i need help. I have a younger brother and sister and an abusive dad. he get's easily tempered, yells and sometimes gets abusive. it's been occuring more often now, but today it really scared me. he was yelling at my brother for wetting the bed and my sister told him that it's not his fault. she said it was my dad's fault for yelling at him and cursing at him. he became furious and almost killed my sister. he was attempting to slap her an my sister kicked him. my dad became furious and tried choking her and pushing her against the wall. it was scary, my brother came running out all scared. but like 10 mins later, he was normal and acted like nothing ever happened. i really need help, i don't want to turn him in because it would ruin our family, i don't know where to send him to get help. im afraid one day he'll really kill one of us. i think he's abusive because of his past, he also had a very abusive childhood. what should i do. please help.
2007-10-17 16:16:02 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have news for you... you already have a ruined family. Your dad's rampages are probably going to get worse as time goes on.
Your siblings are being imprinted with this behavior... your sister will grow up thinking that abusive men are normal, and your brother may try on the role of abuser. You need to take steps to stop this abuse now, and hopefully get everyone into counseling.
I would suggest seeing if a grandparent or other relative will take you three in and file for custody or guardianship.
I would also suggest talking to your guidance counselor at school, since he should know how to tap the system for help.
If you can't find relatives to take you in, then perhaps a foster care situation will get you through this mess.
Another possibility is calling Child Advocates.
2007-10-17 16:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a guidance couselor at school, go talk to them tomorrow. Tell them exactly what happens when your dad gets mad and they should be able to help you with what to do next. If you can't talk to them, talk to a teacher you like or any other responsible adult. Your dad needs help and this is the first step. Please talk to someone. Good luck to you.
2007-10-17 16:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by kimmer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question, he is going to hurt one of you bad , then its to late. Don't wait one min. get the police involved. I don't want to here about you your sister or brother on the 10 o'clock news.If you don't do something we will. your the oldest its up to you
2007-10-17 16:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by gggggg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the kids help line straight away. This isn't your fault. He is the one who is ruining your family and he needs help badly. Your brother will only start acting out worse if something isn't done to protect him -the same with your sister. Please please call that help line.
2007-10-17 16:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋