When we started dating I'd always go over to spend time with my bfs family. His mom was always nice to me and everytime she spoke to him on the phone she demanded to speak to me...
But then a few months back they had an argument about him quitting his job where he wasn't happy to attend our university full-time and finish accounting in 1 year since he's a senior. She told him then how she truly felt about me...that I was a "gold digger" and I didn't really care about him that how is someone who takes care of her nails, hair, and is pretty going out with him? She basically told him how "little" she thought of our relationship...
Now they fixed things...but she STILL thinks nothing of me...I'm so hurt because I've given him EVERYTHING...I've spent over 10,000 in the past 6 months when they stopped talking to get him through school & make sure that he had food...and I just can't accept that now he talks to her without an apology...I'm not welcome there anymore...so he has to go alone..:(
2007-10-21 15:12:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Even though you can't stand her you can't stand in his way of seeing his mom bcuz if you do he will hate you for it later. Let him know you feel hurt that she dislikes you but encourage him to continue his relationship with her. Don't be hateful and grumpy when he comes back just act liked you enjoyed your time alone and really do try to enjoy yourself because his mom aka the ol hag isn't worth getting upset over. Remember she won't live forever and if she thought for one minute that you were miserable while he was there visiting her it would make her day and you DON'T want that ;o)
2007-10-21 15:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by dixie_n_pixie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, let him go alone. and maybe you want to rethink your relationship a little. is it unbalanced? you seem to be giving alot and he's not. and he's having to choose between you and your family. i don't know how your guy is like, but sometime in the future, he might choose his family over you. pressure from the family is always hard. so hang on =)
ps, you answered my qn : http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkKe9UYYXv4kViVWGyNMDRcgBgx.;_ylv=3?qid=20071021193510AAyDrbq&show=7#profile-info-6an7ubiDaa
haha. don't know about your former guy, but this guy here is really shy and the quiet sort. he's not the sort who will call you all the time and stick to you. he's introverted by nature. and having spent quite abit of time with him already, i don't think i'm giving up. but thanks for your advice =)
2007-10-21 16:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if the mom wont give u an apology live it alone. tell ur bf 2 get his mother in check. tell ur bf 2 talk 2 his mother. but if his mother do not listen then live it alone. and tell ur bf not 2 incourge discussions with his mother about u. if he cent at least do that, if he cent defend u, then u are shure in for a ride unless u do something about it
2007-10-21 15:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, there is a gold digger in the house, but it sounds like its your b/f. Tell him how you feel, and if you want the truth, ask him when he's paying you back.
2007-10-21 15:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go alone. You don’t have to go with him. But do NOT force this man to choose between you and his family, just because his family doesn’t like you. They don’t have to like you. They just have to treat you civilly when you are in their presence. If you force him to choose, he will end up resenting you for it.
2007-10-21 15:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋