learning to drive: unfair parents?

Question

im 18 and i want to learn to drive but my parents wont let me! People I know who are younger than me have started to learn to drive and i think its unfair that i cant learn to drive. My parents can afford it as they have good jobs and everthing. Are they being unfair?

Actually, I have tried to get a job by applying everywhere that needs xmas staff
Also, i am a student and i pay for the bus to school, dinner, and the books and equipment i need.

My mother is a teacher and my dad is a in technical operations for an american company is on 4x the wages of my mother

and the last thing i have is that people who are in my skool and recieve ema have their parents paying for their lessons while someone who doesnt recieve ema doesnt get their driving lessons paid 4

Answer 1

you are bing unfair by wanting them to pay for it!

you 18, you can dirve if you want to and your an adult so pay for it yourself!

Answer 2

There is no law in the UK that says you cant learn to drive. Other countries may differ with their laws, I dont know so I cant say.

If you want to learn to drive, just dig in your pockets and pay for your own lessons. At eighteen you dont actually need your parents permission but remember you need to pay a good insurance, ,tax and MOT. The lessons are expensive and so is the two parts of the test afterwards.

I know you say you are a student but there is a whole lot to consider.Can you afford the rest of it or do you want mum and dad to buy, insure, tax and MOT the car as well.

Its called a life lesson, if you want something you have to go the right way to get it.Save up first. Then do it in the correct order.

Answer 3

Your 18 so financial responsibility lays on you if something were to happen. Maybe they don't think your ready. Driving is a privilege not a right. Have you asked them for their reasons? If you have a job you should be able to sign yourself up for classes if it means that much to you. Your parents are probably concerned for your safety. There is much more than the mechanics of driving. There is also the common sense. Driving schools don't teach that. I have a 17 year old daughter that just got her licens. She would always come home and tell me so and so is 16 and they have there license. But I knew she wasn't ready at that age. Its a scary thought for parents to let their children get behind the wheel of a loaded gun. Because you could not only hurt yourself but someone else with you.
Try having a mature conversation with your parents about it.
Evidently you respect their opinion a little or you would have went and signed up by now. The only reason you need a parent to sign is if your under 18 for financial responsibility reasons. Just try talking with them. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think you should wait until you get a job of your own :) Its a bit unfair asking your parents to pay what £80 a month to learn to drive. I have been in my job for 4 years and since having my pay ive never asked my parents for a penny, ever! When i was 17/18 before i got my job my parents used to give me £60 a month!! and i somehow made that last!! i know the value of a £5 note!!!
Grow up a bit, driving lessons arent cheap!!

Answer 5

I agree with the others, Why should THEY pay for your driving lessons? Why should they pay for your car too ~ because if you can't afford the insignificant, then you can't afford the significant either.

There is NOTHING TO STOP You learning to do what you want to do ...except you. And, if you can't afford to do what you want to do at the moment, then set your sights lower.

I remember the story of a girl who was moaning AT her parents about the imbalance of riches in the world , and how that she and her family were so wealthy (as both parents worked hard) and the 'Unfairness' of it all.

The father simply said, "Don't worry about it. You're not well off, your mum and I are, and once you are 16, you can demonstrate your independence."

No, they are not being 'unfair' to you.

Sash.

Answer 6

Theyre probably just worried! Have you seen the news lately with all the road deaths? You'd probably be an excellent driver but its the other idiots out there on the road that they're worried about.

The last day an old school friend who i haven't seen in ages gave me a lift to uni. Halfway down the road he told me he stole the car and then proceeded to run a red light. Eventually i managed to jump out. Imagine if you were in a car and someone like that crashed into you? I don't want to scare you but they are the facts.

Do they not want you to drive or is it that they wont pay for you? I paid for all of my driving lessons myself. Theyre expensive. Even if they have good jobs they have to pay the mortgage, electricity, phone, credit card bills, insurance food. I dont want to sound ignorant but you probably dont see how much they actually pay for you. I didn't until i had to start buying my own food pay bills etc.

Pay for them yourself if you can. Dont be in such a rush anyway. You'll be driving your whole life. Anyway cars are expensive!!

Answer 7

Maybe your parents are trying to teach you responsibility and to get rid of your sense of entitlement you seem to have. They are not required to pay for this for you but you act like they are. You need to get off your behind and get a job and save up for the driving lessons yourself. It sounds like your parents are still giving you a free place to live even though you're an adult and they're under no obligation to do so, so maybe what they're waiting for is a change in this entitlement attitude.

Answer 8

If you have a friend that is 21, has a car he/she will let you use for the driving test, and the money to pay for the learner's permit and the driving test you should be able to get your license on your own. You don't need their consent because you are eighteen. If they won't help you, do it yourself. As far as them paying for it, that is not their responsibility as it will be your responsibility to buy yourself a car unless they decide to buy one for you out of the kindness of their heart. I think they are just trying to teach you to be independent and responsible. It seems to me that you have become too dependent on them. I find it likely that even with their good jobs and having plenty of money as you say that they are financing your education, which is very expensive. Getting a driver's license is not that expensive so I think if you want it bad enough you will be able to get it. They are not holding you back. You are holding yourself back by not taking the initiative to find a way to get what you want on your own. They are perfectly within their rights to deny paying for it. i have faith in you and I think you can do it yourself.

Answer 9

Your a young adult, why on earth do you want your parents to pay for you to have driving lessons. Get a job and pay for it yourself. You dont need their permission anymore, your 18. You no longer a child

Answer 10

Looks like you are going to be a self-made person!

Most high schools offer driving instruction. Some charge a small fee, but you can get that out of your parents by telling them you need to show up with a "lab fee".

Start shopping around for a used scooter... perhaps on www.craigslist.org or in the local papers. 250cc would be ideal. You will need instruction in that, and will also need a motorcycle license, but you can get it and "get mobile" a lot cheaper.

Answer 11

No doubt they have their reasons (seeing this from their side - sorry!) You may think they can afford it - truthfully possibly they can't. I doubt you really know the state of their finances!

How about you get yourself a job and earn some cash to put towards driving lessons? That proves you are serious about it and puts you in a good light with your parents!