I have raised my children alone four seven years , how do I do it for another seven with out killing my 15 year old son
2007-10-18 18:01:37 · 16 answers · asked by kevin d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't let him drive!
2007-10-18 18:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by ssweeps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be best friends with your children... you can be their ally, but not a friend.
You have to be the parent, which means you must use every method at your disposal to instill the values in your children that will help them to be successful in life. They cannot navigate our society without morals, ethics, responsibility and respect. You only have 3 years to pass this knowledge on to your son.
If that means instilling respect by means of a well aimed slap on the face or a doubled-up belt across their behinds, then so be it. If you have to take away prized possessions (computer, I-pod, video game), or ground them, that is fine. You do what you must to get the point across.
You provide for all of their needs, so while they are under your roof, the kids must obey your rules. They must go to school, keep their grades up, do their homework, pick up after themselves and do whatever chores you ask of them. If they will not comply, the door is that-a-way. You have to handle these little insurrections hard and fast.
Your new mantra is, “If the mama ain’t happy, then NOBODY is happy.” The mama is the ultimate authority. You must step into your power as such.
The parents who leave the parenting to the school system and the kids' peers, will indeed reap what they sow. They will spend more time hauling the kids to rehab clinics, bailing them out of jail, and probably supporting the little rats into their 30s.
2007-10-18 18:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have come this far raising your children alone..obviously things are not easy being a lone parent.The teenage years are difficult and easy at the same time. Lay down some ground rules..what is acceptable..what is not.Allow some lee-way regarding curfew from time to time. The main thing you need to get right is respect and trust. Do not be your sons best friend..you are his guardian..you are responsible for him...teach him to be responsible for himself and his own actions also. If you cant get any of this right...then kill him.
2007-10-18 23:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by minska89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By remembering that this stage does pass.
Most teenagers go through a rebellious stage, some worse than others and it can feel as though you have completely lost them at times BUT there is light at the end of this tunnel.
Carry on being a great parent, having and enforcing the rules, being there even if you don't seem to be wanted etc and soon he will have passed all this and you may find your relationship stronger than ever.
2007-10-19 19:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by mi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of 3 sons aged 30 27 and 18 I can promise you that if you can get through this you will one day be friends. Just lay down your rules (reasonable ones that you can justify) and STICK TO THEM without losing your temper or being abusive.........sounds impossible? it is! but you have to do it - just remember YOU are the adult. - Good Luck.
2007-10-18 22:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by ffiondove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him loads of love and attention
Hard i know if he is a pain in the butt
Include him in everything you do, even down to choosing what shopping you get. Get him to help you more but doing things together e.g. you wash I'll dry, so there is only the pair of you in the kitchen.
Treat him like the pair of you are a team, but laying down some boundaries
good luck
2007-10-18 18:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to communicate with your kids. Talk to them and spend a lot of time with them. Make sure you know who their friends are and where they hang out. Make sure they have a curfew, trouble is so easy to get in to but hard to get out of. A little tough love doesn't hurt either. Talk to them and never yell. Remember he didn't ask to be here but you wanted him here so you have to be responsible and raise him the best you can and pray.
2007-10-18 18:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 a funny age i was lucky i had my husband to help with my three boys my middle lad was just like kevin off harry enfield just do your best it does get easier at about 22 other 2 boys left home now getting on with there lives but the middle one still at home and he is 26 on sunday.
2007-10-18 18:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lynn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers, pushing you to the limit. it's part of growing up, try and go with the flow but be in charge, as long as he is not into serious stuff such as drugs and other crime, I don't really think there is a standard answer.
2007-10-18 21:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of women want children but are unable to for some reason. Consider it a blessing to have kids. Actually they are a blessing.
2007-10-18 20:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by kazte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline and if that does not work just take a belt and hit them once in a while
2007-10-18 19:27:04 · answer #11 · answered by Nat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋