Ok my parents are currently building a house and they don't know weather to make it with 3 rooms or 5 rooms. The extra 2 rooms would be for me and my future husband. But I don't want to live with my parents because me and my dad don't get along almost at all. My future husband would agree because it would cost us cheaper than building our own home and we can use the rest to buy a good car. Now we would be somewhat separate from my parents either one of us upstairs and the others downstairs, either one of us in the left and others in the right wing of the house. But still the Kitchen would be one for everyone....So I am kind of afraid that most of the fights I will have with my dad will be in the kitchen (which I think it's dangerous for both of us, we had some pretty ugly fights)...and besides I've always dreamt of having my lil cottige and what about when we have kids...should I live with my parents (and husband) for all my life???
2007-10-21 02:43:03 · 7 answers · asked by crishu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not a very good idea,per SE, young couples need privacy for closer intimacy to love, hug, cry fight, make up, walk around the house naked if they choose and so on
The other negative is parent taking side when there is a disagreement, it is normal it is what parents do!!!!!!!!!
Then of course, there is the fact that some people need more privacy then others and only you and your husband will know how far you can take that issue.
The economics of it, are of course in your favor, if it is something you and your man can do it, with both of you working, building a nice nest egg to buy your own nest could be put together in a couple of years, at that time your parents can use the extra two bedrooms to make extra income out of it, hope this helps good luck
P S it is already very hard for two people to live harmoniously, when you have four and two of them are all ready at war it can end up disastrously
2007-10-21 03:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Loretta M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't live with your parents. No, matter how much money you save, it will end up costing you your marriage. Marriage is hard enough when two people live alone. You and your new husband need to experience life by yourselves and make your own way. Even if you have to rent an apartment for a couple of years, it will be worth it in the long run.
2007-10-21 09:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When I've answered questions like this in the past I've done so from a typically American perspective. I've only recently realized that there are other cultural dynamics (even within the U.S.) where transgenerational cohabitation is a normal occurrence. For me it's not, because I am of the opinion that there can only be one "man" of the house, and one "lady" of the house, and naturally the elder members will rightly think it should be them (this is my cultural bias). Your husband will likewise want to assert his role as man of his household, but he can't be because it's not his house (at least not exclusively). Since I freely admit having a cultural bias on this issue, I recognize my advice may not have as much value to it as someone who has a greater understanding of similar cultural uniquities to yours. So, as you are able, seek people of this sort to get more tailored advice. Good luck in this regard.
2007-10-21 11:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not the smartest or most experienced person, but maybe you should just talk your mom into talking you dad into 3 rooms. You could tell her to say, it would be more expensive, because she (you) and (your husband's name) will move out eventually..and it would be a waste of money.
Hope that helped :)
2007-10-21 16:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by qtpiekels21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband should try to live on your own. It is so important to put time and energy into a marriage to keep it working. If you fight so much with your DAD ... you will always be stressed out and that isn't fair to you or your husband. Follow your dreams... find your little cottage!
2007-10-21 10:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most adult women would rather eat glass than live with their parents. You already know the answer to this, and your father seems intent on controlling you all your life. Your choice.
2007-10-21 09:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want your own place ,then go for it. you shouldnt have to live with someone who makes you uncomfortable.
2007-10-21 09:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋