how can i deal with a wicked step mother?

Question

i don't like my step mother she's mean and has giving me a black eye i don't know why my dad likes her? idk what to do

Answer 1

Hiya. I am a step mother myself and my step daughter and I have had a rough old time getting to know each other. However, I would never, ever raise a hand to her. Its not my job to do that and I would kill anyone that tried to hurt her. If you have been hit so badly that it has bruised you, then that is an assault and should be reported to the police. I am not sure if she hit you or whats happened but unfortunately for you, your father has a new partner and that is his priority. I know its hard having spoken to my step daughter about all these things. She thinks her father is choosing between me and her but its not like that at all. I wonder if you can explain to your mum whats happened and see if she can intervene in any way? If she isn't around, is there someone else in the family who you can talk to? All step children need to have lots of understanding especially from the step parents - its even harder than raising your own but I know I love my step daughter as much as I do my own children. Good luck.

Answer 2

I worked as a volunteer advocating for abused children in court for two years and I was abused as a child myself so I have had some experience dealing with situations like this one. In my opinion, there is no excuse for abuse and no matter what you did you did not deserve to be given a black eye. That being said, being a stepmother or a step daughter is a difficult thing. From her perspective she needs to find a way to play a motherly role and you on the other hand have to accept someone other than your biological mother into that motherly role. It often does not go very smoothly. I think giving you a black eye is certainly over the top and if you truly feel unsafe living with her you can call and talk to someone at:
1-800-4ACHILD (800-422-4453) and they can counsel you on what action you should take and connect you the appropriate people that you should talk with to get help. I don't know the whole situation, but I do think it is definitely something that child protective services needs to look into. You can also notify a teacher or the principal at your school in order to get help. They are mandatory reporters of child abuse and neglect; therefore, they are obligated by law to report any child abuse that they know, suspect or are informed of. they will call the local child protection agency and you will talk to a social worker about your problem. They will likely open a case and talk to your dad ans your stepmom. If you do not feel safe going home tell the social worker when you talk to her and she will more than not make you go home and she will find you a foster home to go to where you will not be hit. Foster parents by law are not permitted to hit any child while they are foster parents, including their own children. You can send me a message on here if you need further advice.

Answer 3

Avoid her as much as possible. Don't say horrible things about her because she's probably got ears like a dog for that stuff. And start trying to find the small victories.

I prefer to hide my step mothers things.

If you can't leave and she happens to hit you again or anything you can always try the I'm being abused thing, but if you do that you'll either not get removed from the home and piss her off more or get removed and then its up in the air. If you have a mother you can live with try that. If not the best thing you can do is stay out of her way.

Obviously she feels she needs to break you becuase you're a threat to her position. Either learn to kiss *** and ride it out, or find a way out.

Have you tried talking to your dad ALONE? Or is she the always there if you called him she'd be in the background telling him what to say? My stepmom did that so I called my father at work one day when I was at school from my cellphone. If you do talk to him remember he likes her A LOT so don't blame her because then he'll get defensive and think you're just acting out because you hate her.

Answer 4

if she really did give you a black eye, why didn't you call the police? If it is true, you better tell someone that can do something about it. But if you are just being a bratty spoiled child, get some help. You will never out grow it, my boyfriends kids are 31 and 34 and still act like spoiled little brats needing all their parents attention and money. It is not healthy

Answer 5

If you are being a brat... as in mouthy and disrespectful, and not doing your studies or chores... she is justified in slapping you, or spanking you, but not pummeling you.
If you a brat, she can and should treat you accordingly, but abuse is not allowed.

If she is leaving marks, you need to talk to the guidance counselors at school about abuse.

Your dad will ONLY get involved if he is forcibly dragged into it. A call or visit from the authorities will get his attention.

Other than that, about all you can do is keep a low profile. Do your studies, do your chores, stay out of trouble, and perhaps consider getting into more extracurricular activities so you don't spend as much time there at the house. Perhaps study with friends and get a part-time job when you can. Any legitimate excuse to stay away from the house... AND stay out of trouble.

Answer 6

IF you are under 18 and she gave you a black eye it might be considered child abuse talk to a counselor at school. If over 18 move out.

Answer 7

r u under 18?
go see a conseleur in skool and tell it to him, that ****** cant give u a black eye!

if ur 18 or older yell at that sk'ank and tell her shes a f;ucking s;lut and u hate her and tell ur father hes really dumb for being with such a stupid w;hore like her!!!

well i hope ur telling the truth, cuz if ur lying, u better get a life and stop being stupid!