so my grandma says that if I decide to move out when I'm 18 it's a high probability that I'll get raped or killed. or both. surely alot of people move out at 18 and don't get murdered? Will I be okay just because I'm living somewhere else? It feels like she's trying to scare me. and if I tell her I have faith in myself to make out there, because many of my friends already have, she belittles me. she tells me I'd never make it, either because I'm "chicken" and would come running back, or I'd get killed. thoughts? is this just a mind f***?
Thank you for your time.
2007-10-14 05:09:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, she's just trying to scare you, and yes, it's just a mind f***.
Of course you're right that not everyone who moves out at 18 is raped, killed, or both.
What she's doing constitutes emotional abuse.
Try to avoid discussing the issue with her; ignore what she says when you can't avoid it.
Don't let her head-trip you. Given this behavior on her part, it's important for you to get out of there as soon as you can.
2007-10-14 08:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother is obviously not looking forward to you turning 18 and moving out on your own. All you can really do is tell her when she starts telling you all that nonsense is that you are not going to argue with her about the subject and if the subject of you moving out on your own at 18 is only going to cause this reaction then you won't discuss it no more with her. You will just have to show and prove to her that you will make it on your own if that is what you choose. You can also mention that you will be a legal adult too and that you must start making decisions on your own eventually.
2007-10-14 21:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by marcy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell
why would u get killed O_o;;;
seriously maybe she just doesnt want you to move out so she wont be alone but you'll have to do it eventually and i think if u believe in yourself you'll be fine but its a tough world think before you act =]
wish u best of luck tho!!!!
and tell her she should stop saying that then again maybe its her own way of looking out for you i think u need a talk with her about it
2007-10-14 12:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Malia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be fine!! You need to be careful, alert and cautious...but you will be fine. Take a self defense course, don't be too trusting and you will make it just fine. Your gramma is trying to scare you. She is probably just worried about you, and loves you very much, and only wants to protect you. BE SAFE~ but be independent.
2007-10-14 12:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your grandma is just worried or sad because you are living alone by yourself that's why she's trying to scare you but your gonna be alright like me when im in your age i live alone all by myself and nothing bad happened to me, just talk to your granny and promise her that you'll be okay,and you need her blessings
2007-10-14 12:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by wyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to do this as well...infact she just want u to stay back....bt if ur moving then u just need to be on ur guard abt a few thngs n make sure ur safe..dats all dear all the best...
2007-10-14 12:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother has lost her mind, and probably does not want to be alone.. so she belittles you instead of offering encouragement and support.
She is wrong.
You will be fine. do what's best for YOU... and take care.
2007-10-14 12:13:14 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋