I need help with my dtr's anger issues. When she gets angry (which is frequently) gets out of control and worry about it a lot.
Anyone knows how she can get help and what kind of help I should look into for her? She refuses psychotherapy and argues constantly at home.
Any groups/books/therapy methods I can look into?
Thank you all in advance
2007-10-18 17:42:11 · 4 answers · asked by The_last_Amazona 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The first step is to find help for your daughter so she can start overcome her issues and become more productive in her life. That involves finding out WHY she is angry constantly, and then specific strategies to overcome the anger.
Counseling could be a good option, however, it is expensive. You will need to go to many sessions before you begin to make progress, and each session could cost $100 and up. Psychiatrists (the doctors that prescribe medicine) in my area cost about $200ish per session if you don't have insurance. You could check to see if there are any community-sponsored programs that are cheaper, but there is no guarantee that you will find one. Also, medication alone definetly will not help her problem. In fact, in some instances, antidepressants have been found to increase aggression.
Another good option is to find a life coach. I am a Life Coach and I can say that coaching definetly helps with family problems and it is a really good option. Life Coaches help to identify what problems your daughter is having (why she is angry), and then set goals to overcome the anger or manage it more effectively. Perhaps your goal is to decrease arguments or to spend more time with your daughter positively. Your coach will give you and your daughter specific strategies and tips to help you overcome your family and anger problems. Overall, your coach is like a partner that works with you to support you and motivate you to make your relationship work more smoothly. If you have any more questions, feel free to contact me. I'd be glad to help you out!
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Good Luck@
2007-10-18 17:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the book "Permanent Healing" by Daniel Condron, he says that anger has the mental/emotional cause of "sustained misunderstanding. Incomplete understanding. Unfulfilled desires."
and the remedy is "Be willing to release the past by initiating the learning process anew. You, as an adult, cause the fulfillment of your desires. Nobody else can do this for you."
Pick up a DVD called "The Secret"... has a lot of stuff in it about changing your thoughts to change your life.
2007-10-18 18:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 21 and refuses help? kick her a__ out until she can act right!! you will be able to do nothing unless she agrees to it...maybe she will get into trouble and get issued a court order like in the movie "Anger Management"
2007-10-18 17:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by onceisenoughilearnedmylesson 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually YOU are the one who needs help. You need to stop putting up with and enabling her bad behavior. As long as she resists getting any help and you put up with it you are getting exactly what you deserve.
The only person who can get her to get some help is herself. If she chooses not to, that's her problem . . . and yours if you continue to put up with it.
If you really want to "help" her . . . kick her out. For yourself I would say go to a 12-Step Group called Al-Anon. They work with people who think they can "change" another person and that are willing to put up with abuse like you apparently are.
2007-10-18 18:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋