my father having an affair with a 17-18 yrs old i think and i want to stop him to do that. he is a school teacher and the girl is in college right now. one time ago the girl text my dad and asking some money for her examination fee. that makes me think sometimes not to help them. i dont want to be greedy but im just doing the right thing. it feels like im supporting my mom and bro. so he will going to do what he want. and now sometimes my mother ask me some help for their financial help and sometimes i think i dont want its because my dad just spend his money to that girl. so what do you think my right as a daughter? where i can stop him doing stupid behavior and its not good to his work as a teacher. anyone can tell me?
2007-10-21 15:15:48 · 5 answers · asked by ambot 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You said you 'think' he's having an affair with this girl, unless you actually know 100% for sure I would be very careful what you say or try to do about it. Your father is an adult and as such you cannot really stop him doing anything he decides to do no matter how wrong you think it is. It's his life and his lesson to learn and this is also a matter between your parents to sort out and resolve. I think you are quite right to refuse financial help if you don't feel good about doing it and that may just make your father face up to doing the right thing.
2007-10-21 15:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the girl he's having an affair with is his student, he can lose his job. If he chooses to continue to see this girl you can do nothing about it. I'm assuming your parents are no longer togther. If so, your Dad has a right to do what he wants. You have no rights in that situation. If your parents are still together, you may want to encourage your Dad to stop the affair but again, you have no real rights in how he lives his life.
If you are the sole financial support for your family, you can do something about that. You can encourage your Mom and other family members to take responsibility for their financial picture and to not expect you to support them. It's great that you want to help but you also have to look out for you. Without any other detail such as how old you and your brother are and why your Mom is unable to financially support herself, there really isn't much advice I can give you. But in general and unless you have small children, the only life you can take responsibility for is your own.
2007-10-21 22:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the next time your mother needs money he had best come up with it, or you will be telling her why there isn't enough to go around. Then get some counseling, you need it.
2007-10-21 22:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 17 or 18 you should go to the police becuase that is statitory rape. I wouldn't pay becuase that is enabling him. Instead help your mom and bro by bringing food or other things not with money.
2007-10-21 22:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't stop him. What makes you think you can? He is an adult. You can talk to him about it. Or talk to your Mom about it. But you cannot make him stop if he does not want to. You have no rights unfortunately.
2007-10-21 22:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by heather l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋