it seems like my parents doesn't like me any more.....maybe its because of my grades or so whatever....i don't know.......may be because i'm not their real daughther...hmmm./.....what shall i do?...help me......my parents ignore me always ...went i got home from school..and i don't know why?.....
2007-10-14 00:11:52 · 9 answers · asked by banizavanessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop being a drama queen and accurately and honestly look at the situation.
2007-10-14 00:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know the feeling.Maybe suggest a talk with your parents. Sometimes they are so busy with work and the financial pressures of building a family that its not as bad to that they are intentionally ignoring you. I sat down with my mum and asked her if "i make her happy". I'm adopted and the only time when i felt ignored was when there was something wrong with their relationship. Maybe they had a spat/someone had an affair/someone was flirting/money problems/family problems, I mean there are so many things that maybe bothering them at the moment and could have nothing to do with you. If you take the first step to open up maybe they in turn will. Chin up girlfriend. Nothing is bed as it seems. Don't be a drama queen. Take that step and find out "whatz up?" Good Luck with the studies.Make them proud by being the adult and take that first step by having a chat to understand what you can do to be a better daughter to them. Maybe its your attitude towards them. Who knows? Ask and you will get your answer.
2007-10-14 07:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by nettie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, asking your parents usually is enough to show that you care about them. The first step to being cared about is to care for that person first.
Learn about your parents interests, and see if you can talk to them about it. Parents usually live in a very seperated world from us younger generations, and being able to talk to the younger generation about something cheers them up lots.
Grades aren't everything. On the contrary, it's how much effort you put into it, and eventually you'll be able to get your grades up. Ask your parents about some questions you don't get, problems that they might be able to do, etc. Letting them feel smarter than you boosts their confidence ;P
If you do any sports, arts, or anything, ask them to come along and tell you about how you're doing. talk about it to them, etc.
All in all, to make your parents feel proud, make them feel connected to you and included. Let them know that you still love them. Communication is the most important thing here ;).
(P.S. Trust is an important factor in here. Try not to break their trust, and you and your parents will become pretty close :P.)
(P.S.S. Though, don't think too much about this. In our adult life, we're going to have to split up with them anyways. If you can't make them "proud", then jsut see it as an easier way to seperate from them in the future. Lastly, you have to think about that your parents might be embarrassed to show that they're proud of you ;). Just stay happy :))
2007-10-14 07:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Chaotic_Shadow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know better that your parents doesn't like you then be serious and try to become marvelous or try to do the best every thing. Don't think that they are abusing you but think that they are guiding you. So if you be perfect your parents will loving you soon and also they feel guilty. Then now start to doing your work and become lovely daughter of your parents.
2007-10-14 07:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Alexius T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are ignoring you, it doesn't have to mean that it is YOU that is the problem. Sometimes adults have major problems or stress that are interferring with their other relationships. Try not to take it personally, I'm sure it has NOTHING to do with you not being their biological child!
If your grades are low, try to study harder and raise them. It will not only make them happy, but it will improve your future chances. If you want things to go smoothly at home, try to follow their rules and do nice things around the house to help them out.
Hang in there...everything changes. This too shall pass.
2007-10-14 07:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by sublime 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My dear, how old are you? How long have you been feeling this way? How close are you to your parents? Are you able to talk with them openly, frankly, honestly and feel that you can trust them not to love you less?
Are you an only child or one of many? Your truthful answers to all these questions can help us understand why you have arrived at these conclusions. There are no perfect parents or perfect children, either. But there can be loving and caring people in your home (your parents and you - and your siblings) who care enough to spend time and truly care for one another despite (and everyone has this) their imperfections.
Communication is key to any relationship and it is sad to hear that this may be absent in your family. (From the way you have phrased your statements/questions.) For family is where we begin to learn about how to relate to others later on...Our experience with our families is what we draw from when we venture out to start our own families as adults.
It will not hurt to ask, in a very pleasant manner, for a minute or two with your mum and dad. In the same manner you expect them to understand you - they also need to be understood. Believe it or not, YOU can start by "finding out". Are they too tired from work? (They work to make enough to send you to school, for example, and pay for other things you ask them to buy for you.)
LOVE THEM, in as much as you seem to feel they don't love you. LOVE is not love until YOU give it away.
Lastly, I felt that way too when I was in my "confused" teens. Later, during a time of severe testing, my parents stood by me when all whom I thought cared for me would have nothing to do with me. Don't close the book on them yet, my child.
THEY LOVE YOU or you wouldn't even be around to ask the questions you just did!
2007-10-14 07:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by anieska 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe their just having marital problems that they don't want to burdon you with. They could seem distant if their in a phase in their marriage where neiither one knows really what to do.
Just do your best to make better grades not just for them but for yourself too.
They love you!
2007-10-14 08:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Achieve something good for which everybody in your area recognizes you and talk about you. This will certainly make your parents to feel proud of you and they will start liking you.
2007-10-14 07:25:40 · answer #8 · answered by rajendra p 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if your parents are your parents and even if there not they love you nomadder what you think they care about you and they love you dearly. That came from the heart. Honest.
2007-10-14 07:41:51 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda Jam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋