cut communication?

Question

is it alright to cut communication from your family. I have been living alone for about 4 years now and have been doing fine. my family doesnt exactly do well but they aren't exactly poor either. they just do ok. for most of my life i had to pay for my own clothing or use the ones that were given or donated to me, i only had lunches in school if i had the money to pay for one and same back home. when i was still in the womb my mother had tried to have me aborted while she was in her third trimester but the poison (yes they actually use poison) they used failed (it was back in russia) cause it was too old and I was still born. For the first three years of my life i was taken care at the hospital then transfered into a foster home cause my mother and father didnt want to see me until government finally forced them to take care of me. i have lived and took care of my self most of the time or someone like a neighbor or a friend would take partial care of me. do i have the right to cut com

Answer 1

yes in this case i think you do. you don't need that in your life. don't be rude or hateful towards them because those feelings eat away at you and will start to ruin your life. i hope you work hard at making a new good life for yourself because you deserve it. try to accept that that is just the family you were born in to and that was what you were given in life. so use that to motivate you to get to the better things in life and surround yourself with people who love you :) good luck with this! :)

Answer 2

Well everybody has the right to stop communicating with their family, & the only justification that they need is their own.

From your description it sounds to me that you couldn't be more distant both physically or emotionally from your family & still be communicating with them if you tried.

It also sounds to me like from this point in your life, cutting communication with them would be a rather small step.

But would it be advisable?

As I said, you certainly have the right, but there are other factors that come to mind. What about your health, & the health of the children you either have now, or in the future?
Sometimes, on issues with your health you need information about the health background of certain relatives like your parents, & their parents. Also when there needs to be a medical proceedure like a bone marrow transplant or an organ donation for a child, it isn't always the case that it can come directly from the mother.
I know the behaviour of your family in the past doesn't exactly portray them as a charitable group, but it may not be good to completely burn your bridges, unless they are somehow toxifying your life.

It's your decision. Whatever it is, I am sure it will be justified.

Answer 3

You can do whatever you want. Obviously since you're asking you must be having second thoughts about whether you should or not. If your gut feeling tends to lean more on not to communicate-then just go with that. Your life has been rough, but now that your on your own don't let anyone tell you what to do and don't let people, even if they are your family, play on your sympathy. They have not treated you the way a family should have treated their own children and it sounds like they still are not treating you properly and they probably never will. You can have a better life with people who want to be around you and like you for who you are. Just because someone is your family doesn't mean you need to be tormented by being around them. You deserve better. Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that you had such an awful childhood, if you really feel like you don't want to give your family a chance to become closer and bond, then it would be totally reasonable for you to have no more to do with them.

Answer 5

well, my mom already went abroad and I don't know where she is because we cut our communication with her because that's what my Aunt told us to do....it was really hard not to have a mother but we have nothing to do but to move on.......I missed my mom and wherever she is I hope she is okay that's why I just turn over her to God because I know God won't leave her and He will protect her no matter what.....

Answer 6

If you can type this, you weren't stillborn. Sounds like a horrible childhood. You are an adult, you can do anything you want.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Ya you should they didn't want you so why should you want them. Sorry you had such a crappy childhood

Answer 9

yes. by all means necessary.

Answer 10

Sure, move on.