Family - October 2007

Ok..... i am 20 my fiance is 19, we have been together for 7 years her mother gaive up all her children out of desperation. My fiances little brother is 15, his first placement did not treat him "fairly" so we took guardianship. when we first got him he got into a liquer cabinet and almost died of alcahol poising, we have caught him stealing money, we have caught him smoking pot, he has bad grades in school, when we first got him he got expelled from school for violence. What can i do to correct him, hes a good kid but he likes to stand out he loves attn. me and my fiance are full time students and full time employees we give him everything we can including expensive clothing and a flashy cell phone....hes spoiled. we have tried removing video games and computers and cell phones and everything imaginable but nothing seems to work. We are his last hope please some serious suggestions.

2007-10-21 10:27:07 · 16 answers · asked by Tonka 2

I hate my sister so much! She is such a BBB
What do I do about it?

2007-10-21 10:20:57 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous

If not why not?

2007-10-21 09:42:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother-in-law is like the mother-in-law from hell. Just trust me when I say that, I have stories that you wouldn't BELIEVE.

She is very needy and acts totally helpless so that my husband and I will do everything for her. One day she pissed me off and I couldn't control my rage. I screamed and yelled at her, (I shouldn't have) but my daughter was in the hospital and she was nagging again...

Now, I am certain this is something I could have apologized for and we all could have moved on...BUT she has since done some of the most EVIL and NASTY things...

She has broken into my e-mail (and lied about it) and sent my husband conversations that I had with my best friend about her and used it to prove I wasn't as sweet as I looked...

She has tried to tell my husband to get out of the marriage before it is too late and has persisted in that for weeks....

2007-10-21 06:46:35 · 4 answers · asked by joellemoe 4

She obsesses over every calorie she consumes. She checks the nutrition facts for fat content and sugar and runs after she eats. The fact is, she's skinny and perfectly healthy the way she is!! She thinks she's fat and could lose a few pounds. We're only teenagers for goodness sakes!

2007-10-21 06:11:32 · 22 answers · asked by wingedcortex 1

My cousins who live in another state keep writing me saying that I'm talking about them behind their backs they are 23 and 26. I could care less what they are up to we don't keep in contact and I'm not saying anything. How do I get them to stop. This is ridiculous. Do they have nothing better to do than to lie to make me look bad to other family members?

2007-10-21 06:04:42 · 7 answers · asked by JJ 3

Well I am 15 and I am talking about EMA and my future salary for my future employment and my parents are saying that that belongs to them. For bringing me up and buying me clothes and feeding me etc. What should I do. They are not joking they are serious and a little aggressive about it.

2007-10-21 05:50:47 · 35 answers · asked by The Wonderful Me 4

How would that affect her?

Thanks in advance to answerers.

2007-10-21 04:44:22 · 10 answers · asked by Amelia T 2

Im very unhappy with my life at the moment. Im 23 years old and live with my parents and we really are not getting along at the moment, on top of that i have had a very difficult year. I have been out of work/further education for the first time in my life for a few months now. This is because i have been quite depressed for the past few months, before you judge i have been a happy person 95% of my life but have not been so recently. One of the things i am really unhappy about is living with my parents they are on my back 24/7, apart from my dad working 9-4 and my looking after my 2 nieces they both have not much of a life. There life is me and my sister which they view through a magnifine glass. The house i live in is not a very happy and social house and one thing that i particualy hate is the fact i never truely get my own space, my parents are in the house all the time, which makes me so unhappy as i just need some space on my own to get things together.

2007-10-21 03:23:18 · 23 answers · asked by scott m 1

Ok my parents are currently building a house and they don't know weather to make it with 3 rooms or 5 rooms. The extra 2 rooms would be for me and my future husband. But I don't want to live with my parents because me and my dad don't get along almost at all. My future husband would agree because it would cost us cheaper than building our own home and we can use the rest to buy a good car. Now we would be somewhat separate from my parents either one of us upstairs and the others downstairs, either one of us in the left and others in the right wing of the house. But still the Kitchen would be one for everyone....So I am kind of afraid that most of the fights I will have with my dad will be in the kitchen (which I think it's dangerous for both of us, we had some pretty ugly fights)...and besides I've always dreamt of having my lil cottige and what about when we have kids...should I live with my parents (and husband) for all my life???

2007-10-21 02:43:03 · 7 answers · asked by crishu 1

Is it normal for a guy who took rights on as a father that is called dad and step daughter have sexual intercourse and the guy was married had 2 grand daughters they said grandpa and the grandmother is called grandma is that normal for the 2 kids not to know and is that they can have a father like that and he was married to her mom

2007-10-21 02:38:58 · 4 answers · asked by nyromen 1

i have been caught doing drugs 3 times now

if i keep going how long till u think it will take until my parents don't care about my drug use?

if u think they'll quit caring

i love my parents and help them all the time they come waaayyy before drugs, so don't think i'm just a punk

if i could smoke a 7 gram goddy or help my mom out i would help my mom

2007-10-21 02:30:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I got all you're awesome answers. I'm not a selfish person at all....quite the opposite, but his issue really sets me off. He can talk with the inlaws, I don't care, but when I hear....."I have to make a decision if I'm going to the in-laws Xmas party...and I'm between a rock & a hardplace, because someone will be upset no matter what I decide" that goes above & beyone the tolerance level. The party is Dec 23....we bowl and that's one of our bowling nites......bowling is not a big deal and I could care less about bowling. My issue is...you tell me you want to spend the rest of your life with me....and you love me, so why would you EVER decide to hurt me or make me mad over your former inlaws?....I've been more than patient with this situation. We went to dinner with them, at a family graduation with them...(where the former mother in law talked ill about my bf's mother..not cool), so I've been more than willing to be accepting...
So thank you all for the responses.

2007-10-21 02:19:11 · 5 answers · asked by janice5_98 1

Emotinally And Physically?
Why Or Why Not?

2007-10-21 01:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please help me. My exhusband who I live with is a daily pornopraphy user. Two weeks ago my older son heard my 15 yr.old in his room with woman moaning in the background. My son immediately called me on my cell phone. I looked at Jeff's URL history and there it was. Lesbian websites. He told me he got it from his dads computer. Jeff has his own PC. I immediately turned his age limit to under 18 and he freaked out because he has a hobby with Pokemon. He competes with people all across the world and he mentors kids 10-15 how to beat the monsters. He is not very social so I feel this is an outlet for him, it is the only reinforcing thing he enjoys. So I put it back to 18 and monitored his use and he has not used pornography since, he says he hated it and it was gross.
I am so hurt everyone. I have nightmares about my ex bringing woman to hotel rooms and having dirty-sick sex. I don't know if I should leave him. We don't get along but we stay together for Jeff's sake. Please advise.

2007-10-21 01:07:42 · 11 answers · asked by Susan B 1

For instance, one day I was studying in my room with my window open. Mom entered to check on me and find out how things went at school. After a few questions, she asked me why my window was open. I told her that I wanted to get some natural air. Upon hearing that statement, she then said, "Hello. Do you want to get bitten by the mosquitoes that will come inside the house?" I was kind of hurt because I wasn't sure if she is allowed to use that expression as a parent. So, was Mom right or wrong in what she did?

2007-10-21 00:23:49 · 8 answers · asked by Tum-Tum 1

I am 24 from the uk, i have known i was adopted all my life, i found alot more out about the adoption when i was 18. the thing is it is a very strange situation because.... my dad was sent to prison for living off imorall earnings and my mother was a prostitute, this is why i was not aloud to stay with them, i also have 3 brothers and 2 sisters non of witch i know details of.
i have searched and came to a dead end regarding my parents but due to the nature of why i was adopted shoud i???? please help me out, any good websites for finding them etc, or eaven should i?

2007-10-20 22:34:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just because he used to babysit her children all the time when he was living under the same roof, she expects us to do the same even when he's gotten married & has moved out. It's perfectly alright to help her out for a few hours but it's usually for a couple of days when she follows her husband on business trips.I think it's really selfish of her to ask us to leave our house & move into theirs to watch over her house & kids when they are, in fact old enough to take care of themselves. Everytime I try to talk to my husband about this, he gets defensive & we'll get into an arguement.How can I turn her down or tell her that it's not right without hurting my husband's feelings?

2007-10-20 22:12:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, you see, I'm crazy about family trees. What's your age?

2007-10-20 22:09:36 · 10 answers · asked by Sarazeen 3

In this last year alone, I've had my father come to visit and see family at my expense, with the promise to pay me back. My mother had money problems to get the bond of a house she's renting, which I had to take out a loan to get her the bond so she can have a roof over her head (and my brother too), with the promise to pay me back.
Both are paying me back, however I have to prompt them for it everytime. My parents are seperated and they live in the same city. I'm beginning to feel like their my children now because I'm having to bail them out with money. No matter how many times I say no and find another solution, I'm pressured because they have left it to the last minute.
I'm seriously considering in cancelling my tickets for my xmas trip to mum's (no refund) to have a holiday to myself because I feel I need to be selfish for a change. I can deal with bitterness from them if I do cancel.
Should I do it for the sake of my sanity? I have my own money problems to deal with too.

2007-10-20 20:36:03 · 20 answers · asked by commander_palpatine 2

Honesty, they're good parents and they provide and care for me, it's just they have these kind of problems. I've tried talking with them and showing them all the negative effects it has and they are fully aware and won't stop. They always say "oh I'll stop", but of course never even an attempt happens.

They seem to have some type of motivation to stop (not wanting to smoke), but there is no ignition get them actually going. On the other hand they give me bullshit excuses to why they smoke. Ex. "Smoking gives me a brake from everyone.",

2007-10-20 20:16:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I can't go to my mom she lives 6 hours away and has blocked our number because my dad kept calling her, so we have to wait until she calls us and I don''t know when that will be...
I can't talk to my dad he will think I am copying off my sister who already had a problem with cutting.
I just need help!!
I have felt this for almost two years now.
I am tired all the time, I almost eat nothing, I am concentrate and I freak out on just about everyone...like once a teacher ask me a question and I just freaked out on him.
I believe no one cares for me. My dad has said on several occasion that he wishes I wasn't here so he doesn't have to deal with me. My sister is the worst, and I would think if she has already gone through this she wouldn't . even if she doesn't think I am picking on me, basically bulling me could cause it.
What hurt the most....was the one person I though still care about my mom doesn't want me staying with her when I asked her...

2007-10-20 20:15:39 · 11 answers · asked by Jenniefrizzzle 4

How do parents of large families, those with 15 to 20 children, managed their kids? What did they do?

2007-10-20 20:12:16 · 2 answers · asked by StandTall 4

IM 31, have been a Police Officer for 10 years now and Im thinking of trying to go back to school for a teaching degree. I have one son who is 12 years old, and I am married. Maybe Im too old to start a new career?

2007-10-20 19:22:11 · 45 answers · asked by timb289 1

My girlfriend and I just took her ex boyfriend / the father of her child back to court for child support. He is currently paying 45 a week for child support.

He now disputes being the father, and wants a paternity test to be paid for by himself.

We don't really need the child support, and were wondering if we could just say, OK, you're not the father, leave us the hell alone so we could move on with our lives.

Does anybody know if that is possible since he already filed stating that he "denies that he is the father"...

2007-10-20 19:16:11 · 14 answers · asked by notsombody2003 1

2007-10-20 18:48:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its a really long story so I am going to try and shorten it the best I can, I am 24, my brother is 28, he has never seemed to really like me, and when we were younger he was physically and verbally abusive, I always looked up to him and would always try to please him, he is very materialistic, so I would buy him lavish gifts with the little bit of money I did have, nothing was ever good enough for him, as we got older, I would watch his kids for free whenever he wanted, when I had kids, he and his wife would rarely watch them even if I offered money, but what plagues me the most, is that my brother, out of nowhere, will go on verbal rampages, he will attack the first person he can, and you never know when its going to be you, its been me about 3 times since I have been an adult, and it happened again tonight, his words are poison and I mean his words are just downright cruel, he hits below the belt, I told him never to talk to me again until he apologizes, he said he will never do that

2007-10-20 18:43:27 · 8 answers · asked by This girl 3

as soon as I woke up and told me she was "ratgirl". She slaps my butt when I'm brushing my teeth, and follows me around- then as SOON as I sit down she sits in my lap! When my boyfriend comes over she tells him she smokes and drinks beer (neither one is true, she's 5 by the way), and when I leave with my bf she says "see ya later alli-poo-poo" to him. ERGH!

2007-10-20 18:36:00 · 5 answers · asked by Jessie K 1

I swear my life can't get any worse
my dad is drunk again and his dad came over to 'talk' to him but all their doing is laughing about the whole thing
my mom is crying, I'm crying, and my two little brothers are crying
there is no place to turn and no place to go now
I think he did something to his dad because they haven't been talking for a while and he brought a knife out to the garage with him and scared the **** out of all of us
I know only I can go through this but not even the most hated girl on earth diserves this
so please someone help me
give me advice to get through this before him and his knife get to me
please I'm begging you
if I get nothing I'm going to be dead and if you help me who knows maybe I'll make it through
so please I'm begging for any advice as to getting through this
please if this were you what would you do?
please help!

2007-10-20 18:24:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My grandma was more like a mom. The doctor told her she had cancer three years ago...the night my mom told me I fell asleep cryin with her.2 years later I was spendin the night with my cousin (like sister & practically lived there). We were on myspace when her older brother comes downstair & answers the phone...its my grandpa (at his hose where i lived) & a silent conversation happens I asm william (older cousin) if hes ok...he said grandma died...me & mindy (girl cousin) go upstair and cry....the next day was Mindys b-day party.I cry most of the time...we get home & my bro is crying (first time i ever see him cry) & I go to mindys room...me and my bro moved into my cousins house without going to our granparents houe.

I still cry at night. Is it normal...or am I over dramatic?

2007-10-20 18:15:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous