Please help me. My exhusband who I live with is a daily pornopraphy user. Two weeks ago my older son heard my 15 yr.old in his room with woman moaning in the background. My son immediately called me on my cell phone. I looked at Jeff's URL history and there it was. Lesbian websites. He told me he got it from his dads computer. Jeff has his own PC. I immediately turned his age limit to under 18 and he freaked out because he has a hobby with Pokemon. He competes with people all across the world and he mentors kids 10-15 how to beat the monsters. He is not very social so I feel this is an outlet for him, it is the only reinforcing thing he enjoys. So I put it back to 18 and monitored his use and he has not used pornography since, he says he hated it and it was gross.
I am so hurt everyone. I have nightmares about my ex bringing woman to hotel rooms and having dirty-sick sex. I don't know if I should leave him. We don't get along but we stay together for Jeff's sake. Please advise.
2007-10-21 01:07:42 · 11 answers · asked by Susan B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With all the information we have been given, I think you also have a responsibility in this. By allowing him to have a computer in his room you also have made it easy access for him. First thing I would do is like someone already said remove th coputer from his room, and then I would get a filter to make it a little more difficult. Then speak with ex. He'll probably say something like he's a boy, he's just experamenting.
2007-10-21 01:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by island girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Autistic Porn
2016-10-04 03:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably curious and you are using it for sexual release. The danger behind this, especially with someone your age, is that you are likely to associate that with a normal relationship (which it isn't) and that you will reach the point where you need it to maintain excitement when you are in a normal relationship. It's normal for a boy your age to be interested and fascinated with it, but it's not really a healthy thing for you to do. Your brain is still developing. It's also normal for kids and parents to have conflicts at this age. I don't approve of the way she talks to you. People don't understand sometimes how much emotional damage is done to their kids from verbal abuse. I don't believe you aren't bothered by it even though you want to be too strong to care. It sounds like the two of you should talk, or you should find an adult you can confide in. As for me, if I was your mom and I found out you were watching that stuff, I'd talk to you. I'd explain why I didn't approve of it at your age and I'd encourage you to find healthier ways of dealing with your sexual development. I have a 16 year old grandson. I know he's looked at porn, and although I don't think it's healthy for someone his age I don't think he's obsessed with it. That's when I would hope his mom would intervene and maybe put some controls on the computer. But, of course, I'm not your mom, so her reaction might be entirely different.
2016-05-23 23:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel you I'm a mom of two autistic kids i think the men do it for an escape from our crazy lives i would like to have an outlet like that too.call the Chippendale's girl !!!!! as for the porn thing I'm sure my husband is doing the same but it should not get into the kids hands.as for the sake of you kids my situation is different from yours maybe i have no family and worry about the kids future parents with normal kids don't understand the bond we keep for our kids and just say leave its easier said then done but if you have family to help run there are men that will accept your son look at Jim carrey ,jenny McCarthy has an autistic son,email me soon well talk i live in Florida the new statistics show autistic parents divorce rate are about 85% take care be strong just do your own thing and ignor his phase hell get over it im sure he loves all of you.
2007-10-21 01:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the ex, what you are telling your sons is that its ok to live like this. Its not. Your son seemed to handle it just fine, and mom of more than one son, you know teenage boys masturbate. I personally find porn repugnant, but because it demeans people and sex. There is no self respect any place in pornography, and that's what I told my kids about it.
But until you stop enabling the ex by using your kids as an excuse to keep him in the home, what exactly do you expect them to learn.
As the mom of a daughter with Aspbergers, don't shut off his communication pipeline. Sometimes its the only thing they can comfortably reach out with. Don't punish your son because your ex is a sleaze and you let him taint your home.
2007-10-21 03:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay for your sons sake? Sometimes its better to have great parents seperated then have a miserable family together. If your thinking of your son think about teh porn your husband is watching that gets your son watching it after even if it is by mistake he saw it. Think about how miserable you are with your nightmares. You could be a more fulfilling mother if you were by yourself, seperated from your ex, and what way more could you be at peace of mind to give your son all the attention he needs, especially if he has autism. Sometimes you think its for your child, but its for you. if your ready to leave, dont make excuses and find your own place where you and your son could be a happy family.
2007-10-21 01:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A very difficult dilema...granted.
I don't really see a problem with your son looking at porn if he wants to, it is perfectly natural, but you need to teach him what is right and wrong outside the house so he knows how to behave around people. You need to tell him it is something he does in private.
Regarding your ex it really has nothing to do with you what he gets up to, but you need to tell him about your son, and how he needs to be more descrete.
I don't however recommend you live under the same roof if you are so unhappy. It is such a waste of your valuable life, and you are a separate person, not just a mum and a wife. I really do wish you every luck.
2007-10-21 01:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a common fact that teenagers shouldn't have computers in their own rooms. Put his computer in a family room or in yours. Scan it for viruses and delete the history and cookies. And block any pornographic websites. You can get software for things websites like that. And teach him why porn isn't good too look at. Starting with he broke the law.
2007-10-21 02:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know a lot about autism.....but I do know that it wont affect your sons sex drive....it is very irresponsible of your husband to have made it easy for your son to access these sites....I am not against porn but if a young man does not easily form relationships then these sort of sites would warp his perception of women.
all I can say, is at least he has not used the sites since....keep checking.
2007-10-21 01:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For cripes sake, woman, ask yourself why he is your ex? What the hell is he doing living there? Ex means Ex! Jeff will get along fine without this guy living with you. Kick his a$$ to the curb and get on with your life.
2007-10-21 01:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋