As a child I wasn't told that I had a different father. My Mom told me at the age of 25, but I had already figured out what family name I came from, just not which brother it might be. When she told me, it took me 4 years to build the courage to approach him. I went to his home and his NOW wife made me feel as if I had no right to be there. (I was conceived BEFORE they met) She acted as if I were out for money. I was not prepared for questions about my blood type etc; She even suggested that I may belong to one of his brothers, not him. She began to demand DNA testing. I began to cry, I felt just like a child and I felt that the burden of proof should be on my parents NOT me. He said that he didn't deny that I am most likely his child and that I look just like his mother. I would love a relationship with my Dad. I feel that I've been cheated out of major experiences and denied the right to know my Dad. But he's made no effort to contact me. Should I try again to connect with him?
2007-10-20 07:40:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You could attempt to contact him and let him know how you feel. Inform him that you interested in getting your know you bio dad and wondered if he wanted the same. If he responds positively then you will be happy hopefully and get to know each other. But if he says no then you must also be prepared for this possibility. Although it does seem unfair he does have another live right now and as such may want to close the chapter on his past. But for your and his sake I do hope that he would like to get to know his daughter and be proud of all that she has accomplished and get to share life with from this day forward. As for his current woman she will have to accept that you are his blood and if she continues to bug you or suggest that you get tested let her know that if any testing is to be done it will be your dad getting tested and not you. Best of luck to you with this situation in your life.
2007-10-20 07:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to have a relationship with trailor-trash like this? Move on, the parental relationship is only important if there is a normal loving background, outside of that it's just physical realities. Get away from these people and focus on your own development and interests and quit worrying about something that will likely NEVER be satisfying.
2007-10-20 14:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should definitely try again, but his wife really needs to stay out of this. Try talking to your dad again, maybe on neutral grounds. Ask him out for a burger or something like that. See how he react to that...if it's yes...your doing good. If he agrees, see how his reacting...if he is calm...just take one step at a time. I feel for you. You have missed out on a lot. You deserve to have a relationship with you Dad. Good luck.
2007-10-20 14:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kiwi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. You will just get hurt again. You will just run into the same resistance. He is clearly a man who allows his wife to dictate the terms of his relationships with others.
2007-10-20 14:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋