My Mom's Boyfriend Moved In today and i dont like him because he is really mean and we got in a fight and he pushed on the ground and hurt my arm. my mom chooses him over me and i am really depressed i want to move out but than i dont and i think about doing really bad things just to get over this someone help me please....
2007-10-21 16:54:12 · 32 answers · asked by Alberto's Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move
You must have at least one good relative that would enjoy having your company.
2007-10-21 17:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Joe Bleu 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well their is not too much you can do. Hanging out with a rough crowd will always draw criticism for others. Also if you are doing things your parent/mom's boyfriend will frown upon you are simply setting yourself up for a confrontation. The only thing you can do is live your life and try to be decent. I'm sure if you give your new house mates a chance they won't seem as bad as you may think. If smoking becomes a problem consider quitting as it is bad for your health.
2016-05-24 02:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by vonda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look that man shouldn't lay a hand on you! Did he leave you back and blue?
If he does this crap, you need to report him to someone at school! Let him know u aren't going to take this abuse and will report it if he ever lays a finger on you again.
Keep a private diary and record any such events.
Now mama getting new man can be tense for anyone.
I'm sorry u feel your mama is choosing him over you. As u r growing up in the world, u deserve to be shown your value.
We live in a time, what East Indians call "Kali Yuga" which means lots of ignorance and suffering...harder to connect with our own inner true Greatness...the reflection of what created us
I feel for u b/c u r growing up & don't need this crap!
U need good examples & harmonious home.
Are there any good guidance counselors at school? Once in awhile a good one can really help put things in perspective.
How old r u? U getting close to college? Then u can eventually get a little job & rent a place with others and just stay there.
Its hard 4 single moms with kids these days...that's y she is kissing his a@@.
Hope some of these tips help! Keep yourself busy, express your frustration in your art, music or poetry, etc!!!! Open up to good friends! Connect w/ something greater through meditation! Enjoy life now it can suck later if u don't get things worked out now.
2007-10-21 17:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your dad around? if not maybe you have an uncle or an aunt you can confide in. Someone needs to know about this . You cant be uncomfortable in your own home its just not right . I know you said your mom sides with her boyfriend but does she know that he pushed you to the ground and hurt your arm? If not tell her maybe that might make a difference. Good luck
2007-10-21 17:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by that hot chick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom's boyfriend PHYSICALLY ABUSED you today. He's a grown man who had NO BUSINESS pushing you on the ground. And by his being "really mean" is he also verbally abusing you? Physical abusers are almost always verbal abusers too. You mom had NO BUSINESS having a child abuser move in with you guys.
It appears you discussed this with your mom and she doesn't side with with you?
Is your dad in the picture? Perhaps you can live with him or a grandparent. Document EVERYTHING your mom's boyfriend does to you or her in a SECRET diary he doesn't know about. Keep a copy at a friend's house. Take photos of any marks he leaves on you. Do not hesitate to contact child protective services if this continues. Also, speak to a guidance counselor at school.
2007-10-21 17:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mom's boyfriend moved in as well, and I absolutely cannot stand him. He is a rude prick.
I would NEVER allow him to push you on to the ground. If he does it again, call the police. First off- he is not your father, and has no right to discipline you, or touch you in any way.
If your mom chooses him over you, then see if you have a relative you could live with. She might change her mind once she sees how it really affects you. If it is possible- move in with your father.
Honestly, if he touches you again, call the police. That is physical assault. He has no right to be pushing you on to the ground. If you think that he will be abusive to you, there are places you can call and talk to about him, and it's possible to get a restraining order if necessary.
Also- if you've talked to your mom about it, and she still picks him over you, then she is just being selfish. There is a happy medium between you being happy with the person your mom is with, and her being happy.
If it really bothers you, your mom should respect your feelings as much as you respect hers.
Good Luck- and don't let him bully you around.
2007-10-21 17:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is child abuse. You need to go to your school guidance counselor, someone that is mandated to report child abuse. A family member may not want to get involved. I know this is scary and you probably are worried if your mom will be mad, but you have already been hurt. If he just moved in and has already done this to you, things could get very bad very quickly and you need help. Good luck, I will pray for you.
No matter where you live, you can call The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD
if you don't feel comfortable talking to a counselor.
You can also visit their website at:
http://www.childhelp.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child
2007-10-21 16:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
That can be tricky. You need to sit your mom down when he isn't around, and without yelling, openly discuss your concerns about him. Its possible she isn't seeing what you are as she is still in the infatuation stage. Nobody has a right to harm you at all, for any reason. Be upfront with the guy and your mom and tell her and him if he continues you will report him. You start showing up at school with bruises the counselors will report him.
Don't let this cause you to harm yourself. Its not worth it. I know its hard to see your mom living with someone other than your dad, and for you to not like him? I know it is hard. If you can, talk to your dad about it, let him know what this guy is up to. He can legally get the guy to move out, or have his atty put restrictions on him. If he is harming you, dont' hesitate to do it. There are call lines to report abuse where you dont leave your name. Dont let him bully or intimidate you or you lose. Make the guy toe the line. Let the cops deal with him. They will get him for child abuse. Do what you have to do for you first. Your mom is a grown up and should not be subjecting you to such danger, and if she looks the other way, report her too. You have a right to be safe, to be protected, not to be abused, mollested or harmed. Give up your rights, and you lose, protect yourself.
2007-10-21 17:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by cruisepuppy7452a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully if you want any peace at all..
YOU CAN NOT CHANGE YOUR SITUATION RIGHT NOW, so find peace with him. You don't have to like him, you don't have to respect him, you don't have to really talk with him, but you have to live with him and share him with your mother. Your time will come when you can move out. .. ... ..... So take the path that will give you peace, because fighting with him will only give you STRESS and HEADACHE'S, and thats not worth it..
Does that make sense?????
I'm not trying to shove god at you, but this is a great prayer.
Read this:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
2007-10-21 17:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by Vindicatedfather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your telling the truth this guy is guilty of domestic assault and your mom needs her head examined, but before you accuse him YOU NEED PROOF. without it they will just say you made it up. did you get your arm checked by your doc? it might show that you hurt it like you said and not that you fell. if your mom still defends her guy I hope your on good terms with your dad and can live with him or have someone in the family who would I don't know any woman who would take somoeone who hits their kid just because shes afraid of being alone. even a nice guy who didn't like you would at least MAKE THE EFFORT to be nice to you if he really cared. but PLEASE THINK and get PROOF before you make accusations that will make things worse for everyone. PEACE and be SAFE.
2007-10-21 17:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A. How old are you?....if your 18...move out
B. Did he phisicaly abuse you? Did you tell your Mom that he hurt you?
C. What was the argument about?...was it about something serious?....or something silly....like you couldn't buy a cd or something....in which case it's time to let it go.
D. Is your father around? Can you talk to him?
I really don't know what to tell you, cause I don't know the circumstances. But I would suggest having a serious talk with your mother.
2007-10-21 17:03:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋