Family - September 2007

I'm 25 yrs old,I have lived with my mom all my life. I am attending school and I have been in a relationship for a year with someone I really love alot. He has asked me to move in with him,once my lease is up here. I would really love to move in with him,but the problem is my mother who feels I won't be able to take care of myself. She will be against it,I am the youngest of my siblings and the last to leave home. I don't know how to bring this up to her,I have tried so many times and before I can get out the whole scenerio she shoots it down by saying I could never survive on my own. The thing is,I'm grown,I will move out,I don't want to live under moms roof forever.But I don't know how to bring this up to her and work it out with her,so that she and I don't have bad blood. I'm very eager to get my life rolling in the right direction,I would like to keep this relationship going as well,and moving foward. Please mature answers only,I really need the adivce.

2007-09-03 16:56:28 · 3 answers · asked by Himynameis 3

Have you ever seen the show "Sister Sister" on disney?
You know how they were adopted into 2 seperate families.
Then they met eachother later in life.
Well thats kinda what happened to me and my sister.
We lived with eachother up until we were about 5, then our parents died in a car accedent.
We were put into two seperate foster homes and adopted by 2 different families.
We ended up meeting eachother our freshman year of high schhol.
The thing is her & I look nothing a like now. We did when we were little but not anymore.
We found out we were related becuase me & her just happened to have a picture of our parents on our binders.
So we went further into it and found out by our parents that we are realy sisters. (We got to see our adoption papers and plice reports of our parents death)
Well me & her became bestfriends.
Well I was adopted into a high class rich family and she lived in a trailer (now in a small appt) well shes poor.

2007-09-03 16:43:15 · 4 answers · asked by Brittney B 1

well heres the deal my dad died when i was 9 i am now 14 n i never cryed about it tell 2 days ago its like it just hit me that i dont have a father yet i knew it the whole time can u plz help me i feel like crap n i miss my dad.

2007-09-03 16:42:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

just cuz i didnt help someone, she got mad at me
tats a bad mom
what should i do

2007-09-03 16:23:36 · 6 answers · asked by 5ipodsathome 1

ok. my mom has been drinking all my life. She works eleven-twelve hours a day. So i could understand maybe having ONE beer. She gets home at about 4 pm, and she automatically starts. She never wants to drive me and my sister anywhere, and my dad is the only one who does any of that kind of stuff. The only time we really get to see her is when she is drunk. She is emotionally hurtfull, and she really needs help.
Is there anyway that I can get her sober? Oh and she smokes too :(

2007-09-03 16:21:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents, or more so my mother, basically want their children to be doctors that are wealthy and successful and will return to Vietnam to deliver salvation for all the sick and orphaned children and people. Its not like I don't want to help people, but I've dreamt of other things.

My oldest sister is an architect major. They guilt her often that she may be following her dreams but they always tell her she won't find any work. This irritates me.
My second sister just left for a liberal arts college in Pennsylvania [swarthmore!]. The very fact that they ahve pressured her so much to use her ridiculous brains to be a doctor made her not want to.
My brother is a junior in high school and is lazy. He is smart as hell but lazy. He doesn't want to be a doctor and is interested in technology.
And woe is me--I'm the last child. I'm the youngest of four and therefore obliged to fulfill my parent's dreams.

*question/rant continues*

2007-09-03 16:19:29 · 39 answers · asked by ? 3

What do you do when your heart breaks into two: part of you wants to go back home, where you grew up, to be close to family--

and part of you wants to be in the country you've been in for a few years, got education and could continue--but there is no family?

Tired of being so torn apart, tired of not seeing my mom, of not speaking my language. I'm afraid when I go home I won't find a job, and I can't bring my family here.

2007-09-03 16:18:01 · 6 answers · asked by sara 2

Almost every time I try to start a conversation with my mom, she ignores me and doesn't answer back. Then if I say something about it, she'll say, "What do you want me to say? You didn't ask me a question." Or she'll say, "yes I heard you. You said (such and such). So what?" It's not like i'm a child either. I'm 23 and try to have adult conversations but everytime I try to talk to her, she won't. The only time she ever talks to me is to say something negative or to nag at me. I don't get it. Then the other day, I very politely asked her a question and she snapped and yelled at me and said I was giving her an attitude when I wasn't at all. I kindly asked her a question and even said "please." Why is she always acting like a *****?

2007-09-03 16:16:26 · 12 answers · asked by Thing 5

I am 26 and still live at home. I pay for 40% of the family's bills. I am a vocal music teacher at a junior high school. I have a sister who is 22. My parents wants me to spend more time with them and talk about my life & my problems. Growing up as a teenager, I never really got along with my parents with my family because me and my sister fought constantly and all my parents did was favor her and said I was always wrong by not giving in to the little sister. They never understood who I was and felt that I hated them but I actually love them. I am embarrassed to talk to them about my problems now because I feel I am too old to. My sister is 22 and doesn't talk to them about her problems. If I talk to them, I feel I am more dependent than her. That is not right. In a family, the youngest is suppose to talk to the parents more than the oldest, right? I feel guilty about not talking to my parents, but I want to feel more independent than my sister. What I can do? Am I wrong?

2007-09-03 16:10:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

She married a man we are not fond of and although not much was said everyone knew how we felt. This man has been disrespectful and rude to us from very early on although seldom when our daughter is present. Our daughter and her sister were very close to us, as we owned for many years a lake home where we all went nearly every weekend and entire summers as a family for many years. Our daughters did not lack for anything including love. They were disciplined. She was an excellent student and earned a Masters degree. She had aimed at becoming a doctor but her first daughter slowed that process and the second child ended that dream. Her husband has a Bachelor's degree but has not had steady employment since their marriage. Her first child loves her grandmother dearly but now cannot see us. Our daughter has even referred to us as "ignorant and arrogant." All our friends who know her and us cannot believe this has happened. We believe her husband is behind this. Any suggestions?

2007-09-03 16:04:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need some suggestions on what to do to get help

2007-09-03 15:49:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

how can i be not sad any more?

2007-09-03 15:43:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime I go over his house or my house he always pick on me because he says it's his hobby to pick on his youngst nephew. What I do to get him back? PLEASE HELP?

2007-09-03 15:06:14 · 7 answers · asked by Cool Dogg Ringer 3

2007-09-03 15:00:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My brother is a college freshman who started a few days ago. I'd really like to send him some things that he would appreciate in a care package. He has 2 roommates, so he's living in close quarters. I don't want to send any packaged food, although I may bake something for him. What else can I send him and do you have any packaging tips?

2007-09-03 14:43:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom is verbally abusive. I don’t want to tell any one because she treats my younger siblings’ just fine. I have already decided I’m moving out at 18. But I wanted to know if there is anyway I can get out my house before I turn 18. I’m 16 now, but there is no way I can stay another two years in the house and put up with what she has to say to me each night.

2007-09-03 14:38:14 · 3 answers · asked by brttny 1

My X-Wife is asking me to kick my daughter out of our bed because she thinks she is too old. How old do you think it is OK for a child to sleep in a family bed? Please indicate reasoning thoroughly. I am trying to understand why. (assuming I am not a pervert)

2007-09-03 14:13:04 · 6 answers · asked by Deanrwhite 2

I lived on campus my freshman year and had a lot of freedom. I did pretty much whatever I wanted. I've always been a good girl and I was raised to make good decisions. I've never really given my parents problems.

Since the summer started, my parents have given me a curfew. At first it was 1am but then I argued it up to 2am. If I had it my way, I wouldnt have a curfew. None of my friends have curfews!!!

I'm pissed because now I live at home (half an hour from school) this semester AND I have a curfew.

My dad said I am too young to be out late and he is concerned about my safety. Safety is important to me too, but don't you think it's a little much to give me a curfew??? I'm not in high school anymore!!!

2007-09-03 13:58:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, so my husband and I split up, I got a job, then a new car. I LOVE THIS CAR, but at the same time it is a financial burden on my family, we have since got back together and I quit my job because child care is SO expensive. He's also going to college. So, the car payment/insurance are very expensive. My brother needs a car and wants to take over my payments. The car is in our mothers name and he's not very responsible and I'm afraid he won't be able to make the payments. I love this car. It's a 03 Honda Civic SI, I would be so sad to see it go, but right now I can't afford it and I don't want to pay on it for 7 years. My mom is all for letting him take it over, I would be, but the fact that I love this car so much, and I'm afraid my bro will ruin my mom's credit stand in the way of me letting it go. What do you think? Let me add that the only other vehicle we would have for a family of 4 is a Chevy S10, wich seats 3 people tight. I don't know what to do? Thanks :) Happy Labor Day

2007-09-03 13:37:07 · 2 answers · asked by summer_b 1

I don't know where to start, but I guess I'll start by saying she's just a flat-out, self-centered *****. I have a car and a license (neither of which she has) so I always take her and her friends places when they ask and sometimes I even offer. The other night, her friend was staying over, and my sister asked me to take them to Whataburger to grab a bite to eat. Well, I had just got home from work and I was super exhausted. My answer was inevitably "No, I'm sorry, I would if I wasn't so tired", and here is what she says to that-"You probably wouldn't be so tired if you weren't always with your UGLY boyfriend, so just get out of my life cuz you never do anything for me." Please someone tell me what do.

2007-09-03 13:20:49 · 7 answers · asked by miss_me 1

ok i ask him can he get a family plan and add me if i pay my part and get good grades an keep the house clean so he said ok then later i asked him whens he gonna do that then he said hes not gonna do that so i told fine tak me to walmart so i can get a prepaid phone then he was like tell your mom to buy it for you which is so stupid cuz i dont even live with her i hate him

2007-09-03 13:06:38 · 6 answers · asked by K-jn 4

Ok. I am 19, and i have a sister who is 21. We live together with my mom (we're pretty poor, lowl, so dont say move out, its not an option right now) And i just cannot stand her anymore. I feel like im going to beat the snot out of her. She is just COMPLETLY unreasonable. She will not listen to anyone, and she is completly selfish. A few examples:

I was making lunch, and she asked me to make an eggroll, which i did, and she just let it sit there for 3 hours, so my mom comes home and does the dishes, and mentions she threw the eggroll away she gets all bitchy, yells my mom out, and runs out for a few hours

I was at a cook out and she comes out yelling and screaming at my dad who had gone into her room (which she no longer lives in, my dad lives in his own house) that he had thrown stuff away, and now she needs to "sort through the shattered remnants of her life" It was all trash. She even has a rabbit up there that she doesn't take care of, she is yelling and crying and runs out.

2007-09-03 13:03:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-03 11:32:58 · 5 answers · asked by shondagrogan 2

I share a room w/ my 15 year old sister.I'm getting hardly any sleep,and am doing poorly in school b/c of it.There's nowhere else for me to sleep,the basement my sister is always in,and the attic has mice and no windows.The music vibrates through the floor,and my sister doesn't listen to my mom or me.I am soo tired all the time,and am constantly fighting w/ my sister.I also have severe anxiety.What should I do?I've talked to my parents about it,but they won't do anything!I'm 13.

2007-09-03 11:21:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

where i live it is nearly impossible to find a job as a teenager so i live with my parents because i am a student and not able to stand on my own feet. i am very good in school, i help my mother with the household, i help all my neighbours and relatives whenever they need me.when i was a teenager my parents were unemployed and we went throug a very hard time which lasted for over 7 years.i was not able to go out,have friends or a boyfriend,to have fun,wear nice chlothes or do simillar things.it was hard for all of us, but now my father has a wellpaid job for over 5 years,we live in our own house and are well off,but still my parents keep their belts tightened when it comes to my needs as a girl,i study hard and i am very good in school,if i could work i would,but there are no jobs for students in my country,it is hard to find a job for adults,i do my best,but they do not understand that i need make up,clothes,and other stuff,they can afford it but they dont think i need it,what to do?

2007-09-03 10:57:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am not getting hardly any sleep,and am doing poorly in school b/c of it.There's nowhere else for me to sleep,the basement my sister is always in,and the attic has mice and no windows.The music vibrates through the floor,and my sister doesn't listen to my mom or me.I am soo tired all the time,and am constantly fighting w/ my sister.I also have severe anxiety.What should I do?I've talked to my parents about it,but they won't do anything!

2007-09-03 10:54:02 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

well i had

2007-09-03 10:48:06 · 41 answers · asked by no drama 2

he always anoys me when im doing stuff

2007-09-03 10:39:41 · 10 answers · asked by Isaiah D 1

My husband and I moved to Tucson at the end of 2003. My parents lived here and I wanted to be closer. When we moved here we were all going to live in the same house together until we all get on our feet. Well that did not go as planned. My parents ended up taking our tax return and making eveything their own. We had to put our things in storage. My mom was never this stingie when we lived in Oklahoma. Now all she talks about is money. She is used us. How do I trust her again? Why did she do this to us? All we wanted to do was start fresh like them and they took advantage of us.

2007-09-03 10:39:25 · 6 answers · asked by ktdmama3 1

My daughter is 22 and stubborn as the day is long-yes, I suppose she gets it from me.
My daughter used to respect me but the last 3 years her behaviour has changed-Not for the better.
She has been rude and selfish. I have always given to her without reservation.
She married someone I do not like and has a daughter of her own now. I am the Grandmother technically but she has not allowed me to see the baby because I don't like her husband.
I offered to stay at a hotel, just to see them and not him, it would only be for 3-4 days since they live in Florida and I live in Ohio. She declined my offer without hesitation. She does not call or write me. I have told her some pretty hateful things in retailiation to her and her husband's mistreatment of me. I have been waiting for her to apologize but nothing. The baby is now 14 months old and I fear she will never know me.
I think my daughter is extremely unfair to use a tactic like this to hurt me.

2007-09-03 10:27:33 · 12 answers · asked by Lorraine C 2