How do I handle my two daughters who are always fighting with each other?

Question

By the way, my elder girl is 4yrs old and my younger one is 2 yrs old. They simply cannot get along.

Answer 1

You could always try doing what my dad did and punish both of them no matter who was at fault. What tends to happen then is that they are so pissed off with you that they decide to make a united front against you solving the problem of them not getting along

Answer 2

This is from a gay guy that wants daughters. They are young. They are going to fight hit scream anything. I dont know how my mother put up with my sister and brother and me. We did nothing but fight with each other. But at the end we will always be there for each other. My sister and I are closer. She is now 17 god we are getting old and she has a 2 year old son. Kids have a short tension spam i dont think i spelled that right. So they will do anything anything to get attention. But if it does get out of hand Ma your going to have to use the big word punishment. Even for the 2 year old. You dont want them to grow up and think they can do anything. Tell the 4 year old bedroom and the 2 year old to sit. No baby talk either. Or have them both sit on the couch doing nothing for you know like 2 hours if not a little shorter and ask them if they have learn a lesson and if they have said yes then tell them both to say sorry mommy to make u mad and say sorry to eachother. And if they are fighting over toys make them share. That is what life is about sharen. And to me ur daughters are young and maybe u are young too. Doesnt make you a bad mother if you get stress. They do have books and videos and other things out there to help you. Even talk to other moms that live around you. Its called girl talk. Good luck ma and i hope the best for you and ur little girls.

Answer 3

Of course they can't. That's why they are the children and you are the adult. You have 2 choices. 1. Buy as many computers as needed to keep everyone happy and surrender any parental responsibility. Actually not surrender...buy your way out of it. OR 2. Being the adult, YOU determine who will use the computer and when and for how long and then stick to it and enforce it. This would be my choice because : A) it is cheaper B) It maintains the relationship of Mom as the boss C) it encourages your daughters to do something OTHER than sit in front of a PC, try exercise, girl scouts, sports, actually visiting a friend face to face ( I used to do this every day as a teenager, what a concept) Really. Of course YES they will object. Too bad. YES they will have a bucket of excuses why they need more time, a different time, yada, yada, yada. They will use the excuse that they need it for "school work" Not really, I did all my schoolwork through 4 years of college without a computer. But if YOU think it is necessary, then establish a separate time for school work but no connection to the internet. OF COURSE, they NEED to connect to the internet to DO thier school work. OK, then use the time you have given them each day to research school work on the internet. But THAT will interfere with their time chatting to friends. YES! Homework interferes with chatting to friends! Always did, even before computers! NOW, they have a choice. Use their time on the internet for school work, OR chat with friends and do research in an ENCYCLOPEDIA!!!!! I understand they actually still make those, printed on PAPER and bound in a BOOK. And, good news, there are STILL libraries! I actually enjoy going to a library, always did. Put the computer in a public place with the monitor facing into a public area of the house. By "public" I mean a common use area, the living room, den, kitchen. Make the space as efficient, but not necessarily comfortable, as possible. Have as little as possible horizontal open space (desktop) around the computer. No food or drinks (say it is to protect the computer, actually it is to limit their time in front of the monitor) Bascially give them a place to work, not to lounge, eat, drink, sleep, whatever. You will be the worst mom in the world! Which means you are a good mom. They will realize this about the time of their 43rd birthday. Then they will send you a card (probably an "e-card") on mothers day and say "thanks for being a good mom" After several hours of jabberjawing, and maybe a few days of pouting, they will get over it and adjust. Have fun. My kids are grown! hehehe Believe me, if I could, I would have grandchildren first!

Answer 4

Same was with my sister and myself, and it did not end for many years. We were just two different people. My sister was jealous of me because she thought I got the most attention, was more attractive, more talented and smarter. I thought the same about her. My brother was the mediator, and when he passed away, we barely even spoke to each other. When similar disasters (hurricanes) almost destroyed our lives (in two different areas of the country) we actually became closer, although our lives are not even close to similar. It never had anything to do with not loving each other, we just could not agree on anything.


My suggestion is not to expect too much, other than for them to respect and love each other. Just make sure that both feel equally loved, and that you praise each for everything that they do good, and punish them for everything they do bad. Make them apologize to each other when they do not treat each other nicely. Help them to find their own talents, and make sure that they always feel secure in themselves and their family lives. Make sure that love, hugs, and kisses are always given to them, and happen between them.

Good Luck! My mother was wonderful about giving us both a lot of attention.

Answer 5

You have to be the constant arbitrator, mediator, etc. I know you know this, but children have to be taught to get along. And it can be a long process seeing to it that they learn. Good luck.

Answer 6

little kids simply fight from time to time sit them both down and explain to them that fighting isn't OK usually kids fight over toys and belongings of that nature if that's the case teach them to share

Answer 7

Read "Sibling without Rivalry". It helps.

Answer 8

SEND THEM TO TWO RELATIVES HOUSES AND THEY WILL BE OKAY BECAUSE THEY WILL MEET THEIR NEW BOYFRIENDS.

IT HAS BEEN AN ANCIENT CUSTOM AND TRADITION BY
ALL FAMILY IN THIS WORLD.

ANYWAY BASE ON EXPERIENCE, IT HAS TO DO WITH NUMBERS?

Answer 9

give them a tonnes of educational exercises until they weak...

Answer 10

buy them some boxing gloves