For instance, one day I was studying in my room with my window open. Mom entered to check on me and find out how things went at school. After a few questions, she asked me why my window was open. I told her that I wanted to get some natural air. Upon hearing that statement, she then said, "Hello. Do you want to get bitten by the mosquitoes that will come inside the house?" I was kind of hurt because I wasn't sure if she is allowed to use that expression as a parent. So, was Mom right or wrong in what she did?
2007-10-21 00:23:49 · 8 answers · asked by Tum-Tum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Good question, but as far as I know there are FAR worse things that parents can wrongly say to their children other than "hello". Though it may be hurtful at times, and I admit that it wasn't the nicest thing she could say to her daughter, it probably doesn't quite qualify for the parent 'no-no' list.
But if it really does bother you or hurt your feelings, you could express how you feel about it and if she is your mother she will probably understand and refrain from using such phrases.
Goodluck!
2007-10-21 00:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it OK for parents to use the word "hello" to their kids to make them regain their common sense?
For instance, one day I was studying in my room with my window open. Mom entered to check on me and find out how things went at school. After a few questions, she asked me why my window was open. I told her that I wanted to get some natural air. Upon hearing that statement, she then said, "Hello. Do you want to get bitten by the mosquitoes that will come inside the house?" I was kind of hurt because I wasn't sure if she is allowed to use that expression as a parent. So, was Mom right or wrong in what she did?
2014-10-14 20:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't! I was very smart as a kid but lacked common sense! I am lucky I'm alive. I don't know when, but all of a sudden I had all kinds of common sense...might have happened just as I stuck that fork into the outlet, or when I checked the mowers gas level by looking in the tank with a lit match to see better! Or just possibly when I left the lid down on the gas grill then lite it after the gas was on for a few minutes. I really liked those eyebrows and missed them dearly! But I am feeling much better now! Yes I did do all of that foolish stuff and lived, so I guess that if tou make it past 12 or so your common sence kinda just kicks in until you hit 16. Then all bets are off again!
2016-05-23 23:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you (much like my children) seem to think you've coined all sorts of phrases, and before you arrived people generally communicated in grunts and by banging on rocks. The truth is, we too had rich language full of colorful metaphors which we used to piss off our parents. My point here is, nothing is new...your generation may put a fresh spin on some old terminology, but language is fluid and we've all been expressing ourselves verbally for a very long time. Was your mom right? I don't think it's a right or wrong-type issue. She used language for shock value to advance her point of view....it seems to have worked (based on your reaction). Are we "allowed" to do that? According to the bills that come in the mail every month, I'd say "yes".
I suppose you would prefer a bit less sarcasm from your mom, and that's understandable, but in her defense, maybe she was trying to "speak on your level".(Sometimes we try that tactic with disastrous results...if you really want a good laugh, one day I'll tell you some of the stupid stuff I've said to my kids... when I'm feeling much braver). Try not to let this bother you, though. You'll laugh about this fairly soon.
2007-10-21 01:22:26 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is "allowed" as there is not a law against it, but it seems very immature and demeaning. One of things parents often fail at is understanding the effect of their words on their kids confidence, which is obviously a critical factor in growing up. To say "Hello," is to also say, "Are you stupid or what?" Bad parenting. You could probably get away with a calm discussion asking her not to use that terminology with you and even explain why. I know in my day I wouldn't have accepted it, but young folks today seem to be more accepting of things.
2007-10-21 00:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No moms are always trying to get our kids attention.
She's just wondering if you understood that your chanced of being irritated by insects had crossed your mind.
Talk to mom and ask her to not use that word that you feel stupid when she says it.
She will no doubt laugh and not say it again.
Ask her for a screen to put in this window and she wont be worried and asking you to think on other things while your mind is working.
See Ya
2007-10-21 00:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Quelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that expression is fine. She expected you to know better, and you didn't. If it really bugs you then you can talk to her about it.
It seems immature, and also seems like what a 15 year old would say to a friend. Perhaps she has no other way to express her amazement. I don't know =P
Everyone above has pretty good answers. Listen to the smart people!
2007-10-21 01:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
challenging thing try searching on to yahoo that might help
2014-06-18 23:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋