When he gets paid, he faithfully gives us the money & we pay the loan. That's not the problem. My son has a junior license which means he must be off the road and home by 11pm. He cannot drive between the hours of 11pm & 7am. On weekends after work, he works till 8pm, he goes straight out with his friends and doesn't come home till 12 or 1am. I'll call his cell phone and he says I'll be home soon and doesn't show up till 45 minutes later. He has straight A's in school and is respectful in all other ways. He just got the car about 2 months ago. I understand it feels good to have freedom at his age but I worry something could happen that late. Especially drunk drivers. I always see him wear his seat belt and obeys road laws but he won't come home on time. I was crying the one night cause he forgot his cell phone and didn't call me I didn't know if he was okay. I was so mad I didn't speak to him. The car is in our name.
2007-10-20 17:01:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You poor thing! I dont want to go thru that , but one day I will have to. I have 3 of my own, that dont listen now!
Dont forget he is 17! We were once 17 too and I know I didnt listen at all! Once I got a taste of freedom - Goodbye it was! My poor parents! I would tell him that the law states it - not you! If he gets caught, he will lose the privilage of driving! Also, tell him that if he is out and drunk to call you & you will pick him & his friends up NO QUESTIONS ASKED! And remember - NO QUESTIONS ASKED! Just tell him its the state law, not your law! Tell him every time he leaves the house for work , every day!
2007-10-20 17:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Mammamia3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be pulled back in mom. Sounds like a good kid but tell him if he wishes to have access to the car he must obey the law. If he is out after the curfew, you will take away the keys until you feel he is mature enough to handle the responsibly of following the rules. When you do give him back the car, no more chances or excuses for being out too late or forgetting or not answering the cell phone. One chance and that's it. You might add that the car will be waiting for him after he graduates from high school and turns 18 if he blows it.
2007-10-21 00:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth trying to talk to him again? Maybe you can compromise with him a bit with this situation eg. you and your husband pick the car up after work some weekends or drop him off somewhere after he brings it home so he can go out without the car and he promises an oath never to get into a car with a drunk driver. Also, you could let him know that if he gets stuck out, he can call home at any time and one of you will pick him up without question, so he gets home safely (or pay for a taxi etc). He sounds like a good kid, maybe if you can get him to realise he is not bulletproof and there are idiot drivers on the road that kill people, he might see why you are so concerned. The State where I live has a program about young driver safety with police and parents and some young people with personal experience talking about the tragic impacts of fatal accidents with young drivers. If that is about, maybe his school could organise something like that. If the car is in your name, you have some power over him that way, but hopefully you can get him to toe the line without having to punish him. Good luck with it.
2007-10-21 00:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, nor am I anywhere near being one. However, I grew up being incredibly close with my mom. I saw her views about everything and learned a ton =]
My suggestion would be to take is car and liscence away for one week. Tell him that if he can't respect your rules then you'll take away what the rules are for. Driving him to school and have him take the bus home/bring him home. Then, when he needs to work, bring him and pick him up. Remind him what it's like without a vehicle and having to be home.
So..kind of give him a mini-grounding?
2007-10-21 00:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the appropriate punishment here is tough love. Take the ca. He is not to use it for a set amount of tme- and will again lose the privilege to have it until he abides bythe rules. You will hveto pay on th loan in the meantime- but if h is well behaved in other aspects- he is only doing this because he feels thre wot b consequences. do not theate to do it, DO IT. Once h ralizes there are consequences- he'll learn not to abuse the extr that he gets from you as parents.
2007-10-21 00:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by **leigh** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your son and explain how he could lose this luxury of driving by violating the curfew. He needs to be reminded that he has less than a year to become a legal adult and drive whenever and wherever the law allows.
2007-10-28 09:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by spyguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u r using the time limit as an excuse to keep tabs on him. See if you can get the restrictions removed. Take your sone with you so he can be reminded of the rules. If he is in an accident after the hours he is limited, it can really be bad for him. It will be likd driving without a license.
2007-10-21 01:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's breaking the rules. The car gets parked for a specified time, non-negotiable, even if that means you have to haul him around.
If it continues, the car get confiscated a second time for a longer period, non-negotiable, even if that means you have to haul him around.
The third time it happens, the car gets sold.
Tell him what will happen, then make it happen.
2007-10-21 00:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. You may have to "ground him" from his car and you go pick him up from work if he won't come home when he's supposed to.
I guarantee that will embarrass him and will make a believer out of him if that happens for very long.
2007-10-21 00:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Clueless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that its getting out of hand and tell him how worried u are at night thinking about him. if it doesnt change tell him to quit driving for a while. ground him and try to get him to chill out , drive him somewhere if he needs to go
2007-10-21 00:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋