Okay so recently my mom and I have been fighting more often, usually at the end of the day. We've always fought about trivial things, but I've been noticing a certain coldness to her voice now. Am I imagining it due to getting older, or does she really hold a sort of watered-down contempt for me?
2007-10-17 15:51:26 · 7 answers · asked by rbw_cynical 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
15 years old, my mom's 46
2007-10-18 09:12:01 · update #1
I'm sure she's just tired of the arguing all the time, we as parents, want to do the best for our kids, and when they argue all the time or get in trouble,or treat us-badly we wonder wow, where did i fail?what did i do to make this child , hate me so much?plus were kind of embarrassed to.we're learning as we go along in life,we don't know everything, really!!!!!!we get hurt feeling, just like you,we worry if our kids like or love us, or if were doing the right thing?we need to feel-wanted and love just like anyone else. just tell her you love her and give her a big hug, see if that changes things?
2007-10-17 16:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by debbie d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probably tired of arguing over "Trivial" things. Think about those things that you two argue about and determine if those are really good things to even bother discussing or arguing over.
I know that when I get sick of answering the same blasted question over and over and over again for my teenager, it gets a little old. No means no, my answer is just that, the final answer and I do usually supply a viable reason for the answer.
I believe that teenagers need to do good in school, be respectful to the parent, and help around the house a little.... Not just sit on a computer and play all night long and do absolutely nothing to help out.
Parents get tired, especially parents that work all day long to come home and continue to work around the house.
2007-10-17 23:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age.
Your mom is tired and needs a break. She has a lot on her shoulders and the fighting is about to become the proverbial straw that breaks the camel's back. She may be doing the slide into menopause (pure misery on all levels, believe me), or she may just be depressed.
I would suggest avoiding creating any kind of conflict with her. You should already know what she wants.
She works hard to keep a roof over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back and so forth. Your job as the kid is to go to school, do your homework, clean up after yourself, and do your chores. Try to go out of your way to help her out. Try making dinner for her some evening.
Have some compassion!
Take some responsibility!
2007-10-17 23:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moms getting older and kids getting older is a very volotile combination, you both have hormones working against you.
give her a break and help her out now and then. Mom's and teenage girls are an even worse combination! both have to realize that hormones play more of a part in the dynamics of a home than the teens themselves.
2007-10-17 22:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your attitude towards her. Do you pull your weight around the home, or do you expect mom to do it all? Have you ever offered her a hand with the chores, cooked her a dinner, or paid for her to get her hair fixed? if you tried some of my suggestions, you wouldn't have any problems from mom.
2007-10-17 22:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two need time away from each other, your getting older and things are probably tougher cause she can't control you no more time to move out depends are you working and helping her out,!
2007-10-17 22:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by lukynluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you necessarily have to speak to her at the end of each day? Once you accept that your mom has no power over you except what you give her, she will not be able to drive you crazy.
2007-10-17 22:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by Stephen L 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋