Over the years, my uncle (dad's brother) and his wife have borrowed about $30,000 from my mom and dad. They never attempted to pay back a cent, but apparently they are making enough to buy two pianos (one for each of their kids) and expensive video games for their son.
Now my sister went and stole an expensive purse (a gift) from my cousin's room, and my cousin wants it back and is fighting for it. But my mom is letting my sister get away with it. Her justification is that my aunt and uncle borrowed so much money from her and my dad that they shouldn't be letting their daughter attack her daughter over this. She says she's being a "wise grownup" about this (her words!). (by the way, I'm a legal adult)
Isn't that reasoning screwed up? She didn't even sound certain of herself when she said all this, she kept stuttering.
2007-10-17 13:49:37 · 6 answers · asked by questionable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If I lived under the same roof as my mom and my sister I'd have that purse back to its rightful owner in a heartbeat.
And if I were my mom I'd return the purse and then demand my aunt and uncle pay me back.
2007-10-17 13:49:55 · update #1
Two wrongs don't make a right. Unfortunately loaning money to friends and family is no good. Only lend money to them if you can afford to lose it. Loaning money to Friends and family has very little up but a whole lot of down.
Your sister should give back the stolen item. Mom and Dad need to settle with Uncle without involving children.
2007-10-17 14:14:39 · answer #1 · answered by tommy_1dolphinsfan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your parents have complained a lot about your aunt and uncle not repaying the loan and your sister has taken it to heart and decided that she was just taking back a little bit of what is owed to her Mom and Dad. In no way was it the right thing to do and she should return it, but let her know that you think you understand why she did it.
2007-10-17 21:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One has nothing to do with the other.
Your parents willingly allowed your aunt and uncle to borrow money. If they wanted it back they could have taken steps to do so.
Your sister has no right to steal a purse from your cousin and mom condoning it is really messed up.
2007-10-17 20:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess maybe your mother is letting her get away with it because no effort has been made by your aunt and uncle to pay them back. I would see it as a slap in the face if I lent some money to reletives when they needed it, to not have any effort in paying it back and then them go and buy not one, but two pianos.
2007-10-17 20:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why your mother would justify stealing in this way, but my advice for you is to steer clear and stay out of it. And watch your sister like a hawk when she visits.
2007-10-17 21:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A) Your parents want the money, so they should either get it or sue.
B) Your sis had no right to steal (against the law)
C) This is mostly your parents fault.
2007-10-17 21:00:15 · answer #6 · answered by **kayraa(: 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋