
i see him every other weekend and then the rest of the time i am with my mom.
today was my sisters birthday party and last night i went to sleepover at my friends house
then tonight i was going to go home and have a friend sleepover there (my moms house)
but my dad got mad that he never sees me.. but we have nothing in common!
so my friend ended up sleeping over at my dads house with me.
my dad just came down stairs to say goodnight and to tell us where the blankets are and stuff
and i gave him a hug and a kiss and said "love you "
but he never said love you back
and he always does!
so i said it again and he pretended he never heard me
he wasnt looking at me when i said it though so i dont know if he didnt hear me or if he was mad at me
i kinda wish my friend didnt sleep over so i could watch a movie with my dad but i wanted her to sleepover b.c she is my bff

2007-10-13 17:20:36 · 8 answers · asked by Hi there :D 3