Have you ever seen the show "Sister Sister" on disney?
You know how they were adopted into 2 seperate families.
Then they met eachother later in life.
Well thats kinda what happened to me and my sister.
We lived with eachother up until we were about 5, then our parents died in a car accedent.
We were put into two seperate foster homes and adopted by 2 different families.
We ended up meeting eachother our freshman year of high schhol.
The thing is her & I look nothing a like now. We did when we were little but not anymore.
We found out we were related becuase me & her just happened to have a picture of our parents on our binders.
So we went further into it and found out by our parents that we are realy sisters. (We got to see our adoption papers and plice reports of our parents death)
Well me & her became bestfriends.
Well I was adopted into a high class rich family and she lived in a trailer (now in a small appt) well shes poor.
2007-09-03 16:43:15 · 4 answers · asked by Brittney B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ive stayed close to her becuase shes my sister.
Our parents & the adoption agency (since were both minors) said that were alowed to be with eachother when we want.
After my freshmen year my parents put me in a private school.
So me & my sister see eachother after she gets out of school and on the weekends.
Well whenever she comes over she makes a mess of my room and doesnt clean it up, and my parents make me clean it up they say its not our nannys job, she eats ALL of my food (including my neices) she smokes all of my cigerettes when Im asleep and blames it on my mom, she has me buy her stuff ALL the time. She never pays for gas money to go anywhere. Then when I get pissed at her she gives me a huge guilt trip that "im all she has in this world" and for being rich Im not snobby and I have a big heart so I forgive her. Ive even forgivin her for trying to hook up with my boyfriend (who Ive been with for a while) and my boyfriend hates coming over when shes here.
What should I do ?
2007-09-03 16:50:36 · update #1
How do I handle this?
Should I talk to her?
Should I talk to our adoption agency?
Ugh.
2007-09-03 16:51:26 · update #2
What is your question?
2007-09-03 16:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's the problem? You are best friends AND sisters; that is great.
And if you are in different economic brackets, you can learn from each other's families. Just because your family has a lot more money than hers is not automatically an advantage, except for buying stuff. Sometimes poorer families have an advantage in love, relationships, work ethic, ability to take care of themselves. Anyway, she can learn from the strengths and weaknesses of your family, and you can learn from hers. Don't focus on money or class difference, focus on your sister-friend.
Okay, the problems you describe can happen between any two friends. You should talk to her about them. Let her know that if she wants to spend very much time with you, she should treat you the way she wants you to treat her. You are not "all she hes;" she has her own family. Since you probably do want to keep in contact with her, talk to her parents too. Maybe they will help solve some of the problems.
But if she is too unpleasant, just don't see her too often. You don't have an obligation to be her best friend.
2007-09-03 23:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is manipulating you and trying to guilt you into and out of all sorts of things.
A lot of passive-aggressive stuff. Poor economics does not excuse poor behavior. You need to tell her that playing the victim does not play here.
You need to make a stand. When you spell things out for her, calling her out on her boorish behavior, and telling her that you will no longer put up with the behavior or cleaning up after her. She needs to respect your house and your property to be able to hang around. You need to also be ready to back yourself up.
Be ready to subtract yourself from her company, or severely limit your contact with her. Perhaps just going over to her house or meeting at a mall or something like that. Or at least keeping her visits to your house short (you have something important to do that you can't get out of) and keep them on the back porch.
2007-09-04 00:18:47 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mm...
first you dont need to talk to your adoption agency. thats last option. ok?
and yea you should talk to her.
you have to tell her about your feeling.
i like this, i dont like this, i want you to change this... etc. etc.
and you said shes poor. you better help her. gas is nothing for you right? relationship is first concern. if she does too much you can think about it later. you are lucky girl. dont forget.
talk to her with soft voice. slowly, kindly.... be careful. you have to think very well before talk.
if she doesnt change her behavior you talk to your parents first and last option is gonna be your agency.
do your best.
your parents gonna help you too right?
2007-09-04 00:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by askawow 47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋