About 2 hours ago I went down to the store to get a phone card and a news paper for my dad, I came back and noticed I forgot the newspaper. My dad gets kind of annoyed that I forgot it, and I said I would go back to get it. I was hungry and thirsty so I got a snack and a drink, and this is when he gets really pissed off. He says that when you forget something, you should correct your mistake (which I I told him I was going to), and he just waltzes out of the house and goes down to the store to get the newspaper himself. When I was apologizing he said that my mom and I never have any respect for him or anything he does. The truth is that everything I do is for my parents. I'm a good student in school, I dont do drugs, I'm taking AP classes to get ready for college, etc... What do I do?
2007-10-20 09:48:27 · 7 answers · asked by paulweezy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He says I dont deserve any respect just because I'm a kid. He also has heart problems and I dont want to be stressing him.
2007-10-20 09:52:41 · update #1
Your dad sounds like an impatient guy.
If you'd gone back right away, he probably wouldn't have given you a hard time.
Yes, he should have been glad you went in the first place, and were going to go back, but I'm guessing he's not that kind of guy.
He lost his temper and made a generalization about you "never" having respect for "anything" he does. We all know that's not true, including your dad. He was just mouthing off.
So, you know where you stand, and what you have to deal with. Next time, get the paper before the snack. One of these days soon you'll be on your own, and won't have to deal with him on a daily basis.
2007-10-20 09:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply take this as a lesson learned and in the future I would follow through on the promises I make. I think it is wonderful that you are preparing for college, not on drugs and are a good student in school. I would not worry about him getting mad to much unless he stays mad about it. It will pass and when you tell him you are going to do something I would just do it and get it done then worry about getting a snack later. Afterall, you did forget the newspaper. I think it was a little immature how he handled the situation, but whose parents are perfect? Not mine that's for sure. I wouldn't get too worked up over it though.
2007-10-21 07:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He makes a good point that if you tell someone you'll do something, you should do it immediately. Not get yourself a snack then go do it when it's more convenient. Be responsible and take care of it.
On the other hand, you're still just a kid. He shouldn't get mad when you don't act like an adult. He's there to guide you.
But keep in mind that he's not healthy, and stressed. When he gets frustrated w/ you, try to just be understanding, don't get defensive or make excuses. All he wants is to make sure you grow up right and do the right thing. So just listen and say "I hear what you're saying dad", even if you don't want to hear it. He doesn't want you to feel bad, he just wants to be listened to.
2007-10-20 10:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should have gone right back to get the newspaper before you got something to eat, because it made it seem like you don't care and will take your sweet time snacking while he's waiting for his paper....
Just tell him you're sorry if it came off like that but you were really hungry and didn't realize he'd get so upset if you waited a little bit longer to get the paper.
2007-10-20 09:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize your dad is holding down the fort (maybe mom too), and is probably under a lot of stress and he's indirectly taking it out on you and your mom. Just think of all the good things he does and keep loving him and keep being a good student. Your dad loves you. Good luck!
2007-10-20 09:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by peaches6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old man needs to take a chill pill. That's all I can say. Yes, there are a lot more potentially dangerous things you could've done to 'disrespect' him. He needs to lighten up and live life a little bit instead of taking everything OTT.
2007-10-20 09:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if dis is the only thng dat hpnd den dont thnk much abt it.. may be ur dad wanted the newspaper 4 n important thng....n if all dis hpns regularly den speak to ur Dad n tell him dat u care a lot for him..... even i had this prblm with my dad before..... i thought da best way will be to sit down n tlk with him... i spoke to him for a quite a while n since den i strtd speaking to my dad regularly as a frnd n lyk i speak with my mom daily.... try being frndly with ur dad lyk u are with ur best frnd....try dis n i m sure it'll wrk.....
2007-10-20 09:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by snow white 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋