My grandma was more like a mom. The doctor told her she had cancer three years ago...the night my mom told me I fell asleep cryin with her.2 years later I was spendin the night with my cousin (like sister & practically lived there). We were on myspace when her older brother comes downstair & answers the phone...its my grandpa (at his hose where i lived) & a silent conversation happens I asm william (older cousin) if hes ok...he said grandma died...me & mindy (girl cousin) go upstair and cry....the next day was Mindys b-day party.I cry most of the time...we get home & my bro is crying (first time i ever see him cry) & I go to mindys room...me and my bro moved into my cousins house without going to our granparents houe.
I still cry at night. Is it normal...or am I over dramatic?
2007-10-20 18:15:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're not over dramatic but what you're doing is dwelling on her death too much rather than her life. Look at photos, remember the good times, talk aboout it with family, look at home videos.. anything which will have you remember your grandmother in a happy positive light rather than negative. It will hopefully bring closure. Just remember the happiness she brought. Unfortunately it's a fact of life that everyone is going to pass sooner or later, remember your grandmother for who she was when she was alive and dont dwell on the day that phone call came. Hypothetically, would you grandmother really be happy knowing you're crying all these days about her??
Try to get on with your life and be happy the way it was when she was around
2007-10-20 18:21:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mike S 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
U R NOT being over dramatic. Who said you can only mourn for a limited amount of time? Who said that u have to remember every date of every horrific moment in your life? If I stayed up crying all that time, the specific date would be the last thing on my mind. You are going to grieve, let it happen. It's actually healthy. Once you do get over it, you will still grieve around every anniversary of it, probably every holiday, etc. So what. Cry, get it out! You loved your grandparents deeply. Good for you! You are probably one of the most "normal" people on here right now! Cry on sweetie!
2007-10-20 18:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is normal to cry. You have lost someone that you love dearly & this is a part of the process that everyone works through in dealing with their grief. It will take a while, so go easy on yourself. A year is the usual time that it takes to begin to get back to normal in life after losing someone. For some, it can take longer than a year, & that is Ok too.
2007-10-20 18:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not over dramatic at all because in time your sadness will go away and you would feel much better, but you must give yourself time. God will make a way for you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. And beside crying is good for you let it out because if you hold it in it will only get worst.
2007-10-20 18:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by $Moe$ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you cry all you want. By the time I was 19 years old, I'd lost all my grandparents and my father. You can't put a clock on grief. It's been many years now since I lost my dad and I still sometimes cry because I miss him. There is nothing wrong with you at all.
2007-10-20 18:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cry as much as you want to sweetheart. losing someone you love really hurts. i lost my grandma & grandpa last year, so i know how you feel. i have a photo of my grandparents on the table next to my bed & i say good morning to them every morning & good night when i go to bed. it makes me feel closer to them. the tears will start to fade.....it just takes time. hugs & luck
2007-10-20 18:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes thats totally normal.
but you know the people you love that die are always the ones watching over you.
shes there with you.
dont cry...praise.
2007-10-20 19:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kirsten™ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sory.. its normal people have there own way of gettiong over things i cried when my papi died on and off for the last four years....
i hope you fell better soon
2007-10-20 18:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you cry EVERY night? if so, maybe you should seek some counseling. No offense or anything, it's understandable why you're grieving so much, but you need to help yourself move on.
2007-10-20 18:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by Hall + Oates 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it's normal real normal`
2007-10-20 18:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by isbell_patrick 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋