How can I get my mom to quit drinking for good?

Question

ok. my mom has been drinking all my life. She works eleven-twelve hours a day. So i could understand maybe having ONE beer. She gets home at about 4 pm, and she automatically starts. She never wants to drive me and my sister anywhere, and my dad is the only one who does any of that kind of stuff. The only time we really get to see her is when she is drunk. She is emotionally hurtfull, and she really needs help.
Is there anyway that I can get her sober? Oh and she smokes too :(

Answer 1

Sadly, I don't think you have very many options. Maybe if you, your father and your sister confront her about about she might see what effect it has on the family and be willing to seek help. But speaking from personal experience, it is very hard to make someone stop drinking if they really don't want to. If she truly has a problem then it take a lot of will power and self control to stop. She has to want to stop, just as much as you want her to. Sorry I couldn't help, good luck and God bless.

Answer 2

You cannot change her or her behavior. You can only change your reactions to her.

Don't expect her to drive you or your sister anywhere, or keep any promise she makes, and you won't be disappointed when she doesn't do what she said she would. Let her know that you cannot rely on her because of her drinking. Don't be afraid to call her on her drinking, but don't make your life revolve around her drinking. If I were you, I would be gone every day by 4pm so I didn't have to be around her and deal with her. My father was very abusive emotionally, verbally and mentally, and by high school I figured out that if I was never home, or avoided him when I was by staying in my room reading, he couldn't find things to ground me for except not coming home on time. He had the nerve to tell me when I was 15 that I was becoming very anti-social. Well, duh!! Now, like I said, he wasn't an alcoholic, but be it alcohol, drugs, or abuse, it affects you the same.

I know it hurts to watch her kill herself with this, but all you can do is keep reminding her of the things alcohol is taking from her and then be there in a supportive manner if she decides to get help.

You can tell her my story and let her know that I left his home at 16 and it is now 19 years later and we still have no relationship and he is still the same. He has missed out on having a family and I am sure he gets lonely but he brought it on himself. Ask her if she thinks a bottle is going to stand at her grave and cry when she dies.

My husband was 17 when his father was murdered in an alcohol-fueled argument over a woman (not his wife) and $40.00. His childhood friend killed him with a deer rifle in front of a bar full of people. My husband is 41 and still suffering because of it. Alcohol is ugly and brings nothing good to people's lives at all.

Answer 3

You can't make her get sober. Only she can do that. If she does want to, you might be able to help.
Of course if she works 11-12 hours a day, she wouldn't have much time to drive you around. I've worked like that, and it's really tiring.
I recommend finding an Alateen group you could go to, because having a drunk parent can really affect you.
And talk to your dad about it.

Answer 4

No. Your mom has to want to quit on her own. Sometimes it takes until the person hits rock bottom before they want to quit or seeks the help . There is help for the family of an alcoholic though. I would suggest seeking help for yourselves. This is something that unfortunately affects the whole family. Good luck.

Answer 5

First, I am sorry that you live with someone who is an alcoholic. That's rough and sometimes scary. In order for your mom to get help, she has to want to help herself. Check with a local behavioral health agency and see what programs they offer or check with your local AA (Alcoholics Anon.). Even if your mom doesn't go to the meetings, you can go, your dad and your sis can go and talk to others who are in your same situation. Once their, you can maybe find ways to help your mom and you and your family can learn to understand the disease and how it affects families. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your mother is an alcoholic, and until she wants to quit, she won't. You can have her admitted to a treatment program, but that won't do any good until she makes up her mind to quit. I would suggest that you go to alnon or alteen, to learn how to deal with this problem your mother has. This is a decease that affects the whole family.

Answer 7

Did your mom have anyone close to her like best friend or auntie

Talk to them and ask for help

She may keep a deep hurt secret with her deep inside

Or you & your sister can show more love to her

Hug & kiss her or maybe bring her sleep wth you

Love can overcome everything in this world :)

Answer 8

first of all, its hard....so you'll need for there to be all the family support you can find for your mother. one of the biggest issues is that there won't be much to do to change her unless SHE is ready to change for herself. Alcoholics have a hard time understanding that they hurt people around them....if you do find help for your mother by as helpful as possible and let her know that you care about her, remember: what she says when she's drunk shouldn't be taken in to seriously. If she is willing to get help put her in rehab.

Answer 9

She works 11 and 12 hours a day...damn no wonder she drinks.but when does she have time? Ask a real question...damn hate the fake chit,,,come on ppl wake up and smell the "feel sorry for me because I didn't get an IPOD".

Answer 10

Tell her how you feel when you see her drunk or when she can't drive you anywere because she's was drinking. Is she in good health? Let her know that you love her and she should try to quit drinking AND smoking for your sake and your dad's sake.