She married a man we are not fond of and although not much was said everyone knew how we felt. This man has been disrespectful and rude to us from very early on although seldom when our daughter is present. Our daughter and her sister were very close to us, as we owned for many years a lake home where we all went nearly every weekend and entire summers as a family for many years. Our daughters did not lack for anything including love. They were disciplined. She was an excellent student and earned a Masters degree. She had aimed at becoming a doctor but her first daughter slowed that process and the second child ended that dream. Her husband has a Bachelor's degree but has not had steady employment since their marriage. Her first child loves her grandmother dearly but now cannot see us. Our daughter has even referred to us as "ignorant and arrogant." All our friends who know her and us cannot believe this has happened. We believe her husband is behind this. Any suggestions?
2007-09-03 16:04:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This husband is showing signs of being abusive. Isolating her from her family is one clue. Abusers do that so they can abuse without interference.
Also his not working is a sign he is using her so he wont have to work. You cant do anything about it until she realizes he is not for her but against her and you telling her that will cause her to defend him. So all you can do is learn to live your lives without her and pray she sees him for what he is.
2007-09-03 16:12:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't take it if I was you. I'm a grandmother and a mother of 2 daughters, as well. I would have to march right over to her house and confront her. You might get thrown out, but at least you know you tried. Tell your daughter that you love her and the kids and you'll never stop loving any of them. There is nothing you can do legally, but you sure can try everything you can think of that is legal.
2007-09-03 17:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop assuming that her husband is "behind this".
As long as your daughter is behind her husband -
you will not be able to reach her.
With you in the picture she knows that she is caught in the middle. Between you and her husband.
To stay out of the middle she cut off one of the "ends". That would be you.
Reconcile with the son-in-law.
Sorry - as a formerly abused wife - I don't see the indicators of wife abuse here.
2007-09-03 16:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot force your daughter to have any kind of relationship with you, but in some states grandparents have rights, including visitation. Check with an attorney, good luck!
2007-09-03 16:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cecil n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call that trimming the branches off of his tree so they don't fall onto the fence. Also, if he cuts back one part of the tree, that allows the tree to use that saved energy to produce more fruit on the remainder of the tree, so he would get more an better quality plums on the part he can reach. It also says that it is time for you to get your own plum tree and quit mooching of your neighbor without asking. (Tell your wife howdy.)
2016-05-20 23:07:09 · answer #5 · answered by berniece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hope like hell that one day she realizes what a jerk of a husband she has and leaves his ***. It's not like he works to support his family.
2007-09-03 16:24:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter....who's stopping U?
2007-09-04 01:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋