How do i make my mom regret this?

Question

Basiccly, my mom and i are in a HUGE fight the type where she said that i dont even exist to her, and she told me to think of her as invisible and non existiing. we havn't talked since this fight!. How do i make her regret what she said to me?

what are some things i can do to make her fell bad for what she said? as in send her some love? but not by confronting her?

(no rude awnsers please. i really need this! just once and ill never do it again)

Answer 1

I'm not sure making her regret what she said is the best course of action. I don't know what happened in this fight, but a lot of people say things they don't really mean when they're angry. I suggest you sit down with your mom and just talk things out, and tell her that her words hurt you, and try to patch things up. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Hi Sweetie,
This is still going on/no progress? I can't imagine a Mother saying that to her child, & that's y I was so angry & suggested start packing to see if she'd intervene. I know u are hurting & my heart goes out to u. But, if she can be so callus, perhaps u should turn the other cheek & do persisley what she wants & make rself as invisable as u can with Lily, at dinners, eat later, there's obviously no sanctomony on her behalf r reasoning with her, she's shown no remourse, & has hurt r feeling. U know her best, wud not seeing her daughter 4 a days lighten her up? In most cases 2 wrongs don't make a Right, but under these circumstances Kara, it's not totally wrong to abide by her wishes. Nor do I know what was the fight all about, that she'd go 2 the extreme she did? I hope it wasn't about the Camera? This is an option that u have to make. Should she find it in her heart by missing u & I believe she wud, she'll come to U! Just make rself as scarce 2 her as u can, go 4 walks, avoid her seeing u is what I mean. She is very set in her ways & this is what I'm suggesting 2 u know. Stay in r room with Lily & don't let this get u down anymore only Time & Prayer's will heal this!
R in my Prayer's, Keep r chin up. Maybe om the weekend r Dad r ? can drive u 2 Wal
Mart & get a whistle 4 Lily, in the kid's dept r
sports dept. see if she'll mimmic it?

LOL, Diana D
P.S. U can't MAKE anyone Regret what they said. Sorry

Answer 3

Mother and daughter relationships can have so many ups and downs. Its ashame that the two of you have reached the point that you have. Seeing that none of us really know what went on its really hard for anyone to give you the right advise. But I will say this.... she is your mother no matter what.. I am sure through the years you both have made each other angry over one thing or another. Just remember that some day she wont be around... and take it from experience... this is one memory of her you do not want to keep with you the rest of your life. I would probably suck it up and try my best to just bite the bullet... for you only have one mom.... if you try to sit down and talk about it letting her know fully how you feel, your hurts and anger over it all and allow her to do the same maybe just maybe the two of you can get past this.

Believe me I have been in this spot with my mother over the years and now that she is gone those memories are not the ones I cherish and even though we had a rocky relationship I miss her dearly and wish she was here so I could have the time to change some of the issues we had in our past.

Best of luck to you I hope you both can somehow get through this and some how mange to become friends.

Answer 4

Do you really want her to regret what she said or do you want her to feel as bad as you feel (hurt)? A mother and daughter relationship is very hard and when we fight we say things we really don't mean. Then there comes the stubborn part of us with our stubborn pride. Be the better person, because the longer you stay mad at each the less time you have to build some positive memories. We are not gureenteed tomorrow. Say I'm sorry and I love you! Even if you weren't wrong. Forgivness, builds a better person. I know how hard a mother daughter relationship can be. You are alike in many ways and when you grow older and have your own child you will know that, the love of your child is the most precious wonderful thing. It definatly get difficult in the teenage years, because we don't want you to make the same mistakes we did. We want you to be better then we are and hopefully happier, and more successfully. Being a parent is the most difficult thing in the world. You can make things better by making the first move and if she doesn't respond the way you feel she should. Don't give up! We make mistakes also. We sometimes forget what it was like when we thought we knew it all. The difficult time we had when we were young. Remember she does things because she cares. We mothers tend to think we know it all. We just experienced the pains of being a teenager first and don't want our daughters to feel that same pain. I was a difficult Mom. Who thought she knew it all and sometimes wasted precious time on saying bad things. Good Luck and stay strong. Hurt feelings are the most diffucult to deal with. Pray in your mind and God will guide you.

Answer 5

I have a certain philosophy in the way I treat people when they say angry things like that to me.

It kind of goes like this: Be careful of what you wish for, because you might just get EXACTLY what you say you want.

She asked for you to ignore her, so I suggest that you grant her what she says she wants. If she calls you, does a non-existant person make a sound? If she enters the room, does an invisible person get noticed?

Get it?

Answer 6

Here's one of the GREAT things about MOTHERHOOD.... you may THINK you are doing something to make HER feel sorry and suddenly, she turns around and will make YOU the VERY VERY SORRY ONE... Revenge is IMMATURE, CHILDISH and in the case of turning on a MOTHER----basically it's INSANE.... you obviously are a teenager because only a teen would think of getting back at his or her OWN mother.. .. What I want is for you to do a little GROWING UP right now and understand that what your mother does or says is because she LOVES YOU... and YOU are obviously not an easy child to deal with or you wouldn't be trying to find revenge against her...... some day, YOU will be someone's mother and when you sit there telling YOUR CHILD exactly the same thing your MOTHER has told you or DO to your child what SHE is doing to YOU, I want you to remember REMEMBER today and remember how you THOUGHT you wanted to HURT YOUR MOTHER and hope to GOD that YOUR child doesn't try to hurt YOU like that.....

Answer 7

make her feel like she is nothing, ignore her. leave her no hot water for the shower, drink the last milk, eat the rest of the food she likes. if u have fotos oof her turn them around or put them face down, dont look at her. walk out on her.

Answer 8

Do exactly as she requested and make her eat her words.It's a passive-aggressive tactic. My mom said the same thing to me years ago but got upset when I never called her. She thinks that because she needs you so badly, it must be mutual.

Answer 9

everyone says things they dont mean in the middle of a fight...im quite sure you were guilting of doing it too.the childish and demeaning thing would be "to get back at your mother"...the mature thing to do is when you both are calmed down ,go back and talk to each other without raising your voices.....dont get back at your mother...its amazing how children/teens forget that how mothers go out of their way to do things for their teens

Answer 10

Try sending her flowers or chocolate! Women like us love chocolate!