Emotinally And Physically?
Why Or Why Not?
2007-10-21 01:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And The Pain From Giving He/She Birth? Was It Worth It? Why?
2007-10-21 01:31:48 · update #1
Well I'm Only 11! Gosh! Just Wondering...
2007-10-21 06:30:12 · update #2
I gave birth to my first child as a teenager. The birth and the motherhood were so very difficult.
However....I live for my children. I adore them. I would suffer a million times the pain I went through for just one of my children's hugs.
PROUD mother of three.
2007-10-21 01:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by blueink 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You must be kidding. Most woman don't remember the physical discomfort of giving birth, otherwise they would never have a second child. The human brain isn't set up that way. And today, there is no real reason for you to have the kind of pain you are talking about unless you live in a culture that doesn't have access to modern medicine(or computers and the internet). Childbirth is nothing, woman talk about it because its supposed to invoke fear and guilt in their children, especially the male ones.
The "pain" of raising children is the slow realization how little control you have over your child and how to raise them properly you have to push them away from dependence on you.. The "pain" is knowing that even though you will worry about them until the day you die, you cannot step in and fix problems that build their own character and add to their own life experience. The "pain" is knowing that maybe you can't give them everything they need, and you hope you have given them enough. The "pain" is not being able to make everyone else in the world love and care about them, the way you do.
Are they worth all that? If you expect children to worship the ground you walk on, live the life you didn't, respect you "just because", and love you back, you may not think so. If you understand the responsibility of being a parent is to raise a human who is not by their choice a burden on society and will add to the future human dynamic, if only to go on to raise good people, then maybe they are.
I love my daughters, they are good people and have positive lives. They are fun to be with, exciting to talk with, and they make me proud of them, and they make me laugh. I'm not sorry I had them, I've enjoyed most of their time with me.
However, if hindsight was allowed, I would have made different choices(not marrying a drunk and drug user I didn't love)and their exisistance would be a mute point.
2007-10-21 03:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, my children have been worth the pain -- emotionally and physically.
I have two children -- my daughter is 29, my son is 28. They were both born without anesthesia or epidurals. Labor with my daughter was 5 hours, and labor with my son was 19 hours. The pain was no fun, but thankfully it doesn't last forever.
Motherhood is the most gratifying and thankless job on the planet -- my children are my most precious gifts, my love for them, and their love in return, is almost too much to actually comprehend, much less explain.
2007-10-21 03:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by tracy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well... I went through 56 hours of labor (yes... 56!) and then had to have an emergency C - Section. The experience was exhausting, scary and painful; but none of that mattered when I looked into my son's eyes. I guess I finally understood what unconditional love is.
2007-10-21 03:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my labor was induced because i was over a week late. i was in full labor for at least 16 hours before i decided to get an epidural. my epidural kept wearing off and they had to keep giving me more shots. i was in labor for a total of 30 hours, and finally ended up having a c-section. the labor and the recovery from the surgery was the worst pain in my entire life. i also threw up the entire time i was in labor and in the surgery room. but through all that shyt, it was totally worth it. my daughter is the best thing that ever happened to me! even tho she caused me so much pain lol!!
2007-10-21 03:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Gracie'sMama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i remember screaming during labour get it out, just get it out, my epidural didn't work and it felt like trying to push a water melon through a polo mint hole and then my son was taken to intensive care for 24 hours and i sat crying all night please let him be ok, which thankfully he was. He is now 7 and this morning he has gotten up in a rotten mood so we have been bickering all morning. we went to the shops this morning and i was watching him singing and dancing outside the shop and i had the biggest grin on my face he is just so cute and wonderful i am so proud of him.
is it worth all of the above yes definately I'm so glad i'm a mum:)
2007-10-21 02:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by sharon b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some Female must have some real issues!
Was my daughters worth the pain? Yes for the most part. Now if you had asked me six weeks after my first daughter was born and my hip was still dilocated I might have said "I don't know".
2007-10-21 05:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes lol, No seriously they are worth the pain they give you from birth on.
You will never have a deeper realtionship than one with your child.
2007-10-21 01:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 3 children and they were all worth the pain seeing there smilling faces every morning makes me very proud to be there mother, we have are ups and downs but i guess every1 does they are soooo worth the pain
2007-10-21 02:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think any mothers would answer negatively, not because I believe that children are truly worth the pain, but what kind of mother would admit that they were not? Just think about the guilt associated with that.
2007-10-21 01:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋