My dad died 6 years ago, when I was 10. I feel like I should be more over it, but I don't have anyone I could really talk to. I don't want to talk to my mom or my step dad because they don't get it, I've been to a therapist before, and that didn't work. All of my friends still have their parents. I just don't know what to do to fully move on.
2007-10-17 14:37:09 · 7 answers · asked by Kelsey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ten years old is very young to lose someone special like your dad. My dad died when I was 41, and it was even hard then. Yes, I agree that it's hard to talk to other people about how you feel after your dad dies, especially your friends who have both of their parents and don't know beans about how you are feeling.
Although you don't feel comfortable talking to your mom and step dad, you may have to explain to them that you are still having a hard time moving on. You don't need to go into detail, but at least let them know. By doing that, they will be able to help you find the proper person or group you can talk to that CAN help you.
I am sure that if your mom knows that this is still bothering you so much, she will do everything in her power to help you.
But, I can tell you one thing .... I still talk to my dad. I still miss him. And I don't think I will ever stop feeling this way. The sadness is not as bad, it gets better all the time, everyday ... but I still love him very much. Although it's been 6 years for you and 8 years for me, I don't think that you or I have anything wrong with us to feel this way. Perhaps, it's normal. But you won't find out for sure until you talk to your mom and give her the chance to help you through this.
2007-10-17 15:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by tracy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my dad, too. Truth is, most people never really get OVER it. It's something that they will be sad about for the rest of their lives. In movies people are sad for a few days and then they're happy again - real life sure isn't like that! Sadness can follow you forever. The trick is to remain functional and find joy in the world in spite of your sadness. One positive thing that some people get out of grief is a pronounced ability to feel more deeply. Sometimes this can help you to better appreciate the happy memories, and be kind to the ones you love. Hopefully you can accept the fact that you will always miss your dad and wonder what things would be like if he were still alive, and at the same time, cherish your memories of him and try to find joy in your life, knowing that life is precious and you need to live for the present.
I hope this helps. Good luck, I wish the best for you.
2007-10-17 14:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello, first let me say that it's very sad to hear of your lost. Listen very closely!!!! You don't need to move on. For the rest of your life you will have moments that are sad and seemingly depressing. When they come just take a deep breath and a minute to reflect. It's okay to have your moment of apprection for your father and the love that was shared. Now, I have a question for you. What do you love to do? This is important because you're 16 and still very inexperienced in life. If you can learn what you love to do, you can search for teachers, motivators and people you can look up to that won't replace your father but help fill a void in heart. The key is finding your place and your family like enviroment. This can only be done by following your passion. More at www.onistsense.com
2007-10-17 14:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by onist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i lost my brother 7 years ago and i lost my dad 1 year ago i still cant really talk about it but i am getting better if you need someone to talk to just email me and i will help you all i can cause i have been there and i can be there for you i am sorry for your loss
2007-10-17 15:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by chipper_35967 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever "get over it" when you loose a parent - no matter your age. Somehow you learn to live without them, but you never stop missing them. I can best describe it as somehow it gets a little easier to breathe each day. Talk to your mom - she may surprise you. I wish you peace.
2007-10-17 15:14:54 · answer #5 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of a regular therapist, try a grief support group for teens. people there are going to be more intune to what you're going through.
2007-10-17 14:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Try writing your feelings in a journal or something.
2007-10-18 13:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by cute_citis2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋