So i have a 2 month old daughter and i just found out tonight he has been cheating on me for the past 10 months and he lives with this girl. I don't understand because whenever we see eachother hes always acting like we are together..kissing and hugging on me and stuff. Also when we talk on the phone he tells me he still loves me and misses me and everything else. He also hasn't done anything for our daughter since she was born. I live with my parents and he came over once and I wouldnt let him take the baby over night because i was breastfeeding, and he punched out the screen and got in my dad's face. So now he is not allowed back at my house. I really don't want him around our daughter at all after finding this and that he smokes weed and does x out. Am I wrong for not wanting him in our lives at all? or should I still let him see his daughter?
2007-10-18 19:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would be very careful about allowing this walking disaster have visitation rights with your daughter.
Should you decide to let him see your daughter, I strongly recommend supervised, with law enforcement officials present.
So what about his feelings? It's your daughter you should be protecting.
2007-10-18 20:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Living In Korea 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow
what did you ever see in the looser?
I really feel bad for your daughter....of course he 'loves you and misses you' he doesnt want to pay child support and of course as long as you 'love him and miss him' he can be sure you wont make him.
This guy lives with another woman....this guy disrespected YOUR father in your own house, this guy hasn't done anything for your daughter and he LOVES YOU?
he has a VERY funny way of showing it.
I dont get it....go child support for your little girl
she deserves that.
I suspect that if he wasnt living with another woman you would overlook the weed and drugs so I think you should allow him to see his daughter at a neutral place WITH you and your mother present. DON"T GO ALONE and do not let him leave with your daughter
2007-10-18 21:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you are wrong although I understand your attitude
For now he doesn't need to be around the baby, because right now you are the most important person for your child. But when your daughter grows up she wants and has the right to know who her biological father is.
If you prohibit the contact between your daughter and her father she won't be able to get her own opinion about him plus she might start to hate you because of denying her the right to do so.
Once she is old enough she'll get to know him and be aware of his behavior.
Good luck!
My opinion is based on my personal experience - I have never met my father and that hurts me very much.
2007-10-18 21:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by susiq 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to see his daughter, make the court set up supervised visits only. He probably wanted to show the daughter to the new girl friend so he may forget all about her in time. If he does want to see her, make sure that there is a decision as to child support first and that it is paid
2007-10-18 21:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong for not wanting him in your lives but he is your daughters father and for that reason she should know him as she grows.
I understand your concern and he doesn't seem like he deserves to have your daughter in his life but she deserves to know him. Maybe you could apply through the courts so that any access he has with her is supervised by social services or something like that?
Good luck with your beautiful baby girl, I hope it all works out for you.
2007-10-18 20:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter really does not need to be around this sory of thing. You need to think about her. Tell him to grow and up and become a man and the father this child needs and if he doesn;t then move on. Have more self respect for yourself. You can do better for you and for your child.
2007-10-18 20:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by top_mumsy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's up that you would even think about letting someone like him around your baby? Be her protector.
2007-10-19 00:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE TO DO WHATEVER YOU FEEL IS IN THE BEST INTEREST AND SAFETY OF YOUR BABY. I HAVE CUSTODY OF MY GRANDSON BECAUSE OF NEGLECT FROM HIS MOTHER WHILE ON X. HE ALMOST DIED OF SEVERE INFECTION. IF DAD WANTS HER MAKE HIM EARN YOUR TRUST FIRST. YOU CAN'T TRUST A DRUGGY-EVER!
2007-10-18 22:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋