I am 24 from the uk, i have known i was adopted all my life, i found alot more out about the adoption when i was 18. the thing is it is a very strange situation because.... my dad was sent to prison for living off imorall earnings and my mother was a prostitute, this is why i was not aloud to stay with them, i also have 3 brothers and 2 sisters non of witch i know details of.
i have searched and came to a dead end regarding my parents but due to the nature of why i was adopted shoud i???? please help me out, any good websites for finding them etc, or eaven should i?
2007-10-20 22:34:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm not adopted so I don't know how you feel but I know how wonderful it is to have a brother, so maybe you should start looking for your brothers and sisters, they may know more about your parents. Try the salvation army they help to trace people. The local council that was involved in your adoption should be able to help you trace the names of your brothers and sisters and who adopted them. Good luck with your search I hope it has a happy ending.
2007-10-20 22:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by translatorinspain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to feel it's important to find them and I agree. It's a natural thing to do. They may well be struggling to do the same. 'Immoral earnings' and 'prostitute' are just cruel words society uses to label people. There are many, many 'decent' people who do the same and they're called husbands and wives and businessmen and women! Why would you not want to trace them? There are a lot of places you can search. Birth certificates, Passport offices etc. have a lot of info. Below is the only link I came across to help but I know there are loads more. Really good luck. It will take time, I'm sure but I do feel it's an important step for you and the way your life will go from then on.
2007-10-23 09:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by Boudicca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well lots of women are prostitutes, after all it's alleged to be the oldest proffesion in the world.
Lots of people go to prison....for all sorts of reasons.
Just because you do unacceptable things doesn't always make you a bad person.
You sound a very balanced adult who is curious about your background
I think I would want to meet my brothers and sisters, even if it was only once.
Good luck, stay happy whatever you decide.
2007-10-20 23:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by aaah h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to find them if only to satisfy your curiosity. Who knows, maybe if you find them, you will realise how lucky to have your loving, normal, adoptive parents.
I have heard the Salvation Army has a department where they help find lost relations. Give them a call.
Once you find them you may then be able, through them, to trace your brothers and sisters.
You should talk openly to your adoptive parents about your need to trace your biological parents. You will need their love and support too.
Good luck.
2007-10-20 22:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by nadia g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends...if you think that the way your real parents have turned out is shameful, then the answer is no. But if you're not ashamed then definetly find them! But if the matter is mixed, like you want to stay with your siblings but not your parents, or its the other way around, I'll say: "Go to them, stay with 'em for a while, then you'll know by yourself."
But before you do anything else, please, ask yourself (be honest) "Am I happy the way I am now, or would I be better if I went to my real parents?"
Normally, in these cases, the person is totally confused. If you're in that state, then I'll advice you stay with neither with your real parents or your not-real ones. If you stay like that for a while, you'll know the answer automatically. But, I'd say, stay with the not-real parents now. You'll know the answer, if not, leave everything to God.
2007-10-20 23:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sarazeen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should you? Did they raise you? did they love you? do you think they even think about you?
I was raised by my mother my whole life and never met my dad till I was 15 and I was very disapointed. Before I met him my mother told me no ill of him and just said things didn't work out and I grew up having this image that he was this great guy that was nice and loving and we would catch up and he could be my dad.
Well things didn't turn out like that. Found out when we met that he was Yakuza(Japanese mafia) and a womanizer and my mom just happened to be one of his women. He was pretty much a total *** and in a lot of ways I was more mature than he was and I was glad I never had him my life, I was glad that he wasn't around because I turned out fine even without him.
2007-10-20 22:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should try to find them, it was important enough to ask strangers...
If nothing else you will find the brothers and sisters.
I wouldnt expect to much from your biological parents though, and make sure your parents know you are not trying to replace them (same with siblings)
2007-10-20 22:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by billiecep2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering the reason why you were adopted, yes search for them. How? I 'm sorry have no ideas but good luck.
2007-10-21 01:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked Social Services, they will have a record of you on file. They shouls also have details of your parents and siblings. Also you could try
2007-10-23 08:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by cuffyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you dont find them it will always be there in the back of your mind, just be prepared for a disappointment. i think the salvation army offers a go-between service and councelling for people in your position...good luck, i hope you find what you need.
2007-10-20 22:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋