One is 18 and the other is 15. I work everyday I have my own business. Theyre not really intrested in that either. These guys are in for a hard life if they dont listen to me .We live in Chicago and the drug dealers make that life look glamorous. What should I do ? Serious suggestions please.
2007-10-21 14:45:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I suggest you sit down with your sons and discuss how today's World is and how important education is.
2007-10-29 07:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by †[L]oveless®† 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you've already tried talking to them, try listening to them. Tell them you don't want to come down on them but that you love them and you're worried for their future. Then ask them what they want to do once they get out of school. What are they interested in? What would they rather be doing besides going to school? Get them to open up to you a little so you can understand where they're coming from. Then try to put your head together with theirs to find some common ground.
I suspect they want some of the same things you want for them. But because you're the parent, they think you don't get it. And because they show no interest in school work you think they don't get it. Find a way that you can all speak the same language and work together to get them where they want to go.
2007-10-21 15:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never took school seriously at all I was also really naughty when growing up and the more my parents hassled me the more I pushed away form them I now work full time for a government agency and live with my b/f of 5 years maybe i was luck but the more you push them the more they will run away (well I did).
2007-10-21 15:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Working Mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to take them on a field trip to the local prison? Also, perhaps they need a male mentor?
Do you have any male family members or friends who could lead by example? Or are you involved in a church with some positive male role models.
You may also need to talk to their school counselors. That is why they are there...to help. They may have resources that you are not aware of.
2007-10-21 14:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are boys and your their mom, you don't know anything (i think it goes). They need to hear this from someone that they respect, admire and trust probably preferably male. You could also maybe look into some of your communities or school's mentoring programs for your younger son and maybe job corps for the older will help them with seeing beyond the boundary's of their current situation.
2007-10-21 15:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I raised 5 boys Today they are all men and they all succiding well BUt Yes listen I Never push them in a carer of my choise I always told my sons ;; It dosnt matter what job or career you are chosing as long you are doing a honest life its all I want And today they are very grateful we let them free to choose because they are happy on their jobs
2007-10-21 15:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm around their age and my mom does overact with everything. If my grades arn't perfect she threatens to take me out of dance which is like my life. I mean they're teenage guys either they're going to take school serious to the extreme or not at all. Eventually they'll get it.
2007-10-21 14:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the older one he needs to be a good role model for his brother.
If that doesn't work then start disciplining them.
2007-10-21 14:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not overreacting at all they need to do good in school if they want to go anywhere. try talking to them about how important it is
2007-10-21 14:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by fielder27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋