Family - October 2007

I'm 19 years old, I'm going to college full-time and working part-time. I've never done drugs, I've never drank, I'm not promiscuous. I don't talk back. I make very little money, but all of it goes to them for my car. But my parents still manage to rip me apart with little mistakes I make... for example, I received a parking ticket, and was late because I didn't have the money at the time. They went off in a tangent about how I'm irresponsible I am and how my priorities are out of whack. It extended into me being lazy, which is ridiculous, seeing as how I'm rarely home.
I just don't understand what they want from me... I'm a good kid, with good morals. I'm not perfect by any means, but I would like some encouragement, some praise, some acknowledgment for what I have/can accomplish. What could I possibly do to get them to stop with the "lectures" and to get them to stop making me feel like a dissapointment?

2007-10-21 19:17:44 · 11 answers · asked by Courtney B 4

she still lives at home, yes. I don't plan to grill her when she gets home.

2007-10-21 18:35:33 · 33 answers · asked by PediC 5

'm a college student and dated a girl for 2 1/2 years, who is from my hometown but also attended the same college as me about 2 hours away from home. I went home for the summer to spend time with my family because I don't really see them 9 months out of the year. My family is together and eating dinner together is important to us. My ex however lives only with her mom and brother. Her brother was gone, and her mom left on a business trip for 1 1/2 months. My ex was alone and demanded me to be with her 24/7. I wanted to spend time with my family, so I tried to balance both. I saw my ex every day, slept over 2-3 times a week, but also spent time with my family. My ex said she felt unloved and abandoned and that she was 2nd place, which was never true. just before we went back to school she broke up with me, saying the summer had caused her to love me less because I "wasn't there for her" enough. I am in love with her still, and this sucks. what could i have done differently?

2007-10-21 18:34:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My father wanted a boy but he had me instead. My entire life he's told everyone that me and my mom were worthless parasites that he had to support, and he'd tell me to learn how to cook because that's all I'd ever do when I grew up. One year when I was 12 or so he gave the paperboy 20 dollars for christmas, but didnt get me anything. We had a family friend move in with us for a few years and she had a son a year older than me. My father spent time with him constantly but ignored me. I wasnt born a male, thats not my fault. I'm 24 now, almost 25, and I still feel that he doesnt love me..what can I do to make him love me. All i ever wanted growing up was a father.

2007-10-21 18:11:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother has asked that my sister return the bible. My sister is not speaking with my mother, nor is she speaking with any of our other siblings. (Words between my mom and sister forced us to choose "sides", by my sister) I wrote her asking that she please return the bible and told her how it hurts mom, but she ignores us. Does anyone know what can be done legally to get my grandmothers bible back to my mom?

2007-10-21 17:03:03 · 4 answers · asked by ru4pc 2

As mentioned, my wife and I live in Brisbane. We've been here for a year and have been married for them same amount of time. I'm finishing Uni to become an electronics design engineering in a few weeks and got a job at Cinammon Park, and my wife wants to move to Northlakes. She wants to move there because our parents are on the Sunshine coast and wants to be closer to them. We're both family types of people, but jobs only pay the bills. It is approximately 1.5 hours worth of travel time (with traffic). The petrol will cost about $135 worth of petrol each week. My wife is extremely close to her parents, calls them a few times a day. (Which is another topic). Do you think I'm being unreasonably and should move closer to the Sunshine coast and travel? Or is my wife being unreasonable for limiting the possibilities of my career and making me travel. Thanks for your help. I have to mention that I have spoken to her about it, many times...but it hasn't gone too well...any of the 100 times.

2007-10-21 17:00:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Mom's Boyfriend Moved In today and i dont like him because he is really mean and we got in a fight and he pushed on the ground and hurt my arm. my mom chooses him over me and i am really depressed i want to move out but than i dont and i think about doing really bad things just to get over this someone help me please....

2007-10-21 16:54:12 · 32 answers · asked by Alberto's Girl 1

i am a great kid... i have a 4.0, i have never been drunk or High, i have good friends, i have a job, and i am very responcible. everyone i ask says that my parents need to give me more freedom. i cant stay out late on weekends or go any where or do anything without asking them. its so annoying. my mom is embarrassing me on purpose and thinks its funny. i have tried talking to her, but it is no use. i can hardly stand it.

2007-10-21 16:26:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been trying to leave my house for 2 years.
I'm the youngest of 3, my 2 older sisters are 10 years older than me, they left long ago.

Money is not the problem, I make very good money.

I'm a 26 year old male with a curfew, I have to be home by midnight. I want to leave my house, but they make me feel all guilty everytime I even mention it.

My parents are both retired and healty, but they don't let me leave.
They keep me doing chores all day long after work. I've been renting an apartment for the last 5 months, but I've never actually slept here.

I use my apartment to get phone calls, because at home my mom will pick up the other phone everytime I try to talk. I can invite friends over without my mom wanting to talk to them.
Today is Sunday, I'm using my apartment to avoid my parents wanting me to spend all day long with them and making chores.

They know I have an apartment, but they make me feel so guilty, I can't move in.

What can I do?

2007-10-21 16:15:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

hes 19, and hes my stepbro
and im almost 14, i luv him to death but we dont talk

2007-10-21 15:56:30 · 3 answers · asked by ? 2

i was with my ex for 7 yrs we were both very mixed up in the drug seen for a very long time off and on after we had lost everything and had to ask a member of my family to take the kids i left state to get clean and he ended up in jail it has been 1 1/2 yrs and i have a good life and my kids are with me things are good but last week i found out he was released so i sent him an e-mail letting him know that if he was clean and wanted to be a part of his kids life i had no problem with letting him but my new boy friend thinks i should have left it up to the ex to find us i just didn't want to be one of the mothers that don't even give the dad a chance to be a dad even if it would just be a part time gig please let me know if i did the right thing

2007-10-21 15:56:24 · 5 answers · asked by flkenout 3

i am 13 yrs old and my name is stephanie. i feel that i can never get through a conversation with my parents without them ever letting me talk or give them any reasoning. usually there answere to everything is NO. i resently asked them if i can start wearing a littly bit of eyeliner on the lower part of my eye. like always it was a no. they NEVER give me reasoning. i feel that a person should control they're own apperence and not live up to anothers. i respect the way my parents feel and i understant the they have a say-so in it but i think im ready. ill be going into high-school next year....in other words IM GROWING UP. my parents swear im still a 9 yrs old little girl. i just want to show that my parents that i am at a proper age in my life to decie if i'd like to wear a littlle bit of eyeliner. can you all please write back and tell me if im saying all the right things. ill show my parents your answers and see if it has an inpact on their decision. thank you all bye =]

2007-10-21 15:54:34 · 10 answers · asked by Stephanie F 1

My brother in law (BIL),divorced, died on October 16th.He left behind my two wonderful neices aged 11 and 14. My wife and I have always been in their lives. BIL had full custody of the girls. The ex wife had weekend visitation for 24 hours two times a month. She has had 3 more children form another man, split up and has since married another man. The ex wife's sister also lives with in the same small house where her 3 small children also reside. My neices approached me when he passed away at his deathbed. They pleaded that they do not want to live with their mother and asked to live with us. They do not want to be pulled from their school, friends, church (we are their godparents)sports,& their grandma who lives nearby. We met with their biological mom. She told us that she may grant us custody under the condition that she gets to visit the kids more. What immediate steps can we take to get custody and help these kids? We are parents of three grown daughters 22,20,&17. Thanks

2007-10-21 15:51:59 · 5 answers · asked by Mr. C 1

i love her very much and we have 3 very young children together and i don't want to leave them but i can't handle all the fighting anymore

2007-10-21 15:48:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 16[-year old daughter does not come home anymore, she spends several days without coming home. Nobody knows where she is, who she is with, what she is doing. She doesn't answer her cell phone. I tried to talk to her gently, but nothing comes out of her. This happens every week since about 7 months. When she comes home, she acts as if nothing happened, then she leaves again for another few days. I am a single father with 2 other kids at home and I don't have any relative anywhere near our area. I made appointments with a counsellor but she missed them all. This situation is causing me much emotional distress, to the point where I am thinking about giving up completely (whether I give up or not doesn't make a difference because she already does what she wants). She doesn't care at all about how this is affecting me and the rest of our family. A year ago, she was such a sweet girl who enjoyed chatting with me about everything. I am at loss, desperate and depressed. What should I do?

2007-10-21 15:47:33 · 9 answers · asked by Dr. Phil 6

yea i got in some trouble at school so my dad got really mad he says he wants to hit me always makes threats that as soon as i turn 18 he's gonna "mess me up" but not those exact words if i fight i get in more trouble if i lose than if i win with him. he always makes threats what should i do?

2007-10-21 15:37:55 · 5 answers · asked by hybridofhumanity 1

It has became necessary for me to have to leave my 15 year old daughter home overnight by herself one night a week. She is very mature and responsible and I feel that this is okay. My ex husband does not like the idea of this and has threatened to try to get custody of her because of this issue. However, he doesn't even want to have her for his weekend visitations. I've always considered myself a great mom, but his attitude has me second guessing myself. Am I right or wrong?

2007-10-21 15:37:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was out walking my dog this afternoon about 4pm and I walked past a car and saw a girl about 7 years old sitting in the back seat by herself. I stopped and looked around pretending my dog was doing something to see if there were anyone near by but the street was empty. I saw this lady who was delivering pizza's come out of a apartment building and get into the car and drive away.

I don't think I would leave a 7 year old alone in a car unless I was right outside. It just kind of irked me the wrong way. What do you think?

2007-10-21 15:24:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

my father having an affair with a 17-18 yrs old i think and i want to stop him to do that. he is a school teacher and the girl is in college right now. one time ago the girl text my dad and asking some money for her examination fee. that makes me think sometimes not to help them. i dont want to be greedy but im just doing the right thing. it feels like im supporting my mom and bro. so he will going to do what he want. and now sometimes my mother ask me some help for their financial help and sometimes i think i dont want its because my dad just spend his money to that girl. so what do you think my right as a daughter? where i can stop him doing stupid behavior and its not good to his work as a teacher. anyone can tell me?

2007-10-21 15:15:48 · 5 answers · asked by ambot 2

When we started dating I'd always go over to spend time with my bfs family. His mom was always nice to me and everytime she spoke to him on the phone she demanded to speak to me...
But then a few months back they had an argument about him quitting his job where he wasn't happy to attend our university full-time and finish accounting in 1 year since he's a senior. She told him then how she truly felt about me...that I was a "gold digger" and I didn't really care about him that how is someone who takes care of her nails, hair, and is pretty going out with him? She basically told him how "little" she thought of our relationship...
Now they fixed things...but she STILL thinks nothing of me...I'm so hurt because I've given him EVERYTHING...I've spent over 10,000 in the past 6 months when they stopped talking to get him through school & make sure that he had food...and I just can't accept that now he talks to her without an apology...I'm not welcome there anymore...so he has to go alone..:(

2007-10-21 15:12:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

One is 18 and the other is 15. I work everyday I have my own business. Theyre not really intrested in that either. These guys are in for a hard life if they dont listen to me .We live in Chicago and the drug dealers make that life look glamorous. What should I do ? Serious suggestions please.

2007-10-21 14:45:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

So my bf and I are together for more than 3 and a half years. Today's his b-day, we had dinner at his house. They were having a vote for something for christmas and his sister told me to vote too... so I raised my hand for my vote and his brother says "you can't vote your not part of the family." I was probably so red, and I could've cried right there. His family jokes a lot so it's not like it was just out of the blue, but in my opinion, he just took it toooo far. I was really hurt, and cried when I got home. I just thought it was so rude and hurtful. My bf says he was just joking and that I know how his brother is so I shouldn't be offended. I know his family likes me so it's not that, but now I kind of feel awkward and out of place, and now I feel like I'm really not part of the family. Am I over-reacting? What should I do?

2007-10-21 14:17:46 · 15 answers · asked by 570Chicky 2

I am NOT the only family member she has been rude to. In the first years she was just very quiet, and kind of cold. I thought she was shy. But as the years go by, she has become even colder and often rude. Should I confront her? If so, how? I'm not even sure she'd get it. Since she is this way to others, I wonder if this is just her personality. My mother in law is not much different. I am tempted to just avoid gatherings where they are present. What should I do?

2007-10-21 14:14:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 14:13:17 · 18 answers · asked by Timothy a 1

I am one of 3 children. My parents split 15 yrs ago and I lived with dad. He remarried but his new wife made it clear that she wanted us out. Dad and I argued over it, but it was impossible to stay. We didn't speak for 13 yrs. My brother's are very close to dad and told me recently dad had a brain tumour. I rang him. His wife answered and hung up. I rang him in hospital and we chatted. He said I could visit but his wife found out & he was discharged a week early and taken home. He told me his wife did not want us to be in touch. We got back in touch via email and we started to correspond. He died last week. His wife has shut my brothers & I out. She won't tell us anything except that we are not welcome. There is to be no funeral service, no fuss. He will be cremated and she has yet to decide if she will tell us the date. He leaves a house (£250,000), 2 cars, insurance policies, & a pension. His wife has manipulated him and I fear she will get everything. Can I make a claim?

2007-10-21 14:08:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-21 14:06:54 · 53 answers · asked by MissLady 3

My 13 year old daughter started high school this week. Her school is 6 blocks away from home. I told on the first day that she needs to call me when she gets home from school everyday and she doesn't want to. I ask her why and she said that she is worried that when her 10 year old sister is in high school, she will not have to call me when she gets home from school everyday. She is afraid that her sister will have more freedom than her. I told her that her sister will have to call me everyday too and I care about their safety equally and she doesn't believe me. She said her sister always get away with everything and it is not fair. I admit that my younger one got more freedom, but I would still make my 10 year old call me everyday afterschool when she is in high school soon. I understand that my 13 yr old feel unfair. She will not do something bad behind my back, but I still need her to call me everyday afterschool because I fear her safety. I trust her 100%. I only don't trust others.

2007-10-21 14:04:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm getting bullied by my own brother. Am 13 and hes 17 when ever I say something he doesn't like he just grab be by the neck and bets be up. Someone help.

2007-10-21 12:05:00 · 7 answers · asked by JerBear 3

Iam looking for my father, who i have never met. His name was Jerry Tucker, and I believe he used to live in St. Louis, Mo. Iam 39 yrs old and would just like to talk to him or someone related to him. While my mother was alive she said she believed he had remarried and has kids, so ive got some half siblings out there somewhere. If anyone has any advice on how i can find him, please let me know. Thanks.

2007-10-21 11:02:02 · 3 answers · asked by patmagicman39 1

2007-10-21 10:56:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous