I got into an argument with my mother-in-law. She has since done awful things. What to do?

Question

My mother-in-law is like the mother-in-law from hell. Just trust me when I say that, I have stories that you wouldn't BELIEVE.

She is very needy and acts totally helpless so that my husband and I will do everything for her. One day she pissed me off and I couldn't control my rage. I screamed and yelled at her, (I shouldn't have) but my daughter was in the hospital and she was nagging again...

Now, I am certain this is something I could have apologized for and we all could have moved on...BUT she has since done some of the most EVIL and NASTY things...

She has broken into my e-mail (and lied about it) and sent my husband conversations that I had with my best friend about her and used it to prove I wasn't as sweet as I looked...

She has tried to tell my husband to get out of the marriage before it is too late and has persisted in that for weeks....

I apologized to her shortly after I yelled at her but she said it wasn't good enough, and she said that I was a disrespectful young lady and she thinks I need help.

I feel sick constantly. My husband is trying to cut her off (they had a strained relationship before this) but he is having a hard time doing it because he knows she will never change...

I can hardly sleep or eat, I just feel so attacked...

What would you do if youw ere in my shoes?

Answer 1

YOU are going to have to "call in" the BIG GUNS. Prayer is the answer here and I am not playing about this. God loves us all. I want to share with you some of my most favorite scriptures. They have "saved" me on many occasions. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah. - Psalm 68:19. I believe that you are sincere. After all, this is what God asks of us. You will be successful in "defeating" the "evilness" and changing the demeanor within the mother-in-law. Read Psalm 35 (Plead My Cause) - This is a long-winded and very strong psalm. This addresses that which is "known" and that which is "unknown" in our lives. As long as you hold "good thoughts" and are "sincere," then you are in the driver's seat. Peace, Love and God Bless.

Answer 2

Looks to me like you gave her the upper hand this time which I am sure she loves. I'm lucky that I don't really have contact with my MIL because she has said some nasty things about me to her grandkids for goodness sake. My husband doesn't really see her either but would not take her side against me ever cause he knows better and so does she. Talk to your husband about it first and foremost, make sure he is still standing by your side and when she sees that he is not reacting the way she wants him to towards you then hopefully she will get the picture and back off.

Answer 3

Honey it should be obvious to both you and your husband what kind of person this womwn is. She's probably the kind who needs to be the center of attenntion and no matter what the sitution, she has to make it about her. As long as you allow her to torture you she's going to. Something tells me she spreads rumors to the rest of the family faster than the wind also. Disconnect yourself, you both know it would be for the better. Yes, she gave him life and raised him but that doesn't mean she has the right to abuse you both. Refuse her calls and her intrusive behavior to show her that you aren't under her thumb. I swear life will be more peaceful without her.

Answer 4

You and your husband get a large pair of sheers and "Cut the Cord" .... set Mom adrift in "Don't call us land"........
You and Hubby are a team with your own kids ...... cut mom out of the picture .... if she asks ... tell her perhaps next year when she lears to play well with others she may be asked to rejoin the group ... but for now she's in time OUT !