Family - October 2007

My mother and I enjoy a close relationship and I respect her opinions immensely. I am her only daughter and I am about to become a mother myself. She plans on spending a lot of time with me after I give birth next week. I am worried that she will "take over" and if I disagree with her over something, she will get confrontational. And for all of her wisdom in the world, I feel like I need her to listen to my opinions because I may want to do things differently. I am nervous about this, and I do need her help.... I don't know what to do about it.

2007-10-17 16:39:08 · 7 answers · asked by sandstone901 4

what do you do when your in love with your boyfriend but your moher and your father don't want nottin to do with him and you mother tells you that he is this and that and the way your mom tells you get hurt by the way she talks about you boyfriend and you don't know who to belive what do you think I should do

2007-10-17 16:36:09 · 3 answers · asked by chikafresa 1

i need help. I have a younger brother and sister and an abusive dad. he get's easily tempered, yells and sometimes gets abusive. it's been occuring more often now, but today it really scared me. he was yelling at my brother for wetting the bed and my sister told him that it's not his fault. she said it was my dad's fault for yelling at him and cursing at him. he became furious and almost killed my sister. he was attempting to slap her an my sister kicked him. my dad became furious and tried choking her and pushing her against the wall. it was scary, my brother came running out all scared. but like 10 mins later, he was normal and acted like nothing ever happened. i really need help, i don't want to turn him in because it would ruin our family, i don't know where to send him to get help. im afraid one day he'll really kill one of us. i think he's abusive because of his past, he also had a very abusive childhood. what should i do. please help.

2007-10-17 16:16:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister has been acting real weird lately. Like she gets this whiney attitude about me and my whole family and treats me and my family like we are retards or something. Usually, i dont take s**t from 12 year olds like her, but its gone way to far this time. Usually this stuff teporarily happens to her(she has has emotions) and its gone in a few days, but this attitude shes been getting really bothers me. For example, everybody acts different around their friends when their family is around, but my sister acts like shes tougher than me and like she can tell me what to do and when to. In my lifetime, I've seen some crazy stuff out of her, and I mean really really crazy, but this is a whole new level. I'm not a pussy or scared or anything like that, but my sisters only 12. Is this normal for a 12 year old girl to be acting like this around a 16 year old brother or what? I have been leaving her alone and not done a thing to her. Is this normal, or is something wrong?
NO STUPID ANSWERS

2007-10-17 16:11:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to move out of CA because it's too expensive, etc. I want to move to Arkansas and she knows people that will give me a job... but she refuses to do anything or help me out. She is always like this. What can I do? Maybe I can ask my aunt for help? I don't want to stay with her. I want to be on my own, but I do not know anyone and I think that's the best way to get a job from word of mouth!

2007-10-17 16:03:23 · 11 answers · asked by creep show 1

He got really mad when he knew that his parents knew, in about 20 seconds he called the police, took the sim card out of his cell phone, went into his room and got all of his money, and went outside to wait on the police. He was high then. What had happened was that my dad was making a statement, not literal, but he said, " If you bring drugs into this house again, i might have to kill you." That's when he freaked out. He has gotten in trouble before and we have taken him to at least a hundred Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Yet he still hasn't changed. We won't pay his bond because we think that the drugs will take control of him and he might do something he will regret doing. BTW, the drugs were some kind of pills and pot.

2007-10-17 15:57:42 · 5 answers · asked by UhOhKid 1

I ran away from my Dad who was abusing me and I have nowhere to go and I have no support is there any where I can go for a week or two?

2007-10-17 15:53:16 · 12 answers · asked by Angel eyes 2

Okay so recently my mom and I have been fighting more often, usually at the end of the day. We've always fought about trivial things, but I've been noticing a certain coldness to her voice now. Am I imagining it due to getting older, or does she really hold a sort of watered-down contempt for me?

2007-10-17 15:51:26 · 7 answers · asked by rbw_cynical 2

Lately i feel like my brother has been a total dick to me. As weird as it may sound, its mainly because i like working out and take pride in how well i can box and cardio etc. but my brother being 29 while i am 17 is really starting to brag about how well he is doing, like he is doing a lot better in boxing n stuff than i am, and that got me down enough, but now he started gloating about it. This has really gotten me down cuz its really all i can think of right now, and the day after tommorow im supposed to work out with him but i dont kno what im gonna do, im really upset with him...me and him always had a close relationship, which is hard to have with an older brother at my age especially, and now this is starting to really annoy me and i can see it making us drift away. Any thought on what i should do would be greatly appreciated

2007-10-17 15:38:11 · 7 answers · asked by HAPPYMANFROMRAMADAN 1

she said oh i took it and i asked her for it and she said i spent it so i got mad and started yelling at her cause i have to go to the store to get school supplies for a prodject and now my dad wont take me to the store do u ppl think this is fair

2007-10-17 15:36:54 · 6 answers · asked by theluvanumbaonfan 1

My brother is difficult. He needs psychotherapy really badly, but he doesn't believe in it. I do not speak to him. My sister does not, nor does my niece. This has been going on for nearly 20 years. We've each experienced different things that caused this. He's an angry control freak with obsessive compulstive disorder and possible psychosis. My parents backed him all along even tho he until recently got angry with our mother after the last family gathering she hosted. Because he's difficult and my niece refuses to go to small gatherings he attends, my mother chose my niece over him to invite. My sister and I have no problem being in the same room with him. My mother made a poor choice and now her son refuses to speak to her. She has apologized and admitted she's wrong. My Dad has talked to him and asked him to seek help. He won't budge. My father wants my niece, my sister and me to email him and tell him to get help. I'll do that, but I don't think it will help. Then what to do?

2007-10-17 15:28:23 · 6 answers · asked by Oh Wise One 2

My dad was phsically and mentally abusive to my mom and sister. My parents are now divorced and both my brother and sister aren't speaking to him. Today my dad told me he would like me to live with my mother so he can have a normal dating life (I have been supportive because his girlfriends often replace his attention on me). At one point we got into an arguement that left me with bruises and my mom got DSS involved. He also continually says things that are abusive. When asked if he would die for me (stupid question, I know) he replied Well.... It depends.... He also says that I'm a liar when I tell him I'm depressed. Since he kicked me out I've been feeling guilty for not being approving of his dating and i just want to have a "normal" relationship. That may not be realistic so I would really like some ways to stay strong because he will come back to me like he always does and I usually give in.

2007-10-17 15:25:08 · 6 answers · asked by Emily 2

I'm getting a little concerned about it. Maybe I am being too paranoid?

2007-10-17 15:08:51 · 28 answers · asked by Plondaranera 3

2007-10-17 15:01:15 · 28 answers · asked by LittleDaisy. 6

what would you do ?
Now this is a question for everyone that has divorced parents .If you could go back in time and show your parents how you turned out and what would have made it better what would you say .Basically theres 3 options

get back with dad/mom the fights are better than 2 households

Just date if you marry so and so you and I will regret it for the rest of our lives but feel obligated to stay

Its ok I turned out fine ?





what would you do ?
Now this is a question for everyone that has divorced parents .If you could go back in time and show your parents how you turned out and what would have made it better what would you say .Basically theres 3 options

get back with dad/mom the fights are better than 2 households

Just date if you marry so and so you and I will regret it for the rest of our lives but feel obligated to stay

Its ok I turned out fine ?

2007-10-17 14:55:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my mom, but I figured out that she smokes. I mean I'm more observant than she gave me credit for, and I noticed small hints, like nicotine gum and a cigarette in the yard, and overly strong perfume over a stale scent. I don't know how long this has been going on, and I'm worried; but the signs have been there for at least 2 years. What if she gets cancer or something. I have 2 younger sisters and they have no idea. And I'm not sure if my dad knows. I'm afraid if I confront my mom and dad, that she will start smoking openly, and that'll be worse for everyone's health. I know my mom is great, but addiction is strong, and I don't know what to do.

2007-10-17 14:50:18 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am a single mother with 2 daughters, 15 and 13. I work 2 jobs, 7-5 at office and 6-11 at bakery. Because of the heavy work time, I told my kids to take turns making dinner, but they said no. I ask them why. The 15 year old said it is because she helped her little sister alot and she feels it is her sister's job to be fair to her and cook dinner everyday and make up for her help she gave her little sister. My 13 year old say it is because she feels that her elder sister is the eldest child in the family & should always be responsible to cook and the youngest child shouldn't have to. Her friends have oldest sisters that do all housework while the youngest never do anything and she want to be just like her friends. I don't know what to do. I really need their help to cook. I don't want to take away priviledges because they are good kids and I promise to give them what I didn't have when I was a kid, activities, friends, accessories, and fun. Why can I do? Why are my teenagers that way?

2007-10-17 14:49:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Girlfriends Step mother is a real *****, and keeps calling her a "whore" and saying that she'll never get anywhere in life and have to live off of welfare and that shes stupid and lies to her all the time, of course none of these statements are true and shes a good girl, example: we've been going out for almost a year and we havent had sex or done any sexual act so shes far from being a whore, and shes got A's and B's in all her classes. so my question is what should i do to try and convince her step mom that shes a good kid without causing a conflict between me and the mom, ive thought about writing an annonymous letter and sneaking it into a place where she would find it saying that she should have a little more respect to her own legal child. any other ideas, i wish i knew her email so i could do it that way but unfortunatly theres no way i could figure it out.

2007-10-17 14:48:09 · 4 answers · asked by Vash 1

He wants to be a family, wants to be the father figure for my 13 month old daughter...but he also wants to spend time at his friends house, drinking, smoking weed, and having "guy time" I understand this, but I don't know how to explain that if we are a family, and he is "in this" then as a parent, the "guy time" can't happen as often, am I wrong in feeling this way? I also think he should help more with the bad stuff; diapers, baths, meals, daycare drop off and pick-up etc... He just wants to discipline and tell me what I do wrong, how can I explain that you have to take the good with the bad? If we are going to be a family this too has to balance out...right?

2007-10-17 14:39:18 · 22 answers · asked by adriyensmom 2

My dad died 6 years ago, when I was 10. I feel like I should be more over it, but I don't have anyone I could really talk to. I don't want to talk to my mom or my step dad because they don't get it, I've been to a therapist before, and that didn't work. All of my friends still have their parents. I just don't know what to do to fully move on.

2007-10-17 14:37:09 · 7 answers · asked by Kelsey 3

Im always at my friends' houses to hangout. But when I ask my mom if I can have people over too, she never lets me; she hates it. Ive never done anything that would make her not trust me, especially in my home. This year, for my friends' bdays, we want to go out &then sleepover someone's house for each bday. (there's 9 of us, we wanted a different house for each night.) My mom probably wont even let me do that. I know i probably sound like a brat but I feel bad if i'm the only person who can't have it at their house, plus i always feel guilty when we go over the same people's houses b/c i'm never allowed to have people at my own. It comes to the point where I don't even want to go to sleepover my friends anymore just because I feel bad since we will never go to mine. What do I say to mom to help with this situation, and what do i even say to my friends? I don't want to say I can't have it just because my mom said so, and thats exactly what she says w/o any good reason. Help! :(

2007-10-17 14:36:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

recently i found that my father is having an affair with other woman and i think i am the only one who know about this.
please give me the best way to tell this to my family.

2007-10-17 14:16:30 · 11 answers · asked by moja 1

On what issues do you feel you still have some say in what they do?

2007-10-17 14:14:54 · 10 answers · asked by Jim C 5

Basiccly, my mom and i are in a HUGE fight the type where she said that i dont even exist to her, and she told me to think of her as invisible and non existiing. we havn't talked since this fight!. How do i make her regret what she said to me?

what are some things i can do to make her fell bad for what she said? as in send her some love? but not by confronting her?

(no rude awnsers please. i really need this! just once and ill never do it again)

2007-10-17 14:12:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a single question and that is when you die do you get to be a nother person or how does it feel to be dead plz help me out.I cry every night because i am a fraid to ask my mom or dad

2007-10-17 14:10:13 · 13 answers · asked by Tommy 1

I wrote this for my step mom for her birthday:

I love life I'm soaring
Ever since I met you with a sore throat and you fed me store beans
I moved to California when I was fourteen
One night you lost it
Came busting in the closet
One leg in twisted at the hip
A whip in your right hand
A spray bottle in your left
You said " sexy step-mom!"
Sprayed it and made the sound effect
When we went shopping there was no stopping us
We got to talking and started swapping trust
From writing backseat poems with crayons
To late night seance
I miss you, lets hang out more
What do you say Mom?
I know you love me
I love you back with all of me too
When I find a girl I hope she has the same qualities as you
Your so sweet and compassionate
You gave me the best advice in life anytime I asked for it
Thank you for all that you do
Most importantly
Thank you for just being you!

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by the way I used to live in the closet when i first moved to Cali cuz my dad and stepmom had a one bedroom apartment and the...

2007-10-17 14:05:27 · 2 answers · asked by Keith 2

I am 12 and i am setting up a babysitting service with my friend... please help me. I just started babysitting but i need help and tips.

2007-10-17 14:03:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family has rejected me , my sister mother & family because my father went into the military. My grandfather was also in the military. And also my mother used to clean apartment buildings.
They torment me about her cleaning the toilet.they are drunks and drug addicts and also very greedy. They get in my face & harass me and tell me I won't be anything. They snatch me up from behind and pull out the tag on my shirt and tell me it's cheap. My grandmother spent my dads inheritence. She's a drunk. They are very cruel to me. I don't need them and they've always tried to make me turn on my dad.

2007-10-17 13:53:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I cant do it, someone.... HELP ME!!!! I've told my parents and they dont agree. She promises my mom that she'll not call me names anymore, but she does! Ive told my parents whats going on and that im trying to have a good relationship, but they think IM guilty

2007-10-17 13:52:07 · 5 answers · asked by sexy baby555 1

Over the years, my uncle (dad's brother) and his wife have borrowed about $30,000 from my mom and dad. They never attempted to pay back a cent, but apparently they are making enough to buy two pianos (one for each of their kids) and expensive video games for their son.

Now my sister went and stole an expensive purse (a gift) from my cousin's room, and my cousin wants it back and is fighting for it. But my mom is letting my sister get away with it. Her justification is that my aunt and uncle borrowed so much money from her and my dad that they shouldn't be letting their daughter attack her daughter over this. She says she's being a "wise grownup" about this (her words!). (by the way, I'm a legal adult)

Isn't that reasoning screwed up? She didn't even sound certain of herself when she said all this, she kept stuttering.

2007-10-17 13:49:37 · 6 answers · asked by questionable 2