Why does their have to be alcohol in the world?

Question

Sometimes I wish my parents didnt drink. yeah i understand its okay once in awhile, but sometimes it goes to far.When my mom drinks shes becomes totally opposite of what shes really like. I mean she goes from a caring loving parent to a complete B****! Then the next day she expects me to love her like nothing happened. Its not just that fact of drinking that really gets to me. Like this morning I woke up and my mom was still listening to music and singing. I went downstairs to use the restroom and grab a bowl of ceral. She ends up chasing me around the house into my room. It gets worse from there. The sad thing is that we are supposed to be in church right now. I may sound pathetic teenager who hates her parents, but I had to get it out somewhere. I love my mom a lot but she doesn't understand how it feels. I dont know how to help her. shes always says the next day that that was going to be the last time she drank, but here we are.
Thanks

Answer 1

When you said "I may sound like a pathetic teanager" I got tears in my eyes, & I'm a 56yo man.
Honey YOU ARE NOT PATHETIC!
You are trying to cope with a horrible situation. Please don't be insulted but the pathetic one's are your parents for drinking to the point that it affect their daughters life in an adverse way.

Most people who drink appear to suffer a personality change.
Their inhibitions go way down, they lose self-control, & they do things that they wouldn't otherwise do when sober.
Some people become all lovey-dovey to the point that it would annoy any sane person, & others become perfect b*tches, & combative like your mom.

The thing for you to remember is that absolutely none of this is your fault!
Also absolutely none of this is your responsibility to fix either.
You are still the child, & your parents are the ones who are supposed to be the adults. Tragically what often happens to the children of alcoholics is they switch roles with the parent, & they end up parenting the adults. I hope that you can avoid getting caught in that trap, because it will only serve to make your life all the more miserable.

Now to answer your initial question of "why is there alcohol?".
Like everything else in this world, alcohol has the potential to be a good thing. What makes it bad is when someone like your mom, and/or dad abuses it's gifts to the point that it turns to something evil. A better question might be not to ask why is there alcohol, but rather whay are there people who need alcohol so bad?

As soon as you have read this, I want you to make contact with your church right away, & reach out to them. I promise you, they are waiting for your call. The community of the church was designed exactly for situations like yours, so don't make the mistake of overlooking this valuable resource that is already available to you.
If you can walk or ride, or drive to the church then go there right now, & see your minister, priest, or pastor, & tell him/her exactly what is going on at home.

I promise you, you won't regret it.

God is waiting to help you, & I'll say a prayer for you as you make your way there.

May God Bless your entire family!

Answer 2

This is not the way you have to live. Contact an al-anon organization for support. You are a good person to be able to love your mom after all you have been through. You either will or won't find a way to help your parents - but they have to want to help themselves first. Bless you!

Answer 3

Hi hon.. you are definitely NOT pathetic, but your mother is an alcoholic.

You can get help for YOU by doing a Yahoo search for Alateen, an organization for teens whose lives have been affected by alcohol.

Alcoholism is an illness, and your mother may not drink all the time, but binge drinking is still a sign of alcoholism, and so is her statements "it's going to be the last time i drink"....

Your mother needs to get proper help too, and i hope she does.

Take care of YOU.
hugs

Answer 4

Counselling may help her