I'm 25 yrs old,I have lived with my mom all my life. I am attending school and I have been in a relationship for a year with someone I really love alot. He has asked me to move in with him,once my lease is up here. I would really love to move in with him,but the problem is my mother who feels I won't be able to take care of myself. She will be against it,I am the youngest of my siblings and the last to leave home. I don't know how to bring this up to her,I have tried so many times and before I can get out the whole scenerio she shoots it down by saying I could never survive on my own. The thing is,I'm grown,I will move out,I don't want to live under moms roof forever.But I don't know how to bring this up to her and work it out with her,so that she and I don't have bad blood. I'm very eager to get my life rolling in the right direction,I would like to keep this relationship going as well,and moving foward. Please mature answers only,I really need the adivce.
2007-09-03 16:56:28 · 3 answers · asked by Himynameis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, you have to move on and your mom has to get over it.
I do not suggest moving in with a boyfriend. That is selling yourself short. You will wind up giving him sex, doing all the household chores, paying half the bills, and taking most of the risks of sex... and he will have absolutely no impetus to go ahead and marry you because you are already giving him the full benefits of a wife without the commitment.
On top of that, living together as a couple for "X-amount of time" makes you common-law married in most states. You can be saddled with his debts. If he dies, you don't have the ability to collect the life insurance, and if he is on life support, you don't have the ability to pull the plug... yet they can hold you responsible for all the hospital bills. So there you have all the risks and none of the benefits.
Yes, move out on your own, but don't move in with your boyfriend without at least an engagement ring and a set wedding date.
2007-09-03 17:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother what you told us, then grab your things and move on with your life. She will come to accept and understand. She doesn't want to be alone and she's become dependent on you for companionship. Right now your relationship with her is not healthy.
2007-09-03 17:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell her, let her cry and then you move. After a while she may like the peace and quiet.
2007-09-03 17:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋