how to fight back tears during fight?

Question

I am a very emotional person, and I hate it most of the time.
When I argue, I cant hold back my tears! I dont like it.. Please have suggestions on how to hold back my tears so that i can be able to say what i really wanted to say in a fight. Sometimes i find it unreasonable to cry during fights.. Your help will be much appreciated. Thank you

Answer 1

It takes a bit of practice, but when you're really sure you're going to cry right then and there, blink fast. The sudden movement makes it hard for tears to come out. If your eyesight seems to start blurring, as the usual warning of tears comes, it might be too late to block it. Say "never mind", and turn away, takes a few breaths, and if the conflict is not yet settled you can turn back and try as much as you can to bring peace back in.

Another tip- say you've cried in your bedroom. If you go out right after, everyone will know you've cried. So first, look in the mirror, wash your face, dry very well, and brush your hair. Then people will just think you needed some relaxing alone time.

Answer 2

Honestly, I feel that tears are just like energy.. and we should never, never hold them in, simply because it always feels better afterwards.
But that's obviously not what you are looking for. The only way I know of is to get out of the situation for a second (at least) to cool yourself off, because as long as you're in the heat of the moment, you can't hold tears back; and even if you can, it's going to be painfully obvious that you are trying not to cry.
And it's nothing wrong with being an emotional person, it just shows that you have personality and that you're passionate. :)

Answer 3

the tears are natural during a fight so the only thing to do is to avoid the fight. you didn't say who you are fighting with but you can walk away and say I don't want to discuss this now and then write out your complaints and give them to the other person.
If this is a husband or boy friend, write out the complaints you have, read any he may have and if you can't come to an agreement the relationship is dead so no more reason for fights but a separation and or divorce.

Answer 4

Shedding tears for the period of a combat isn't well on account that it is going to make your imaginative and prescient blur, you are going to much less most likely be equipped to combat thoroughly. You will diminish the hazard to win the combat, hohohoho. Back in your query, I do not shed tears for the period of a combat, I cry later on account that I regretted it or as a result of the following nagging, adolescence combat besides, under no circumstances combat at the moment.

Answer 5

I used to have these problem.
There is no instant resolution in these case.
What i did is: I practice debating in front of a mirror often, read lots of books about speech and how to deliver speech more diplomatically.

It takes faithful practice.

When ones can speak more diplomatically the message can be quicker digested by the audience. Hey you can still speak gracefully and cuts people's feelings like a knife. See all of those politicians on TV.
Good luck.

Answer 6

a lot of people have this problem, it is sometimes hard to prove your point while crying. I think taking a few deep breaths and calming down may help you control the urge to cry. Hope you wont have to do this too often, because no one likes to fight.
good luck
:)

Answer 7

if its not in you .....then don't try.....if UR the kind of person who cries then so what.....that's not a bad thing......and your not weak or a cry baby for doing it.....your just passionate about your point.........I wish I could be more like you....people seem to think I don't care....if I show no emotion such as crying.....and that simply isn't true

Answer 8

Make the other person cry first and then if you want, you can cry later.

Answer 9

try to think of some funny thoughts in the back of your mind...