Family - October 2007

my mum just broke up with my dad and she hust got married again, my step-dad's really nice in front of my mum but when she goes to work he starts getting angry at me and he asks me to do stuff that's too hard for me, the stuff that he meant to b doing. should i tell my mum? i dont want her to be sad again and broke up with him! Can someone give me a word of advice please!

2007-10-19 00:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by guiltyangel 1

2007-10-19 00:35:22 · 8 answers · asked by judy k 1

i have been smoking pot for 2 years now, but i have smelt it on my father for a long time before that. i have found various roaches and nuggets around the car also. i think it would be awesome if me and my father could smoke together but im just too afraid of the confrontation and of the consequences of me telling him i smoke as well. would he yell at me and ground me or would he ask me to join him one day? what should i do?

2007-10-19 00:28:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok, I'm 18 years old, my parents are in the middle of a divorce, my dad was just in the hospital with a serious illness and im the only family member who can take care of him, my mom says i never spend time with her, im going in to nursing school aka taking all my prerequisites, im engaged, my familys against it but his cant wait.. thats not til oct. 16th 2010. i work 12 hours tuesday and thursday, and go to school monday wensday and friday and work everyother weekend, im in 17 credit hours at school and my fiance lives with me as we house hop from his parents house, my moms and my dads. i am extremely stressed. can anyone help?!?!?!?!


oh and...
ok.. yes I AM the only one who can take care of my dad.. he cant afford a nurse.. NO my fiance is not muching off of me..he travels with me because its our only time together... our sex life is suffering horrible also :-(.. we house hop because we feel like our parents will be upset if we dont spend time with them.

2007-10-18 23:21:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

right, my daughters best friend and some other mates of hers, were killed in a crash 4 weeks ago and Joe, my daughters best mates dads said he's wrote on here and people give good answers, so i thought i would give it ago. my daughters best mate and her best mates boyfriend, my daughters boyfriend and 2 other girls and two other lads they were mates with where in a crash. one of the girls survived but she is in hospital with serious injuries. my daughter did not go out that night and i am very grateful that she didn't because she probably wouldn’t be alive now if she would have. but my daughters completely broken down. she says she wishes she was in the car with them all when they died. she doesn’t eat anymore,. she has said that she is thinking about killing herself so that she is with them all. i am so scared at what she might do. she doesn’t let anyone touch her or show anyone any feelings anymore. i have tried to get her to go to counselling but she says she doesn’t need it. help x

2007-10-18 22:34:06 · 17 answers · asked by {lauren} 1

By the way, my elder girl is 4yrs old and my younger one is 2 yrs old. They simply cannot get along.

2007-10-18 21:25:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Sis & I found out recently tt dad had an affair with a colleague last yr, but we decided to keep quiet abt it. Had a major argument with dad few days back & he made some personal attacks, so i mentioned abt his affair out of anger. Problem is, mum had no idea before this. Regretted it the moment it came out of my mouth & thus told her very vague details, leading her to think it might not be true.

I have the emails tt dad exchanged with the woman & know for sure they had an affair, but when mum asked me, i just came up with some random stuff, & told her to believe what my dad tells her.

But the damage is done, and i can no longer look at my dad the same way again. He also told me 'thanks for breaking up your parents' relationship', and told my aunt tt me and my sis has no respect for him at all.

If i wanted to break em up, i wld haf showed my mum the emails. but she still doesnt know the truth, n i'm torn btwn a responsibility 2wards her, & a responsibility 2wards the family.

2007-10-18 21:16:16 · 11 answers · asked by psychedelico 1

I am a very emotional person, and I hate it most of the time.
When I argue, I cant hold back my tears! I dont like it.. Please have suggestions on how to hold back my tears so that i can be able to say what i really wanted to say in a fight. Sometimes i find it unreasonable to cry during fights.. Your help will be much appreciated. Thank you

2007-10-18 20:57:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents have been divorced for almost 5 years. My dad is getting remarried to someone who is almost 20 years younger than him and my mother really disapproves of their "materialistic" life style. I made cupcakes for dad and less 4 mom though. She got extremely mad at this and told me that i should just go live at my dad's house. She told me that i would never understand how much pain SHE was in, but i think she will never really understand how much pain SHE has put ME through. I love my dad more than her, but i do love my mother. She wouldn't believe me when i told her that i do love her and than she started telling me that I was so horrible to her because i wouldnt pay attention to her. Im 15!! Why cant i have my own life. I KNOW this sounds "my life as a teenager" thing, but my mom made like 80 plans with me over the weekend so i couldnt hang out with my friends or ANYONE ELSE the whole weekend.
I would really just like some feedback of what do to or if how she acted is OK...

2007-10-18 20:20:06 · 10 answers · asked by mobydick 3

So i have a 2 month old daughter and i just found out tonight he has been cheating on me for the past 10 months and he lives with this girl. I don't understand because whenever we see eachother hes always acting like we are together..kissing and hugging on me and stuff. Also when we talk on the phone he tells me he still loves me and misses me and everything else. He also hasn't done anything for our daughter since she was born. I live with my parents and he came over once and I wouldnt let him take the baby over night because i was breastfeeding, and he punched out the screen and got in my dad's face. So now he is not allowed back at my house. I really don't want him around our daughter at all after finding this and that he smokes weed and does x out. Am I wrong for not wanting him in our lives at all? or should I still let him see his daughter?

2007-10-18 19:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, my partner was abused from the age or 8 until 16 when he finally moved out of home by his mothers boyfriend, he was psychally and mentally abused but not sexually. His mother never did anything about it and pretty much told him that he deserved it, the same thing happened to his other brother who eventually moved out and now we have found out the same thing is happening to his other 14 year old brother, i find it totally wrong, her whole household is screwed up, the 14 year old and his gf live in a bungalow out the back and the rest of the kids live inside, there uncle who smokes marijuana lives there and they drink every single weekend to excess (im talking about underage drinking, drinks supplied by the mother).. I just can not understand how this can go on. Do I have the right to ring Welfare or Childrens Services about the abuse that is going on? Im in Australia if that helps. Thankyou for any answers!

2007-10-18 18:49:38 · 7 answers · asked by honeychild_star 3

2007-10-18 18:36:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom Is the most amaizing woman alive to ever walk the earth She bends baackwards for me and my idiot brothers I love her to death But i make myself sick thinking about what im gonna do when she dies I actaullly Cried myself to sleep thinking about it I cant stop. And Im 13 So im like moodswing central and i keep getting in fights with her but I know The things I say hurt her soo bad and i hate myself for it PLEASe HELPPPPPP!!!

2007-10-18 18:34:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband took all the money (enough to live for years) that I have saved for my child. My husband and I were living together for 17 years. we were living peacefully had our own business and house. but 3 weeks before, it went bankrupt and we had to close our store. 2 weeks before my husband and i were not fighting, we were busy closing the store. at that time, my husband ran away. he stole my money that i had saved for my son, my husband's bankbook, passport, all the important things for him. i really don't know why he did this to us. we're not fighting or anything. i loved, took good care of him, i gave my life to him. why did he do this to us. Now, my question is, in my case, after my husband abandoned me, will he still come back?in the place where i am now, it's hard to get support from the government and legal actions seem impossible too. i am begging him to come back before he runs out of money so i can get the remaining sum of money he took. he might come back to take our house or sell it somewhere else while he is away. me and my son will be evicted from the house. i would appreciate suggestions. thank you very much

2007-10-18 18:30:39 · 29 answers · asked by Nicole 1

My SIL (DH's younger sis) is turning 23 next week. She currently is working full time with good salary and going to school part time. Her car desperately needs a paint job. MIL was just talking to her yesterday that maybe she should get it painted. SIL basically said she didn't care and would rather use the money for something else.
DH comes up with the brilliant idea to trade his car with his sis's and surprise her with a newly painted car. See, he has a business friend that could paint it for $100. We dicussed this and even though it was a little more than I wanted to spend on a birthday gift, he *really* seemed to be proud of his idea. So I said $100 max on this gift and he agreed.
Now, I just learned that $100 is just for paint and doesnt include labor. He wants to spend $200 now and I disagreed and said we should buy another gift within our original budget. He is mad at me! WWYD?

2007-10-18 18:08:06 · 18 answers · asked by lemontree 1

I have raised my children alone four seven years , how do I do it for another seven with out killing my 15 year old son

2007-10-18 18:01:37 · 16 answers · asked by kevin d 4

Well its a long story but i'll keep it short and sweet. Basically my friend stole her step dads car, he called the cops. She got caught. I didnt because i dropped myself off at home before they could find us. But she snitched on me and told her step dad i was driving. So he told my mom....Now my mom wont let me drive untill im 18.
What can i do to gain her trust back or change her mind?
i know it was a stupid thing to do so save me the lectures.

2007-10-18 18:01:07 · 6 answers · asked by Alisonnnnn 3

my future in laws (my bf's sisters & mom) lives in California and we have the same culture. when his mom found out about me (when we became gf & bf), his mom got mad and wants his son to marry the daughter of her friend. but my bf doesnt like her. his mom was mad at my bf and to me. and now, his sister is mad at me also and i dont know whats the reason why. maybe she doesnt like me. even im good to them. she'll be coming home in our native country to visit her dad. now im afraid if we'll have a cat fight since we had a word war over the email accusing me of being a user and all. but its not all true!
how will i deal her if we will see each other?? i dont like to have a fight w/ her. my bf isnt coming home so no one will protect me. what will i do? will i show up if ever we'll meet?

2007-10-18 17:52:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

you care too much what your close friends and family think and if you think they aren't happy with you, you break down and cry?
is there like a diease like that or something? is there a way to stop? i need help....

2007-10-18 17:50:44 · 11 answers · asked by JuStCurious! 2

I need help with my dtr's anger issues. When she gets angry (which is frequently) gets out of control and worry about it a lot.
Anyone knows how she can get help and what kind of help I should look into for her? She refuses psychotherapy and argues constantly at home.
Any groups/books/therapy methods I can look into?
Thank you all in advance

2007-10-18 17:42:11 · 4 answers · asked by The_last_Amazona 3

I have a 15 yr gr daughter who can not seem to get along with her mother, they bicker, fight. My gr dtr recently didn't come home after school, she wants to live with me. She doesn't realize I am a bigger tryant then her Mom. I raised mine do I have to raise hers. I love her dearly, but my health isn't the best. Help!!

2007-10-18 17:30:21 · 10 answers · asked by luvsmusiz 4

My cell has a web enabled phone so i can check my email on the go. My dad and i were in the car and he was waiting for an important email, so i offered him to use my cell to sign in and check his email, he did and he didnt sign out. So the next day i went to check my email and he was stil logged it, i didnt mean to look, i honestly dont care about his emails. BUT he did have a TON of porn emails. And id like to think they were just spam but i harldy ever get bad emails and he had a TON. Does this mean he looks at porn? or could it just be an unusual amont of spam? my dad a VERY stong christian and it freaks me out a little bit.
(i know i shouldnt have went threw his mail, i dont need a lecture, i honestly didnt mean too.)

2007-10-18 16:14:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been having problems financially. My dad owns his own company and people are refusing to pay or saying tomorrow, giving him stories. We really need money right now or we will lose our house, can you please pray for us...Thankyou

2007-10-18 15:31:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, Hi everyone, Im a 16 year old guy and Im down and out because I never really see my parents.
Yes we all live in the same house, but they are always busy, we never get to really to sit down and have "family" time. When I get home from school the house is empty, and when I wake up for school they are leaving for work.

What can I do to make our family be an actual...family.
Thanks everyone.

2007-10-18 15:27:15 · 6 answers · asked by B-Rad 4

ok, i have like no close friends. im really shy, my closest friend is my boyfriend, when he's busy i have nothing to do and it makes me sad. my parents want me to babysit WAY too much. which results in me haveing no time to go out and make friends. they expect me to babysit my sister like every weekend while they go out with their friends. im 16, its my turn to go out and party and socialize. it ruining my life, i feel like a loser. i want to make more friends. am i overreacting? or how can i fix this?

2007-10-18 15:21:48 · 11 answers · asked by ......//;' 4

My husband and I have some issues with our family I know who doesnt. These may seem like there are not a big deal but we feel they are. With his family his older brother had a baby 3 years ago and the little kid gets all the attention and so does the older brother and my husband and I and his younger brother get nothing. Even when my husband was growing up him and his younger brother got nothing. My husband feels nothing he does is good enough and does not like really going to see his family a lot as when we are there no one pays attention to us or really talks to us. How should we handle the problem? I know lots of other families where an emphais is not placed soley on 2 people.

2007-10-18 15:08:40 · 8 answers · asked by molldoll090206 1

I'm 16 and I live at home with three siblings who're all grade-school age. My mother and I as of late have not been getting along. She's had a lot of stress and her parenting is starting to slip. She's been yelling profanities at my siblings and I, and telling them that if they want to cry they should do it into a pillow, hitting us more, ect. I have been thinking about leaving for a while but she's recently told me that she can't wait until I leave and she'll be happy when I go, and that she wants me to leave as soon as possible.

So I've gotten in touch with child and youth services and tomorrow I have an appointment to tour a group home and hopefully make a good impression there. The rent, though, is 325$.

To pay rent I can either apply for student welfare or I can take my mom to court. She's going through a lot of stress and is tight for money but I'll need to make rent and SHE is the one asking me to leave. Opinions?

2007-10-18 14:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by ratemylunch 3

My family keeps secrets from each other. Is your family like that?

2007-10-18 14:04:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im in desperate need to find a cure to control these kids without turning custody over to their dad cause i cant figure it out. call me stupid but ive grounded, taken things away, washed mouths out, went to a shrink who says i dont spend enough mommytime with them but when i try its a lost cause either by argueing or fighting. we cant have fun anymore constant bickering. i thought id never say i wanted to give my kids up but im gonna end up dying before im 40 if this keeps up. Someone give me some advice PLEASE!!!!

2007-10-18 14:01:33 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1

i need to earn money 4 my family

2007-10-18 13:59:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous