I told my mother it's too bad God gave her cancer and not my father... (the jerk), was I wrong?

Question

I mean it is how I truly feel. Isn't it better to be honest?

Answer 1

Sometimes life isnt fair. You sound like if your father never was there for you, but ur mother did. and she means a lot to you. Is correct to think what you think (sometimes) but u can't say that that freely, it hurts the peoples feelings. Sometimes, you have to face hard situations with the person u love and need most...but you have to accept it and be supportive with your mom, in this moment she needs u more than anything. I hope she gets better.

Answer 2

God didn't give your mother cancer. You can turn to Him because he knows how bad you're feeling. He can give you strength while you're going through this difficult time. He allowed her to have cancer because she's just a person living in a world with all sorts of horrible things happening. Some day we will understand why these things are allowed to happen. I'm sure your mother understood why you said what you said so don't feel guilty about having said it. It was honest. And now just be there to help your mother in any way you can and most of all, let her know how much you love her. God bless you both.

Answer 3

Yes you were wrong. I'm guessing you don't know God very well. The God of the Old Testament of the Bible prescribes the death penalty for people who curse their parents, which is what you did. Why would you ever want to wish such an awful thing on anybody?

In the New Testament, fortunately we have a savior, Jesus Christ, who took upon Him these curses. If we ask Him to forgive us, He says He will do so. He also offers to heal us of our diseases. Unfortunately few of us get to know Him that well that we can believe such a thing.

Having faith is a helpful thing during illnesses and other trying times. How about you find yourself a way of seeing God, and others, in a more positive light? Bitterness only ends up poisoning you in the long run.

Now, I expect you have good reasons for being disappointed with your father. But again, bitter thoughts will only hurt you. And your mother doesn't need to be exposed to such hostility at this time (if ever). What else can you do about this?

Answer 4

What on earth did your father do to you that you would say something like that? Wow. With all that pent up hate you need to get professional counseling so it doesn't eat you up inside. Also your mother does not need to hear your overwrought over emotional rants right now; she is fighting for her life. Put your own emotional on the back burner and help her by keeping your mouth shut about your father.

Answer 5

If my mother had cancer, I'd probably feel the same way about my own father. Sounds to me like you're just being human.

Answer 6

"I told my mother it's too bad God gave her cancer and not my father... (the jerk), was I wrong?"

Well now what do you think?

Answer 7

Sometimes it's best to hold your tongue. Deal with your resentment toward your father instead of using it as a way to deal with whats going on with your mom.

And you may try a support group or some counselling to deal with your mom's cancer. You need to be there for her... not focusing your energy being mad at your dad.

Answer 8

Not true.

Even though we sometimes feel it, God is a loving Father. He has not forgotten you.

Chester

Answer 9

It probably hurts her to hear that. Even though he may be a jerk deep down she probably loves him, and wouldn't ever wish anything like that upon someone. I understand how you would feel but maybe it wasn't the best to tell her.
I don't know though maybe it doesn't bother her.

Answer 10

i think as long as it doesn't cause tension between you and your mom, then it's ok. i know that thoughts like that can be hard sometimes to deal with and your not sure if you should have them and more importantly if you should say them, but if they are what you truely believe then ya it's ok to say them. but if there is any doubt about these feeling i wouldn't say them, they can only bring hurt to you.