My mom is always trying to please people. She likes to portray herself as a victim, she repeats the same stories to every single person that she meets. The accidents, her injuries, her sicknesses, everything! she needs constant attention or pity... or maybe she just needs to make people sympathize with her. She exaggerates stories to the point where she's making up a new one. Basically she is just like that and more...but whats bothering me is that she steps on our faces just to please people. I had a bag of clothes that i was going to sell, she took the bag without telling me and she offered the clothes to one of the house guests. The other day she put all my personal stuff inside a closet because somebody was going to use my room for the weekend. I heard her tell personal stories about me and my siblings to other people just to get their attention and make them feel sorry for her.. what can i do? she is out of control!!! she acts senile when i try to confront her!!!
2007-10-14 04:14:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ignore her. Don't try to explain your relatives and friends that you are innocent. Never talk about this subject with your friends and relatives. Basically your friends and relatives want to enjoy a fight between you and your mom. They never like to see u both in good terms. Pretend in front of your relatives and friends that there is no problen between u and your mom. Also detach yourself so as not to give a chance to your mom for making 'stories' abour u and your siblings. Since u are independent u can get over it. GOOD LUCK.
2007-10-14 04:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Dud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't yell at your mom. Now that would be crazy.
It really seems like your mom needs attention and the only way she knows how to get it is by telling stories and letting people know how tough she has it! The bad thing is that there are actually people who love to sit and listen to every single detail.
Just do your very best. Do the helpful chores around the house, treat your mom with respect. After all that is taken care of, then just do your own thing. Stay away from her when you need to. Now that you know she will take things from you (even your bedroom in the family home, take care of all your business promptly
I hope you will be able to move out of these conditons soon, because your mom is not going to change without heavy counselling and change of attitude. Don't act this way when you have children.
2007-10-14 11:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you confront your mother, do it calmly and rationally. It drives people crazy and she may act more senile, but it's necessary. You have to tell her how you feel. As far as the personal stories about you, parents do that, depending on the depth of HOW personal the stories are. If it's things like your first period and things like that, that's totally uncool. It's obvious that your mother craves attention. I think what would be best for you is to acquire some of your own space, since your mother seems intent on bogarting and invading all of yours. If you have the means (since you have the motive) you may want to think seriously about moving out of the house. It wouldn't being running away from your problems, it's doing what's right for you, gaining a little sanity in your life and trying to have a drama free environment. Good luck!
2007-10-14 11:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Agent D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think pretty much all moms make up stories. Like we recently had a party and she told the same stories to pretty much everyone. She doesn't try to make people feel sorry for her though... They're just funny stories. And she definitely doesn't tell personal ones...
Maybe your mom just needs attention. Maybe have your dad talk to her because she'll probably take him more seriously.
Good Luck xD
2007-10-14 11:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom sounds like she is definitely suffering from a mental illness. I can't tell what your ages are from your message, but don't rule out early onset Alzheimer. I doubt she would agree to get help from what you say, so if you're young, bide your time until you're old enough and move out...or maybe you could move in with a relative now...or, could you get family members together for an intervention?
2007-10-14 11:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by TatersPop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should ask her what her problem is the next time she does something like that ...U shud start yelling at her jsut to make her feel that she is doin something wrong i know it is a bad thing to do but i think it will work because she is probaly in a stage of depression..U shud just tell her wut u feel about when she does stuff like that..if that doesnt work then write ur feelings out on a piece of paper and u shud put it somewhere in her room or somewhere she goes often and maybe she will read it and feel that she is wrong Hope i helpedd
2007-10-14 11:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by preeti72892 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like your mom has suffered many tragedies in her life, too many. I also have suffered many tragedies and your story hit me right in the face. I go to therapy as I advise your mom to. Please be kind to her as she is hurting.
remember you are only responsible for yourself not your mom. maybe you can talk to her and tell her that she is hurting you by telling your personal business to others. she should not do that. and if she goes to a therapist she can get it out there instead of telling friends and who ever will listen good luck
2007-10-14 11:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to estrange yourself from her forever by telling her your true feelings, I'd just count the days until you can leave home.
I feel sorry for you.
2007-10-14 11:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by chris w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol i think all moms are like that..i know mine is.nothing u can do just deal w/her until u get to an age where u can live on ur own or w/a roomate
2007-10-14 11:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can realize your mother has emotional problems and for whatever reason, seeks attention by hoping others will feel sorry for her.
lesson learned on how NOT to act. you cant' change her.
2007-10-14 11:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋