Family - October 2007

okay.my dad is an alcoholic and i want to try to get him to stop.
he's made soo many promises and broke them soo many times.my mom,his mom,me,and my grandma have tried to get him to stop.so i know counciling is out of the question.he comes home drunk about 3 times mon.-thurs. and he stays drunk friday and saturday.every sunday he takes me out to the mall or movies as a ''sorry''.what should i do to try to get him to stop.asking wont help.i also brought up that i want him and my mom to divorce because he drinks so bad.that didn't work.what will?please help me.i love my dad and i dont want to see him get hurt for drunk driving or something stupid he might do.

2007-10-20 17:52:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 20-year-old brother has been seeing a girl that is 28 and has two kids. He told me things about her that I don't approve of (that no normal person would approve of). She's a Wiccan for one thing and does witchcraft. For another she's into other "weird" things if you know what I mean. But what worried me the most is that she's into self-mutilation. But for the sake of our relationship I bit my tongue and kept my opinion to myself. He came home last night with big scratch marks on his arm. I asked where the scratches came from and he told me he had done them himself. That's when I just lost it. I didn't say anything then but later I tried to peacefully confront him about what he done. He got angry with me and told me he hated me and that he had always hated me for a long time. Me and my husband also have a two-year-old that I am concerned about him being around. I told my bro that he couldn't be alone with his nephew anymore until he improved his behavior. I just don't know what 2 d0.

2007-10-20 17:34:07 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

She is 30 years old, married, and she has a new baby. I am petrified when she comes to our house. She opens drawers in our bedroom, takes things she wants without asking, and I am over it.

2007-10-20 17:30:47 · 8 answers · asked by Sunshine75 3

When he gets paid, he faithfully gives us the money & we pay the loan. That's not the problem. My son has a junior license which means he must be off the road and home by 11pm. He cannot drive between the hours of 11pm & 7am. On weekends after work, he works till 8pm, he goes straight out with his friends and doesn't come home till 12 or 1am. I'll call his cell phone and he says I'll be home soon and doesn't show up till 45 minutes later. He has straight A's in school and is respectful in all other ways. He just got the car about 2 months ago. I understand it feels good to have freedom at his age but I worry something could happen that late. Especially drunk drivers. I always see him wear his seat belt and obeys road laws but he won't come home on time. I was crying the one night cause he forgot his cell phone and didn't call me I didn't know if he was okay. I was so mad I didn't speak to him. The car is in our name.

2007-10-20 17:01:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom says she is a good mother but i'm skeptical. here is what she does
1. curses a lot(f word, s, word, she curses in jamaican when she's really mad)
2. Says i am stupid
3. says im lazy, nasty, and digusting
4. in front of people she said she would break my neck for something i didn't do
5. talks about me on the phone when she KNOWS FULLY WELL the person on the phone can hear me

But she says she's a good mom cuz she gives me food, clothes and shelter. she also gives me christmas gifts that i like

2007-10-20 16:04:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

today i went to eatons and brought my winter jacket with my dad and i spend $339 on it and i feel so bad for spending so much and i think my dad is sorta mad at me too since he didnt talk to me at all after buying that jacket and i tried to talk to him but he seems like hes mad at me and i feeel soo badd and stupid for spending so much, i dont know why i even chose that jacket and i cant exchange or return it please help me

2007-10-20 15:14:44 · 68 answers · asked by ? 2

My dad has been non-communicative, unpredictable and detrimental to me my whole life. I'm 19, still living under his roof. What makes it worse is that if I was to tell him how I felt, that he's not made me feel loved, been there for me or provided a wholesome influence, he'd do one of three things: become enraged and insulted that I'd say such things, be completely shocked that I felt the way I did or say he would change...but as past efforts have dictated, he never changes. What can I do, not to change my dad, but to feel better about myself, and stop feeling as if I'm not worth anything because he doesn't pay attention to me? He causes me so much sadness, and he doesn't even know...I can almost say I hate him, but hate is a very strong word.

2007-10-20 14:48:55 · 7 answers · asked by AnimalLover<3 1

We moved to a different state and to this awful town. I hate it here. It has been almost 2 years. I have tried to make it work. How do I convince my husband to try harder to find a job in our home state and town? I know it is cheaper to live where we are living now, but there are so many reasons (mainly the type of people) which is why I want to move. He thinks he won't be able to find as good of a job at home, but he isn't even trying. I am miserable here and I am having a hard time making friends. The people here and their families have been here for generations and they are cliquey and don't need any new friends.

2007-10-20 14:26:06 · 2 answers · asked by cammie 4

so my whole volleyball team is having a sleepover over one of the teammates house...but of coarse every1 wen t but me...my parents said that they have to no her parents really well 4 me to....no i feel really bad cause im missing out on all the fun... and evey1 else got to go...y wont they let me.??

2007-10-20 12:10:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-20 12:01:45 · 9 answers · asked by alainagrnt 1

I'm tired because i went camping last night. I can barely move.

2007-10-20 11:41:08 · 8 answers · asked by turekrachel 2

My dad left 27 years ago for another woman. When my mom died 2 years ago I found my dad's address and phone# on the internet. So I called him. But he hung up on me. I haven't tried calling him again. Was I wrong to try to find him or call him. I want to see him. Is it wrong for me to want that ?

2007-10-20 11:38:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

About 2 hours ago I went down to the store to get a phone card and a news paper for my dad, I came back and noticed I forgot the newspaper. My dad gets kind of annoyed that I forgot it, and I said I would go back to get it. I was hungry and thirsty so I got a snack and a drink, and this is when he gets really pissed off. He says that when you forget something, you should correct your mistake (which I I told him I was going to), and he just waltzes out of the house and goes down to the store to get the newspaper himself. When I was apologizing he said that my mom and I never have any respect for him or anything he does. The truth is that everything I do is for my parents. I'm a good student in school, I dont do drugs, I'm taking AP classes to get ready for college, etc... What do I do?

2007-10-20 09:48:27 · 7 answers · asked by paulweezy 2

im 18 and i want to learn to drive but my parents wont let me! People I know who are younger than me have started to learn to drive and i think its unfair that i cant learn to drive. My parents can afford it as they have good jobs and everthing. Are they being unfair?

2007-10-20 09:47:55 · 20 answers · asked by anon2008 2

i don't like my step mother she's mean and has giving me a black eye i don't know why my dad likes her? idk what to do

2007-10-20 09:19:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my mom and her bf had a bad breakup and she had no where to live so i told her to stay with me until she can get her own place. i live with my boyfriend and we have an extra bedroom so i thought it would be no prob. but now i feel taken advantage of...she brings her new bf (of like 3weeks lol) over all the time with out asking me about it, he spends the nite, they lock thereselves in her room and dont come out unless they're leaving my house. she never goes to his house for some reason...plus, one reason she wanted to move close to us (all her kids) was because she wanted to spend more time...and she's not. only with her "bf"...she says shes trying to save money for her own place so she doesnt have to rely on us 4evr, but she's always going out with him to places that cost $..everynite! my dad bought her a cell phone to help her out a little to find a job (before she moved in with me) and now she told my dad not to call unless its an emergency cause she's "with someone" im pissedddd

2007-10-20 09:05:51 · 13 answers · asked by misssoto 1

My hubby's sis has always been nasty to me. She always makes indirect comments towards me that make me feel small all the time. My MIL defo knows what her daughters doing but pretends to act like she likes me. As soon as I show them I am insecure about something they use it against me. For e.g I feel upset that I have gained a little weight recently from a size 8 to a 10, my in laws know this because I am so open. Recently I have limited my time with them becase of the nasty rumours they spread about me. Me & my MIL were in the supermarket & she told me that I have gained weight, this is not true I have actually lost weight but thats besides the point. What upsets me is the way my hubby's family try to use my insecurities to put me down. I want to be able to stick up for myself. I want to play them at there own game but I dnt know how? What should I do the next time my MIL or SIL say things like that

2007-10-20 08:56:01 · 5 answers · asked by kitty 1

My mum hates giving me a lift to dance and she hates me practising. She totally dosen't care about what's important to me or what I want. The rest of my family feels the same except for my father. I don't even want to convince my mother that dance isn't a waste of time I just want her to get off my back and let me do what I dream. I'm really good at street-dance and I don't want to end up a mess like her.

2007-10-20 08:55:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is going to be a long one. First, there is just so much background to how my mother and I's realtionship has gotten to be the way it is. Ill give you major highlights. She lost cusdoity of me and my sister about 7 or 8 years ago. I am currently 13. When she lost she became an alcholic and got a crazy physco boyfriend who treated us very badly and constantly was screaming at us. Little by Little I grew to honestly hate her even more. Now, she is struggling badly when it comes to money and she is very hard to get along with. SHe is constantly yelling at the kids for little things and I am sure they are getting to feel the way I did 5 years ago. The situation today is that she was trying to relieve some stress and thought we would all go out and do something nice. I had no idea we were going and was did not shower yet today. I told her I needed to take a shower and from that point on anything I said to her she would yell at me and call me a snobby brat. Honestly I dread coming ....

2007-10-20 08:44:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I find it hard to forgive my dad. He has never been there for me, and I'm 15. Ever since I was born, he's been in and out of jail, promising to do better, yet he never does. He smokes crack and drinks alcohol, spending more on that stuff, than he ever will on me. He would rather get high than see his daughter.

I used to stick up for him when I was younger, saying that there was nothing wrong with him. I would cry & cry because of what everyone said about him. Now, I don't want anything to do with him. I tell him that I forgive him and I love him, yet I have so much anger and hurt inside of me, and I can't love someone whom I don't even know. I think what he has done to me makes me cautious about the boys I hang around.

No one understands how much pain I go through every day. I try to stay strong, but it seems impossible. How can I heal from this, because this is going to destroy me?! I tried talking about it to people, but they never understand. My mom doesn’t care, my grandma is actually friends with him, and I only have two friends. I don’t feel comfortable talking about it with them.

2007-10-20 08:35:50 · 6 answers · asked by ♥ Nichole[never gives up]♥ 5

The school I work at teaches abstinence under the state law. Very little is focused on safe sex, except what the teachers include on their own will.

Your opinions?

2007-10-20 08:34:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

im 23 and im pregnant with my boyfriend's(rehan)kid.hes a year younger than me.hes a good man and im really in love with him but the problem is (from the very beginning)he made it very clear that he doesnt want to start a family.& i promised him that.how do i i break the news to my mother?shes all i have and most importantly how do i explain our relationship?i've decided to keep the child..please help..thank you

2007-10-20 08:13:43 · 8 answers · asked by Samira D 1

As a child I wasn't told that I had a different father. My Mom told me at the age of 25, but I had already figured out what family name I came from, just not which brother it might be. When she told me, it took me 4 years to build the courage to approach him. I went to his home and his NOW wife made me feel as if I had no right to be there. (I was conceived BEFORE they met) She acted as if I were out for money. I was not prepared for questions about my blood type etc; She even suggested that I may belong to one of his brothers, not him. She began to demand DNA testing. I began to cry, I felt just like a child and I felt that the burden of proof should be on my parents NOT me. He said that he didn't deny that I am most likely his child and that I look just like his mother. I would love a relationship with my Dad. I feel that I've been cheated out of major experiences and denied the right to know my Dad. But he's made no effort to contact me. Should I try again to connect with him?

2007-10-20 07:40:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-20 07:18:20 · 2 answers · asked by Kit 1

because of a fall out between me and my sister. She chooses to side with my sister rather than helping us forgive each other. I really miss my mom even though she's shuned me (which has happened on more than 1 occassion) So much time has elapsed that I would feel foolish to even step forward. She's played this game before on me but it's never lasted this long. Why would a mother do this to her own daughter. I feel so unloved and abandoned. With my father having passed and my only other sibling living so far I don't even feel like I have family. I'm really sad. What do you make of this.

2007-10-20 06:59:42 · 14 answers · asked by sweet 5

i have a child whos dad wont pay a cent he works for cash but is bringing in great money and wont pay a dime for 6 years . also seeing if there are any other parents out there in the same kinda of situation

2007-10-20 06:12:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yesterday was his first day off restriction which means he can leave and come back as pleased but he got to be back at midnight on the weekend and 11 on week day. he got back at 1202 and got kicked out. im very hurt and disappointed. He called me from a pay phone to tell me the news he was crying and really hurt. The security guy told him to come back monday and see what the director says. Im very upset and i feel let down. If he knows the rules he should have been back in time to get in no excuses. he said two people on the bus had wheelchairs so they had to let them off which takes longer than the rest of the stops. I picked him up and took him to walgreens and i got a drug test he passed the test. hes still drug free. My question is if they dont let him back in what am i suppose to do. I cant let him stay with me because before he went in he stole so much of my stuff. im so hurt and i dont know what to do. I love my brother but i feel let down. How do i suppose to help him?

2007-10-20 05:55:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-20 05:54:01 · 9 answers · asked by tina k 1

Please read this! PLEASE! I really need your help! Thank you?
Okay, so my computer is broken down, so I have to use my moms. As I was getting on to my mom's computer, this was on the screen. http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&EAN=9780606139489&itm=1WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?! Is she gonna give it too me? Read it then talk to me? WHAT! What is that book even for? I'm only 13. What does the book mean? What is it about?

2007-10-20 05:53:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

my dog die it on star when i ask people sould i get a cat or a dog and everyone vote dog so i got a dog and when me in my friend when to go get so things for it when we came back the do was die why did it die people

2007-10-20 05:36:11 · 10 answers · asked by fredisha 1