my mum just broke up with my dad and she hust got married again, my step-dad's really nice in front of my mum but when she goes to work he starts getting angry at me and he asks me to do stuff that's too hard for me, the stuff that he meant to b doing. should i tell my mum? i dont want her to be sad again and broke up with him! Can someone give me a word of advice please!
2007-10-19 00:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by guiltyangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well i think that you should say something to your mom its better that you are OK then your mom thinking that this is a great guy when really hes not
2007-10-19 00:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step father shouldn't be telling you what to do, especially if it's too difficult for you.
Yes you can ask your mom to have a family chat... you can tell BOTH of them how you feel, and what is going on.
Tell your Mom you want the family to get along, and to try and work out issues. Tell them both you feel put down and hurt when your step father is angry with you, and you'd like to know what you can do to make things better. DO say that you are willing to help around home, with things you're able to do.
You need to confront him on this when your mom is around.
If your mom and this guy break up? Well, it's not your fault... she rushed into this arrangement quite quickly after breaking up with your dad, and usually when a person jumps from one relationship to the next, they are "rebounding" Rebound relationships usually don't work, sorry to say.
2007-10-19 02:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this all happened pretty fast too. I'd tell her what's going on so she's aware of the situation and that you set your precedent here with him. She may not know this man as well as she thinks she does and needs to know what is going on with the two of you while she's not around. He also needs to know in a non-direct manner from you or from your mother more directly where the lines lay. He will only continue to expect you to do things you shouldn't be responsible for if something is said/done. He may be not a nice guy like you think or he just has no clue on how to deal with young people. Either way your mom needs to know. Good luck.
2007-10-19 01:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a talk with your Mom when he is not around. Tell her how you feel and what he is doing to you. You should not have to put up with that from any one. but be truthful to everyone in volved. It might even helping if you can talk to your Dad about things. You should not have to be in pain and suffer at the hands of a step-parent. Or any parent for that matter. But just have an very open and honest conversation with your Mom.
2007-10-19 01:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by iceprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are sweet thinking about your mum first. I would keep a diary & list all the things hes making you do, sort of accidently leave it for her to find. Then have a heart to heart, Best get this sorted before anything nasty happens to you! good luck x
2007-10-19 00:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by sarahmac 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a video camera then set it up and record his 'mom not home' personality for a few days. Then show it to your mom.
2007-10-19 02:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell to ur mum the truth , rite away , b4 h too late
2007-10-19 03:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by MIla M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom...an estrangement from you would be worse than losing any man...honest...if you start keeping secrets now it will get worse in the future...
2007-10-19 01:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this reminds me of my family.... my mum had an affair.. but my step dad is a complette nob .. he asked me to do things trhat icant do... but just go with itn tell your mum ..
2007-10-19 01:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by X-xnattyattyx-X a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay as far away from him as you can. if possible insist on always living when your mom does...believe me he/she will get the point
2007-10-19 01:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by marxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋