2007-10-21 14:06:54 · 53 answers · asked by MissLady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am saving money I want to own a house...I am afraid of renting cause then my money will ba wasted away on my dream house
2007-10-21 14:12:22 · update #1
Im eastern European and we will stay with our parents till we are married and have our own house, not apartment, not condo. Its normal for our people, just not American people. I know 3 Yugoslavian sisters who are 24,28, and 30 and they all still live with their parents. And its not like they are ugly fat or retarded, Thats just how European culture is.
2007-10-21 14:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by draculrom2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends upon your situation and hers. If you are unemployed and just being a bum, living off your mother then yes it's definitely a problem. If your mother needs you there for medical or financial reasons, then no it's not. If you are only staying there temporarily to get on your feet after losing a job or just graduating from college, or divorce/separation then no problem. If you are working steady then there is only a problem if you are not helping your mother with a fair share of all of the bills. There are many other options that could be listed here. You sould know at age 28 right from wrong. Hope this helps. You added a comment so heres my add on. There is nothing wrong with what your doing, in fact its smart to save to buy a house. This means staying with your mother is not a problem as you asked, but; You still should help her out with bills as best you can, don't just freeload,.
2007-10-21 14:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, don't you let anyone tell you there is. You are among the growing number of siblings that are returning to the nest or staying there and there is nothing wrong with it as long as you pull your load...meaning helping out around the house, keeping your room tidy,buying a little food and helping with the cooking and laundry. The big thing is how your parents feel and how the situation is going. Some parents don't like returning siblings who cut into their privacy and food budget and others find it nice for company. If no conficts (and I don't mean none at all, some are normal) evolve, all parties agree and it is made clear ahead of time, the house rules then I say NO PROBLEM. I have had my sons live with me and it was nice for company since I lived alone but they usually ended up with girlfriends and left after awhile. Good Luck,have fun and God Bless, Elle
2007-10-21 14:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by velle T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok , I lived with my parents until I was 27. It's great you have a good relationship with them. When your ready you will move out:) Don't let anyone get to you about that. I hated when people said" I can't believe you still live at home" or That's the girl that lives with her parents" It can be very humiliating. Save money and get a nice place when YOUR ready.
Take care
2007-10-21 14:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking whether or not it could be affecting your dating situation then I would say yes. If your still in college and it's helping you keep expenses down then it's a good thing. As others have said, if your there helping out with rent or her health is questionable then your doing what you feel is right.
Simply put, if nothing is keeping you there except you, then it won't look well on you and people might question your maturity.
2007-10-21 14:16:03 · answer #5 · answered by Joly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on WHY you still live at home. Are you pursuing your education and can't afford to live on your own? Are you working full-time and saving money to buy your own house? Are you paying rent?
If you're an unemployed free-loader that I think that's wrong.
2007-10-21 14:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you and your mum are both happy with the arrangement. The only reservation I would have is that you may not be learning how to be independent and responsible or develop important life skills. For example, leaving home requires that we manage and budget our own money and learn to get along with anyone we share accommodation with (which requires negotiation, compromise, tolerance etc). But if you are mature and responsible you're already there.
2007-10-21 14:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by Delphi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The point of growing up to be a mature adult to find out who you are and become your own person. You will never do that as long as you and your mother live in this comfortable world you have had since you were a child. Move out and you and your mother can both grow.
2007-10-21 14:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dean F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the financial means to leave, then that is odd.
Now if you are there to help out a sick relative, or you are a single mom, I could see the need. But if you just cannot seem to handle living on your own, then that is a problem.
2007-10-21 14:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stay at home and save your money,throwing money on rent is like throwing it out the window,the best investment you can do is buy a condo or home.
2007-10-21 14:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by Robin D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋