my husband abandoned me, will he still come back??

Question

my husband took all the money (enough to live for years) that I have saved for my child. My husband and I were living together for 17 years. we were living peacefully had our own business and house. but 3 weeks before, it went bankrupt and we had to close our store. 2 weeks before my husband and i were not fighting, we were busy closing the store. at that time, my husband ran away. he stole my money that i had saved for my son, my husband's bankbook, passport, all the important things for him. i really don't know why he did this to us. we're not fighting or anything. i loved, took good care of him, i gave my life to him. why did he do this to us. Now, my question is, in my case, after my husband abandoned me, will he still come back?in the place where i am now, it's hard to get support from the government and legal actions seem impossible too. i am begging him to come back before he runs out of money so i can get the remaining sum of money he took. he might come back to take our house or sell it somewhere else while he is away. me and my son will be evicted from the house. i would appreciate suggestions. thank you very much

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear about all your misfortunes.

Please tell us what country you are from, if you can, so we can provide better information. I do think you will have to get police and/or legal assistance with this, if you can't talk him into returning, or at least, talk him into giving you one-half of the money. In most states of the U.S., money saved by either partner during a marriage is common property, and must be split upon divorce.

There are a couple reasons I can think of why your husband did this, and none of them have to do with you. (A) He panicked under the stress of losing the business; or (B) He has done something financially illegal, and now that your business has failed, he felt he needed to run away before you and/or others found out. They are both very cowardly actions, especially abandoning a wife and child, and I'm very sorry. I'm certain you are very lonely and confused right now, and I don't know how you can convince your husband to return if he has already gone to the lengths he has to abandon you.

In the U.S., you might be forced to file bankruptcy under your circumstances. If you don't live in the U.S., I don't know what your laws and options are, but I would recommend getting legal, police, or some other kind of social service help. If you are a person of faith, I recommend you start praying now and don't stop until it's all over, which may take a long time.

Answer 2

First of all, I am very sorry to hear about your problems. But these are not problems that can't be overcome. Remember, money out of anything else can always be replaced. Now is the time for you to take the proper action.

Immediately contact an attorney and seek his or her advice. You need to be protected and an attorney can do this for you best. What he has done might involve the police, I don't know, but an attorney can best advise you on this.

You can recover from this. After some hard work, you can succeed.

Will he come back? That isn't important, contact an attorney and all the proper action to be taken and find your attorney's advice exactly. He or she might tell you what you want to hear, but it is in your best interests. Do this right away.

If you don't know how to find an attorney. Call your local Bar Association and ask for a referral of an attorney who can handle what has happen best in your area.

Why did he run away? Cause he is a coward.

Ignore those telling you to pray. That is the act of a lazy and weak person. Wishful thinking isn't going to fix anything. YOU MUST TAKE ACTION NOW. CALL AN ATTORNEY!!!

I hope this has been helpful to you!

Answer 3

Nicole,
No one can tell you what your husband will do in this case.
You need to get a good lawyer as fast as you can.

Now for my two cents - even if you love him, how can you ever trust him again? He didn't slip off to a strip joint - he took off with everything you've worked for. This isn't an accident or a bad dream he will wake up from. I'm sure you are hurting now, and you have my sympathy, however, aren't you just a little angry? It sounds like you are in touch with him. Didn't he give you a reason? I mean - is he saying anything useful at all? There's no valid reason for what he did, but it would help to know what his irrational mind is thinking in order to know what he is planning on doing.

Please get the lawyer asap. Then - do what you can to salvage the situation for you and your son. You can see how the relationship and husband issues pan out after you have covered your critical issues.

Good luck
Kevin

Answer 4

My husband left me on June 21, 2007. I saw him in the morning and I knew he was feeling down about his job but he seemed okay otherwise. I came home from work that evening and was gone. His clothes were gone, his car was gone, and he left a note "donating" the condo to me. To this day, I have not heard a word from him. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you also. Your husband will not come back and even if he does it doesn't matter. You will never be able to trust him again. Your money is gone and more importantly, your life is gone as you knew it. I understand the pain you're going through. Do what you need to do to feel better and don't listen to anyone else's advice or let anyone tell you what you should to do.

Answer 5

Report him to the police, immediately. Why in the "blank" would you want that loser back. Is that the kind of man you want around your kids? Who cares if he is the father, he did not care when he left.

Get some legal counseling. Let him stay long gone, sell the house and see about filing for divorce. Start a new life somewhere else and get your kids and yourself to a new and better beginning.

Start another business, look around for something. There are plenty of businesses you can do from home. Get your child a bank account of his/or her own.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is gone. After being together as long as you have could it be he's close to 40? Mid-life crisis? No matter what the reason if he loved you and your son he would have never done that. You need to worry less about him and more about your son who depends on you. Even if he did come back why would you want someone back that loves you so much he took all the money and is out having a good time while he leaves you behind to handle all the issues yourself. Don't sound like love on his part. Just because you wasn't fighting don't mean there wasn't something wrong with the relationship. Quiet focusing on the time around the business closing and go a little farther back...any differences?

Answer 7

Call a lawyer. Now. Start work on the divorce and see who you can turn to for help. Family... friends... If you are worried about a place to live, see if someone has an extra bedroom or a couch you can use as a backup.

Don't expect him to return. That's energy wasted.
You need to step up and take care of you and yours.

Make sure you ahev your own seperate banking account and start saving into it. Sell anything you don't need and get a job.

Churches can often help, too. They have resources and can direct you to the right places to find help.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

Firstly, if he has stolen money that doesn't belong to him, he can be charged with theft, so I would suggest you report the things he has taken from your son to police, that's a start. Secondly do you really want him back after such a betrayal? That's up to you to decide. I think i would be contacting the family law courts and get advice about your rights, considering half of the assets are yours. Don't take any crap from him, do what you have to do to support your family. Get on to it as fast as you can before the funds are gone and unable to be retrieved. There are many support groups for women in your situtation, maybe the family law courts could give you some numbers or look in your phone book for a support group. You have every right to take back what is yours, he is obviously foolish and has no idea of the extent of trouble he could find himself in if he doesn't return what isn't his! Be strong!! fight him!

Answer 9

He isn't coming back unless the money is all gone. He bankrupted your business and and stole all the money. He may have ran off with another woman or it could be drugs. Face it, he has been stealing from the business for a while. You may need to sell the house and start all over again. If he comes back you shouldn't want him back or take him back. The man took his passport so I guess he left the country and is going to start all over again. Pray and keep praying. God will help you if you open your heart to him.

Answer 10

Thinking Emotionally he might have taken all the money to start a new business which he didnt wanna inform you about or might be too embaressed to ask for your money.
Thinking Rationally you must give his photo in the Police and ask them to find the person as he has ran away with the money. And then file a case against him.
Both options are here, you decide.