recently i found that my father is having an affair with other woman and i think i am the only one who know about this.
please give me the best way to tell this to my family.
2007-10-17 14:16:30 · 11 answers · asked by moja 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You better be darn sure that he is.....don't assume. Possibly, you could talk with your father.....believe me, most of the time the spouse already knows or has a feeling. Who would know your father better than your mother? It might sound kind of odd, but alot of times the person being cheated on doesn't really want to know for sure. If they do, then they have to make a decision......stay or break-up. Tough...when you are talking about years and children, etc. Do not tell your family... ask yourself why you would want to do this. If it turns out you are wrong...what then?
2007-10-17 14:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a tough call... and no matter what people will be hurt in the end. I would suggest you sit down and talk with your father.. let him know what you know and ask him point blank is it true.... Its really his job to be the one to tell your mom and the rest of the family, you are only the child and that is a big responsibility to have on your shoulders. If your father has any love for you at all I am sure he will do the right thing once you confront him. Best of luck to you
2007-10-18 00:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go to your mother and talk with her about whatever you have discovered that makes you think your dad is having an affair. I agree that it's inappropriate to talk with other family members about this problem unless it is a sibling. Because this is such an emotionally charged situation and potentially so devastating for your mom, it's much better to keep this confined to only those immediately concerned. I think because it is your mother that has possibly been betrayed, it's up to her to decide how to deal with it. It will only make it worse for her if she has to find out along with or after everyone else and also it could be more difficult for her to deal with if she has to handle everyone's comments in addition to trying to figure out this situation. Personally, I would NOT recommend talking to your dad about it. Most likely he will only get upset with you and may very well try to persuade you to not tell your mother. Even if he said he would stop, how can you trust the word of someone who is potentially living a lie? If he is being unfaithful, your mom has a right to know.. just give her the benefit of keeping it private and let her deal with the situation as she sees fit. I suggest telling your mom you need to talk to her about something you saw/heard your dad do. I would tell her you don't want to upset her but you love her and are worried about this and want to talk with her about it. I hope things work out ok for you and your family.. God bless!
2007-10-18 02:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by whiteraven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to tell this to your family?. The only results that will come out of it is that you will start the family quarelling with each other over your dad's issue.
The best way is to have a word with your dad and explain to him the repercussion that he will have and the disappointment that he will bring to the family when everyone finds out.
take care
2007-10-17 22:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about telling your "family" but I think you woe it to your mother to tell her privately. I would not discuss this with other family members, that is your mothers choice to divulge that information not yours. You should bring proof if possible, and don't be shocked if you get an angry response. Frequently when people learn of betrayal they tend to misdirect there anger, be patient and try to answer all her her questions as best you can. You owe it to your mother to keep quiet, this is a very sensitive matter.
2007-10-17 21:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to them straight up front about it. Just sit them down and tell them. I don't think that's right and I think you should tell the rest of the family and the best way is to sit 'em down and talk. I think the family needs to no so that it doesn't go on unnoticed and nothing done about it. Hope I helped!
2007-10-17 21:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't. Its not your place.
2007-10-17 21:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don'yt need to tell your family or anyone else for a fact . Let him tell them when he is ready todo that ,since , it's not your place to saY ANY THING ABOUT THIS MATTER ! It's his .
2007-10-17 23:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crissy is exactly right.
2007-10-17 21:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's his responsibility. Why do you feel it's yours?
2007-10-17 21:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋